Before the Spring Festival, I originally planned not to go home for the Chinese New Year. It's been a tiring year. Property prices have shrunk, stocks have lost money, wages are beyond their means, they haven't saved any money, and they're not in the mood to go home for the New Year. I want to take a break in the past few days of the holiday and take a comprehensive review.
After hesitating for a day or two, I decided to go back to my hometown for the New Year. First, I don't usually have much time to go back to my hometown. Second, if you don't go back to your hometown, your mood won't be too good.
In the past few days, I have met a lot of relatives and friends, and we have talked a lot. I asked everyone about their current situation and listened to their stories, and my heart healed a lot. Sometimes I feel that I am tired and miserable. That's because there is no side-by-side comparison. In fact, most people's lives are not easy. A lot of people are actually struggling on the edge of survival. The difficulties we go through are sometimes not worth mentioning in front of some people.
1. Uncle: See one side and less side
My uncle suffered from pulmonary fibrosis a few years ago, and this disease requires imported medication. Imported drugs are not covered by the reimbursement list and can only be purchased at their own expense. For a farmer, this is a sky-high expense. Later, my uncle stopped taking the medicine because he couldn't afford it. Without taking this imported medicine, the disease of pulmonary fibrosis is really painful for patients. Uncle often feels out of breath, and when he moves, he feels chest tightness and shortness of breath. On the first day of the Lunar New Year, we went to my uncle's house to visit relatives. My fourth uncle has not been home for the New Year for several years, and he rushed back from the field during the Spring Festival this year. My uncle was very excited and said to my fourth uncle, if you see one side and one side, maybe you won't see each other next year. When he said this, everyone didn't know how to answer for a while. People in rural areas are seriously ill, and sometimes the whole family is helpless. I can only watch as the disease takes people away. My uncle's two daughters and one son are also not in good financial condition, and they cannot continue to provide him with imported medicines.
2. Second uncle: Two sons and one daughter can't be around
When the second aunt was young, she committed suicide by drinking pesticides because of family conflicts. According to my mother, when my second aunt died, my cousins and cousins were still young. Two of my cousins dropped out of junior high school to work in the Northeast. Later, they settled in the Northeast, and my cousin's family followed. My second uncle farms a little land at home, and during the New Year's holidays, he takes care of things in the temple in the village, and can earn a little incense money. My two cousins and cousins usually only come back once every few years. The second uncle was very angry about this, and sometimes he couldn't talk to them in front of him. The second uncle's temper is also very stubborn, and he doesn't go to them for the New Year. He himself has lived alone in his hometown for more than 30 years.
3. Third uncle: The three daughters have no sons, and the adopted son returned to his original family when he was in junior high school
The third uncle's family gave birth to three daughters and no sons. At that time, in order to be able to have someone to support his old age, he adopted a boy from a relative's house. Later, when this cousin was in junior high school, he returned to his biological parents. Now the three cousins of the third uncle's family are married, and there is no one in front of the door. The old couple is not in good health, and usually relies on the third uncle to do odd jobs with the construction team to earn some money, take medicine, and make a living.
4. Fourth uncle: I only stayed one day when I went home for the New Year
I have the best relationship with my fourth uncle, and I often lived at my grandmother's house when I was a child. The fourth uncle only became a family when he was 40 years old, and it was the fourth uncle who took me to play when I was a child. He was the fourth aunt he met when he was working in Luoyang. The husband of the fourth aunt fell into the water and drowned, leaving behind a son and a daughter. My fourth uncle and my fourth aunt are halfway husband and wife. Later, I gave birth to a son, my little cousin. The fourth uncle used to work in a motorcycle factory in a village near the fourth aunt. In the past few years, he has worked in an iron cabinet factory opened by Luoyang people in Xinjiang, and he comes back once a year. The fourth uncle originally wanted to come back for the New Year last year, but then he didn't come back, and the Spring Festival days were particularly unpleasant. Originally, this year, the fourth uncle wanted to come back alone. Later, the fourth aunt said that we should accompany you back to your hometown together. On Chinese New Year's Eve, the family drove back from Luoyang for more than three years. After eating at noon, everyone who should have been seen had been seen, and they rushed back overnight.
