People who feel lucky tend to be more extroverted, sensitive to the outside world, and willing to touch new things.
And the more people think they are unlucky, the more likely they are to be nervous and anxious, and let the opportunities in front of them slip away.
Is luck random?
In people's common sense, luck is invisible, intangible, and uncontrollable, but perhaps not.
Wiseman, an American psychologist, once conducted an experiment in which he recruited 400 people who thought they were particularly lucky and those who were particularly bad and asked them to go to a designated place to buy coffee.
And two levels are set up, one is to place some money on the way, and the other is to arrange for a merchant to sit in a coffee shop.
The results are interesting:
Those who were lucky enough to pick up the money and had a pleasant conversation with the merchant while waiting for coffee.
Most of the people who think they are unlucky don't pick up the money and don't want to talk to anyone.
Wiseman uses experiments to show us that luck has a lot to do with self-awareness.
People who feel lucky tend to be more extroverted, sensitive to the outside world, and willing to touch new things.
And the more people think they are unlucky, the more likely they are to be nervous and anxious, and let the opportunities in front of them slip away.
Experiments also well validate the law of attraction in psychology:
The human mind is always attracted to the reality that is consistent with it, that is, the real "wish comes true".
So luck can actually be "beckoned", and if you want to attract good luck, you have to change your behavior and consciousness.
Here are 10 lucky rules to make you lucky.
01
Give yourself the frequencing
The adult world is surrounded by busyness.
Think about how long it's been since you've had a good rest and relaxation.
The spirit is in a tense state for a long time, it is easy to be anxious and sad, and good luck naturally slips away.
Research from Columbia University has found that being close to nature can change one's energy field and increase good luck.
For example, basking in the sun, hugging big trees, stepping on the ground, smelling the flowers, and listening to the sound of insects.
Take a turn in a place where there are mountains and rivers, stand quietly between heaven and earth, and stretch your body and mind in nature.
These methods can effectively improve the depressed mood and make people feel happy and calm.
Adjust the frequency appropriately for yourself, slow down, and be calm, and good luck will naturally favor.
02
Positive psychological cues
As the saying goes: "Phases are born from the heart, and the environment is created by the heart." ”
Positive self-suggestion, more and more good things will happen.
"Power" tells the story of a woman who is unhappy in her marriage, who is abused by her husband and lives an embarrassing life.
After years of painful struggle, she decided to end her marriage and raise her children alone.
But instead of complaining about fate, she is full of expectations for her future life, sketches the image of her ideal husband, and dreams of traveling to Europe.
Later, she really applied for a passport and met her ideal husband in Europe and lived happily ever after.
The psychological effects include attribution style and self-efficacy.
Optimistic and positive people tend to give themselves positive psychological cues and will take the initiative to take action.
A strong sense of self-efficacy can stimulate people's inner energy and guide you step by step to reach your expectations.
03
Exposure to high-energy people
Everyone has an energy magnetic field, and the level of energy will directly affect luck.
People with high energy levels have a positive and strong magnetic field, and they will also drive the fortunes of those around them to follow upward.
Being close to such a person will have a blessing effect on you, and you will obviously feel comfortable and nourished.
When the writer Shi Tiesheng first sat in a wheelchair, he was depressed all day long, and became irritable and withdrawn.
Sports have always been his dream, but his family doesn't even dare to mention words like "running and jumping".
Friend Yu Hua and others were stunned to carry Shi Tiesheng onto the train and take him on a trip.
During the break, they also played football together and let Shi Tiesheng be the goalkeeper.
After the publication of Me and the Altar of Earth, Shi Tiesheng wrote:
"At the end of 21, my legs completely betrayed me, I didn't die, it was all thanks to friendship. ”
Take the initiative to connect with high-energy people, and you will find that life becomes a better place.
04
Act now without delay
Recently, a former colleague came to me to complain:
After graduating for 5 years, I am unmarried and unemployed, and I feel that my life has fallen into a whirlpool of constant "falling".
After careful inquiry, I found out that although she wanted to get married, she still lay at home and watched dramas every day.
A friend introduced her to a blind date, but she couldn't raise her interest in meeting her, and refused to socialize.
I always wanted to change careers to study law, but I signed up for a class and said that I couldn't get in.
She complained about her bad luck, but she envied her classmates for living an ideal life.
Bad luck is often accompanied by anxiety, and the source of anxiety is laziness.
