Gu Ailing's outstanding performance at the Beijing Winter Olympics has become the focus of attention. She won gold in the women's slopestyle and women's halfpipe skating, showing amazing talent and perseverance. What's even more remarkable is that Gu Ailing not only has outstanding ability in sports, but she was also accepted into Stanford University, which has the opportunity to study at a world-class university.
An 18-year-old girl who has achieved such outstanding achievements in sports and academics can be called an outstanding representative of the all-rounder of the new era. Every parent dreams of having an outstanding daughter like Gu Ailing, and her success has inspired countless young people to have the courage to pursue their dreams and persevere in their efforts.
Gu Ailing has become a successful model in today's society, and the positive energy she exudes has had a profound impact on the young people of this era.
Just when people were discussing Gu Ailing's brilliant achievements and outstanding talent, a mother's complaint about her daughter went viral on the Internet, causing widespread discussion among netizens. This mother is also a top student who graduated from Peking University, and she chatted with her daughter about Gu Ailing in the video, and couldn't help but sigh that her daughter is not as good as others at all.
Although her daughter is already a high school student, she was admitted to a top 985 college in her sophomore year of high school. But in the eyes of this mother, this is still an unsatisfactory result, for a mother who graduated from Peking University, if the child cannot be as excellent and talented in all aspects as Gu Ailing, it will be too much.
The mother firmly believes that since she can graduate from Peking University herself, as an alumnus of Peking University, it is necessary for her to be strict with her daughter, and she cannot easily express satisfaction and pride. She expects her daughter not only to excel in her studies, but also to achieve outstanding achievements in music, sports, etc., only in this way can she be worthy of the glory of being a top student of Peking University.
Therefore, although her daughter has been escorted to a top high school and can be said to be one of the best among many of her peers, her mother's grades are often criticized and she is always not perfect compared to others.
After listening to her mother's criticism and comparison, her daughter was full of grievances. She has been studying pragmatically since she was a child, and she has put in a lot of effort in both schoolwork and specialty training. She has achieved excellent results in junior high and high school, and she has also won good rankings in various competitions.
Even after entering the top high school, she still did not dare to slack off and insisted on independent study for more than 12 hours a day. The daughter thought that these efforts and performances would make her mother feel relieved and proud, but she didn't expect her mother to still look dissatisfied.
In her daughter's heart, she actually wants her mother's approval and encouragement, because it will be of great significance to her growth. But her mother's always strict attitude and excessive demands made her feel very lost and miserable. She didn't know where she wasn't doing well enough, why her mother just wasn't really satisfied.
At the same time, her mother often compares other people's children to her, which makes her feel stressed and gradually lose her motivation to study.
In fact, the daughter is very eager for her mother's understanding in her heart, and she also has her own difficulties and troubles. But the mother didn't care about her thoughts at all, just demanded it, which made her daughter feel very lonely on the road to growth. If her mother can talk with sincerity and give her enough respect, she will definitely become a better version of herself.
I hope that my mother will change her attitude of only looking at the results, really care about her feelings, and give her the support she needs to grow.
Through this dispute, it can be seen that there is a great difference in the philosophies of mothers and daughters on the issue of education.
The mother believes that if the child wants to be excellent, he must be strict from an early age and cannot easily express satisfaction. A mother who graduated from Peking University should cultivate an extraordinary next generation, which is her responsibility and honor. So in her opinion, her daughter's performance is far from enough, and she should reach an amazing height in terms of grades and specialties, which meets her standards.
However, in the daughter's view, the mother's request was out of touch with reality and did not realize how much pressure it would put on the child. She believes that she is already very good in all aspects, although she is not one of the best geniuses, but she also has a good learning attitude, and her grades in all subjects remain in the top 5%.
The daughter does not understand why her mother cannot praise her progress and efforts, but instead has to find fault and criticize endlessly.
The daughter longs for her mother to be able to put herself in her shoes. She has done her best, hoping that her mother will care about her feelings and not just focus on the results. It takes time and space to grow, and if there is only blame and no encouragement, she will gradually lose confidence.
The daughter hopes that her mother can understand that she is also working hard, she is not living to be an appendage to anyone, but needs to be treated as an independent individual.