5. The third aunt was gone last year
My third aunt used to work as a housekeeper in Qingdao. Later, it was found to be a rare disease called cerebrovascular moyamoya disease. Had two or three surgeries and spent a lot of money. One day last summer, when I was taking a shower at home, I suddenly had a ruptured cerebral blood vessel and fell into a coma and was sent to the hospital without being rescued. At the age of 48, the person is gone. Left two sons and a daughter, the daughter is married, and the eldest son plays games at home all day, very autistic, and he is not willing to deal with others at the age when he should talk about marriage. Brought up the eldest son. The third uncle had a great headache. During the Spring Festival this year, I don't know what the third aunt feels like.
6. My uncle bought an unfinished building
The sister-in-law and her family also work as housekeepers in Qingdao. Before Qingdao housing prices take off. Originally, it was possible to buy a house in Qingdao. Due to the problem of concept, the problem of insight has not been bought. Later, I finally saved enough money to buy a house in the urban area of my hometown and build a two-story house in my rural hometown. As a result, the house in the urban area of my hometown has been unfinished for two or three years, and there has been no progress. The house in the rural hometown will be lived in when I come back for the New Year. Usually it is basically unmanaged.
7. Fa Xiao's younger brother owes a bunch of online loans for private loans
On the twenty-ninth day of the lunar month, he got together with Fa Xiao. Listening to the novel, his younger brother owes a lot of money because of a failed business. Some of them are borrowed from classmates and friends, and some are borrowed from major online loan platforms. In the end, I told him if I couldn't do it. His classmates' credit cards were all repaid by themselves first, and now they all come to him to ask for accounts. There are more than 400,000 online loan platforms, and the credit investigation has been blocked. When it comes to his younger brother, he also has a headache. He didn't talk about the object, and his parents were also very anxious.
8. My sister hasn't been back in New Zealand for several years
My sister went to college to study English. I used to work as an English teacher in an English training institution. Later apply for a work visa for the past Australia. I spent a few years in Australia before moving to New Zealand. I studied while working over there, and I studied an education major, saying that I could get permanent residence after graduation. The mask has been back once before and hasn't been back since. She was alone over there, and her parents were always worried about her personal problems. I talked about it in the middle, and the two objects broke up again. Later, my mother said a few words to her, and she stopped calling home, and sometimes my mother didn't answer her videos. To be honest, our rural family is not very helpful for the growth and progress of our children. Our children all go their separate ways, everywhere. My sister, as a girl, is alone in a foreign country. can also understand her mood of not going home for several years during the Spring Festival. The grievances she suffered, only she knows, and no matter how much others say, she can help.
In fact, when I go home for the Chinese New Year every year, I can experience the joy of reunion, but more often than not, I feel a heavy heart. The East Henan Plain, where my hometown is rural, is an area dominated by agriculture. There is no industry in my hometown, and most of them make a living from farming. Farming can only sustain food and clothing, struggling on the edge of poverty. If you don't get out of college, most people just go out to work. Without a skill, you can only wander around, settle with what you encounter, and be very unstable.
In the past few years, everyone's life has become more and more difficult, and every family has a scripture that is difficult to read. Many people, like me, don't want to come back for the New Year. But if I don't come back for the New Year, my heart will be empty again. Now, for adults, the Chinese New Year is more like getting things done. New Year's Pass, such as passing. Most of them are adrift, leaving their homes to fill their stomachs. My hometown has become a post station, and I only come back for a few days during the New Year's holiday. After that, I had to leave in a hurry and embark on a new journey.
If you compare it longitudinally, your quality of life has improved. However, the overall feeling is still struggling with food and clothing. Reminds me of Eileen Chang's famous quote. Life is a gorgeous robe crawling with lice.
Fate is inherently full of uncertainties. Under the tide of the times, every individual is like a wave drifting with the tide. Most of the time, the fate of an individual cannot be grasped and controlled.
For thousands of years, there have been too many disasters and misfortunes in this yellow earth. However, people in every era are trying to live hard, and they have staged too many heartaches and tears.
Compared with the hardships and sufferings of many people, what is the difficulty I have encountered? Even if the assets are reduced to zero, at least the family is still healthy, with food, drink, and a stable job. Who are we to be hypocritical?
Outside of life and death, they are all bruises. As long as the spirit does not collapse, there is no obstacle that cannot be overcome, and there is no difficulty that cannot be overcome.
The year is almost over. After the holiday, everyone has to go their separate ways again. Regardless of today, the sun will rise tomorrow.
In 2024, I hope everyone can live a little easier.