In 2006, Sun Li was not a popular mother, she participated in the TV series "Jade Guanyin", and she was in the initial stage of her acting career. In the crew, she accidentally saw a documentary called "Hope in the Mountains".
This documentary tells the story of Xiang Haiqing, a poor boy in the mountains, which deeply touched Sun Li.
Sun Li's own family background is not good when she is a teenager, her parents are divorced, and she depends on her mother for her life, and her life is poor. She knows that it is not easy to go to school, and she has also experienced the value of dreams. Seeing that Xiang Haiqing wanted to study so much on TV but was powerless to change her fate, Sun Li was full of sympathy, and she took the initiative to contact the program team, wanting to give this poor child a little help.
After the coordination of the program team, Sun Li decided to send 500 yuan per month to Xiang Haiqing in the name of her mother to help him complete his studies. And will also send some medicines to help Xiang Haiqing's sick mother treat. Sun Li didn't tell Xiang Haiqing her true identity, she just wanted to simply give help and encouragement.
At first, Xiang Haiqing was very grateful to Sun Li for her kindness and wrote her a thank you letter on a monthly basis.
With Sun Li's funding for 3 years, Xiang Haiqing failed the college entrance examination. He was very annoyed and wrote a letter to Sun Li, expressing his apology and sadness. Sun Li can deeply understand Xiang Haiqing's feelings, because she has also experienced the pain of failure.
Sun Li wrote back to Xiang Haiqing, full of encouragement and support. She told Xiang Haiqing not to be discouraged, there is still a long way to go in life, and as long as you work hard, you will reap the rewards. Sun Li said that she would continue to sponsor Xiang Haiqing to prepare for the college entrance examination again, hoping that he would not give up, but continue to work hard to realize his dream.
Xiang Haiqing, who was encouraged by Sun Li, rekindled his confidence in the future. He prepared for a whole year, and finally performed well in the college entrance examination and was admitted to a university in Shanghai. The news quickly spread throughout the village, and Xiang Haiqing's parents held a celebratory banquet.
Xiang Haiqing's heart was full of joy and expectation, and he could finally take the first step in his life and go out of the mountains to be admitted to university.
Sun Li heard that Xiang Haiqing got his wish and became a college student, and she was sincerely happy for him. Unexpectedly, his small act of kindness really changed the fate of a child, which was a great encouragement to Sun Li.
After going to college, Xiang Haiqing gradually became vain. He often bragged about his relationship with celebrities to his classmates, and after joining the student union, he also displayed a sense of superiority at every turn. Xiang Haiqing has become more generous than before, and the living expenses of 500 yuan are not enough for him to squander, and the monthly mobile phone bill costs 90 yuan.
Xiang Haiqing often called Sun Li to say that the money was not enough, and hoped that she could increase her capital. He can always find all kinds of seemingly legitimate reasons, such as the cost of vaccination, or the high cost of communication as a class president to contact his classmates.
Xiang Haiqing's mentality changed, thinking that he could ask Sun Li for money infinitely.
Seeing that Xiang Haiqing had changed, his grandmother learned that he had been living a wasteful life recently, and his vanity was particularly strong. She realized that Xiang Haiqing was no longer the simple and humble child she had at the beginning, so after discussing with Sun Li, she decided to stop funding him.
Xiang Haiqing didn't expect to lose funding suddenly, he was angry and helpless. Because he has become accustomed to a life of luxury and profligacy, he suddenly has to control his own expenses, and Xiang Haiqing feels unaccustomed and painful. This became one of the reasons why he later wrote critical articles.
When Xiang Haiqing learned that his grandmother had decided to stop funding, the anger in his heart reached the extreme. Xiang Haiqing decided to write an article to vent his dissatisfaction in the past few years. He spent 6,000 words criticizing Sun Li's mother and daughter, and the article told about his grandmother's various inconsideracies and criticisms over the years, as well as his own experience of being wronged everywhere.
Xiang Haiqing mentioned in the article that the 500 yuan of living expenses given by Sun Li was not enough to spend, and he had to live a very poor life. He said that his grandmother's words often meant insulting him, and that after receiving the funding, he had been in a passive position and was under great mental pressure.