The mother and daughter have more and more differences in the concept of education, which makes the daughter feel lost and painful on the road to growth. She longed for her mother to see things from her point of view, to give her the respect and care she deserved, rather than to achieve her ambitions through harshness and criticism.
This requires reflection and change by the mother in order for her daughter to grow up healthy and happy.
The mother-daughter divide over education eventually led to a bitter cold war. After the quarrel, the mother showed disappointment and dissatisfaction with her daughter and did not speak to her for many days. This made her daughter, who was still in her formative years, feel very helpless and sad.
Far from helping to solve the problem, the Cold War has created a rift in the relationship. The daughter expects her mother's understanding and encouragement, but in exchange for a cold silence. She was very dazed and painful in her heart, her mother should have been the strongest backing on her way to growth, but now the two are so estranged.
In this matter, the daughter felt a huge loneliness, she thought that she would at least get the support of her mother, but she did not expect that her mother's actions increased her mental pressure, which would undoubtedly have a negative impact on her future growth. A daughter needs her mother's care and encouragement, not overly harsh demands, otherwise her childhood will only leave painful memories.
We all want our children to grow up healthy and happy, so as parents, we need to always reflect on whether our actions are appropriate. The child is not a tool for the parents' ambitions, but an individual who needs to be respected and understood.
Only in this way can the child shine in a loving environment.
When the daughter posted the conversation with her mother online, it quickly sparked widespread discussion. Many netizens said that the girl was already very good, and going to a top high school was a great achievement, and the mother should not be too demanding. Each child has its own characteristics and growth path, and mothers should focus on their daughter's progress, rather than demanding a standard outcome.
Netizens pointed out that achievements and talents do not fully represent a person's value, and the process is more important than the result. This girl studies hard and has a good attitude, and she is already a very good child. The mother should not ask her on other people's terms, which will cause her a lot of pressure and affect her growth.
Some netizens also analyzed that there are problems with parents' education methods, and they should not simply be blamed on their children. Every child has their own interests and characteristics, and parents should teach them according to their aptitude, rather than forcing their children to fulfill their own ambitions.
Critic will make the girl lose interest in learning and become rebellious.
Of course, there are also a few netizens who think that parents have the right to ask for their children, but more people still say that Gu Ailing's success cannot be replicated, and this girl is also very good and should not be demanded. Everyone said that they should give her care and support, not endless criticism, so that she can grow up healthily.
This incident has led everyone to reflect on the correct educational philosophy that parents should have. Every child is a unique individual, and it takes time and space to grow. We need to nurture our children with love and respect, not with results as the only criterion.
This incident reflects that some parents have a certain deviation in their educational concepts and ignore their children's psychological endurance.
First, we need to recognize that each child has a unique personality and interests, and that they are all individuals and not tools of their parents' ambitions. Children have the right to pursue their dreams and not be forced to be a copy of the "template for success".
Second, growth is a long-term process that cannot be achieved overnight. We should replace criticism with encouragement, care about children's feelings, and let children be willing to learn is the key. Excessive requirements and standards can put a lot of pressure on children and produce rebellious feelings.
Furthermore, everyone's definition of success is different. Grades and awards don't tell the whole story, and the process is more important than the result. We want to help children find inner motivation rather than measuring a person's worth by conventional standards.
Finally, parents should take responsibility for education and reflect on whether their own approach is reasonable. Exam-oriented mechanical education can make children lose the joy of learning and lack creativity. More than the results, the child benefits.
Healthy education requires understanding and trust between parents and children. Only by establishing the right educational concept and allowing children to explore and understand themselves freely in a loving environment can they regain their passion for learning and eventually grow into independent thinking individuals.
This requires the joint attention and participation of every parent.
Every child has unique talents and possibilities, and it is the responsibility of parents to discover their children's interests and expertise, rather than holding others to their own standards. We need to look at our children's growth with a more inclusive, encouraging and understanding mindset, because everyone's starting point and experience is different.
When children strive to surpass themselves and gain a sense of inner fulfillment, that is the real success in life. Let's give them more trust and space in the process, and nurture the new generation with love and wisdom.