The host Fang Qi once said:
"Life is not a point, it is a long line, and only action can get rid of anxiety. ”
Good luck is reserved only for those who take the initiative, and only by quitting procrastination can you enjoy life.
05
Do not forcibly intervene in the cause and effect of others
Since ancient times, there is an old saying in Xinglin and Daomen, called "doctors do not knock on the door, and the Tao does not pass lightly".
No matter how clever a doctor is, he can't take the initiative to treat a sick person, and he doesn't have to force a preach to someone who has no intention of preaching.
Respect cause and effect, and do not forcibly interfere with others, and you can avoid bearing the consequences yourself.
In psychology, this is called "subject separation." ”
Establish a clear sense of boundaries, do not interfere with other people's choices, and do not carry the fate of others.
Otherwise, people will influence each other, and the subtle entanglement of cause and effect will damage their good luck.
As the saying goes, "Be nosy." ”
Let go of the things you shouldn't worry about, don't talk about it, don't get into trouble, and don't worry about bad luck.
06
Reduce negative mantras
Wooden, known as the "greatest basketball coach of all time", has led the team to 10 championship titles in 12 years, with a winning rate of more than 80%.
When asked by a reporter how he did it, Wooden's answer was incredulous:
"Every day before I go to bed, I tell myself that today I am doing very well and tomorrow I will be better. ”
A seemingly simple sentence, Wooden persevered for twenty years.
Psychologist Murphy once said:
"Everyone is his own prophet. ”
A seemingly casual phrase, once it becomes a mantra, can have a great impact on life.
Say less "really unlucky" and more "I can do it", and life will be extremely good and lucky.
07
Take care of your physique
As the saying goes, "If you are prosperous, you will be prosperous." ”
The better a person's physical condition, the more radiant their face will be, and luck will come naturally.
In other words, when good luck comes, you must have the ability to catch it, otherwise the person will fall and there will be nothing.
Good eating habits and regular work and rest can make the body more and more energetic.
Strengthening physical exercise can improve thin physique, improve immunity, and delay aging.
It can also make people more confident and optimistic, starting a positive cycle, which can lead to more opportunities.
There is a saying that is quite true:
"Health is not about living a long life, it's about making people happy. ”
Therefore, to change your luck, start by taking care of your body.
08
Organize your home
Since ancient times, Chinese tradition has attached great importance to the home environment to promote people's good fortune.
The so-called "good feng shui" can bring good luck to people, and such a room is called an auspicious place.
There is a popular saying among the people: "A dilapidated home does not gather wealth." ”
In Guangdong, there is a custom of "washing sloppy" during the Chinese New Year, removing dust, removing the old, and removing bad luck.
A person's living environment will affect his spirit and improve the aura of the human body.
Regularly tidy up your home, adjust the layout, and transform your feng shui.
Make your home warm, tidy and clean, and good luck will be inexhaustible.
09
Be kind to others
Yuan Huang, a thinker of the Ming Dynasty, said in "The Recipe for Accumulating Goodness":
"People are good, although blessings have not come, disasters have been far away;
Man is evil, although the disaster has not come, the blessing has been far away. ”
Accumulating virtue and doing good deeds is also a kind of practice, and at the same time, it will also attract good luck.
I saw a video the other day of a rich man who got stuck in his throat while eating.
Seeing this, the poor child selling a tie next to him immediately stepped forward to help with first aid and take the rich man back from the hands of death.
The rich man was so moved that he not only paid a high price for the child's tie, but also helped him open a shop.
Therefore, people often say that kindness can turn evil into good fortune and bless oneself.
Don't be a good person, be a kind person, and good luck will follow.
10
Contentment
"If there is a solution to the problem, there is no need to worry;
If you can't solve it, it's useless to worry. ”
This sentence was written in Khenpo Xi'a Rongbo's spiritual essay "The Blooming of the First Flower", which was very touching.
The reason why we have internal friction is often that our expectations are too high, and the reality is too cruel, which puts us in a dilemma.
However, you will find that things do not improve in any way because we are anxious and complaining.
Striving for causes, following fate, and being content and happy are the wisest ways to live.
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In the Four Precepts of Lifan, it says:
"Life is made by me, blessing is born from the heart, seeking merit from within, and fame from outside. ”
What can really change your luck is your own thoughts and behaviors.
If we want wealth, fame, and happiness, then we should cultivate the mentality, thoughts, morals, and abilities that match them.
The greatest practice in life is to know oneself and change oneself.
May everyone reap the good fortune and live the happiest life in a chaotic world.