After writing this complaining article, Xiang Haiqing sent it to Qiu Chaoju, the producer who participated in the filming of the documentary. He was very careful not to make the article public, because he was simply confiding in him and did not want to attract the attention of public opinion.
However, Xiang Haiqing underestimated the explosiveness of the article, and Qiu Chaoju did not abide by the confidentiality promise, but directly posted the article on the Internet. Although the real name of the person concerned was hidden, the authenticity of the story attracted a large number of heated discussions among netizens, and OCOMPLETE became the headline news in the entertainment industry in a short period of time.
All kinds of voices flew in the field of public opinion, some criticized Xiang Haiqing for being ungrateful, and some sympathized with his difficult situation. There is also speculation about the true identity of the funders. The article spread quickly on the Internet, and Sun Li also faced such a big Internet storm for the first time.
Xiang Haiqing's article sparked a strong response on the Internet, and various discussions were made. Public opinion is divided on the positions of funders and recipients, and attacks each other. Xiang Haiqing suddenly became the target of public criticism, and many people couldn't get used to what he did, so they stood on Sun Li's side.
In the face of waves of verbal criticism on the Internet, Xiang Haiqing was under tremendous pressure. His life has changed a lot because of the loss of funding, and now public opinion has also adopted a negative attitude towards him, which makes Xiang Haiqing feel physically and mentally exhausted.
In this case, Xiang Haiqing chose to apply for a one-year leave of absence, temporarily away from school and online criticism. He needs time to adapt to his new life without Sun Li's sponsorship, and he also needs to heal the psychological trauma after being attacked by netizens.
After a year of recuperation, Xiang Haiqing returned to campus to continue his studies. Although there are still people on the Internet who mention this past incident and criticize him, Xiang Haiqing tried his best to avoid the voice of the Internet and concentrated on studying.
In the end, Xiang Haiqing completed his university studies with hard perseverance, but he did not choose to stay in Shanghai to develop, but returned to the small city of his hometown and lived a very low-key life.
Xiang Haiqing finally embarked on a path that ran counter to his benefactor. At first, he was just an ordinary boy who dreamed of getting ahead, and having the opportunity to go to college was an important step in changing his destiny. But after accepting Sun Li's help, Xiang Haiqing did not grasp it well, but was led astray by the external environment.
After Xiang Haiqing lost his financial support, he could have regained control by working on his own and solving the problem of tuition fees by working part-time or applying for student loans. But he emotionally wrote critical articles and broke with his benefactor. This became a turning point in Xiang Haiqing's life.
Maybe Xiang Haiqing didn't understand Sun Li's kindness at the beginning, and he didn't see that she actually just wanted to simply lend a hand. After Xiang Haiqing received help, he deviated from his original intention and became vain and loved vanity. He owes his grandmother an apology, because he can obviously complete his studies and change his life through his own efforts.
This reminds us that we must not think utilitarianly when accepting the kindness of others. Xiang Haiqing mistakenly thinks that he can take it infinitely, but he has no gratitude. In fact, Sun Li's small act of kindness could have changed the fate of a child, but Xiang Haiqing still failed to grasp it in the end.
The road of life is winding and undulating, and Xiang Haiqing's encounter has revealed to us that we are destined to encounter many hardships in the process of growing up, and we still have to keep ourselves, do not lose our original intentions, and always keep our gratitude in order to go further.
The story of Xiang Haiqing and Sun Li reflects a universal social problem. On the road to growth, we all encounter difficulties and need to rely on the hands of others. At this time, if you can know how to be grateful, you can draw strength and move on.
However, once there is a change in mentality, deviating from the original intention, it will only lead to failure in the end. Xiang Haiqing could have relied on his own efforts to become a self-reliant person, but he lost himself and his benefactor.
Life is the same as cultivation, no matter how difficult the environment is, you can't lose yourself. Xiang Haiqing's experience reminds us that when accepting the kindness of others, we must not forget our own true heart. We must be grateful and remember our original intentions in order to complete our growth in this cultivation.
Xiang Haiqing's story inspires us to think deeply about not repeating his mistakes. At the same time, it is also a reminder to maintain an independent attitude towards life. On the road of cultivation, only when the heart is strong can we not lose ourselves.
This is a valuable lesson that we have learned from this past.