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This is the 3,339th real story we have told
I am Sister Ma @ Sister Ma's remarried RV sojourn, born in an ordinary family in Baoding, Hebei.
In 1998, my ex-husband passed away in a car accident, I took care of my in-laws while taking care of my parents-in-law while taking care of my baby, while doing business to support my family, and taking care of my in-laws.
On Chinese New Year's Eve in 2006, my son said to me, "Mom, I'm going to marry you off with my own hands." Hearing this, I feel that the child has grown up.
Later, through a friend's introduction, I met Brother Zhang. The first time we met, I knew that this was someone I had to entrust with my life.
In 2014, after I officially retired, I started a social e-commerce business, enriching myself and achieving financial freedom at the same time.
Four years ago, we who have retired started a caravan sojourn, living a small life of three meals for two people in a car, three meals and four seasons, looking for our poetry and distance in the year of sixtieth.
(I'm at the Shanghai World Trade Tower)
In 1964, I was born in an ordinary family in Baoding City, Hebei Province, which is an ancient city with a history of more than 2,000 years.
Since I was a child, I have been a good girl in the eyes of my elders, a good student who works hard in the eyes of my teachers, and everyone expects me to become famous in the college entrance examination room, but it backfired, and I failed the exam.
It just so happened that our local cotton mill recruited workers that year, and I was admitted as a graduate and became a state-owned enterprise employee that everyone envied.
Not long after entering the factory, I was introduced to my ex-husband, who was a college student and worked in the procuratorate.
We got married in early 1988 and our son was born the following year.
With a stable job, an excellent and capable husband, and a handsome and sensible son, if it weren't for that sudden car accident, I feel like I would be the darling of God.
(There is a lot of helplessness in life)
November 13, 1998 was a morning that I will never forget.
That day, not long after I went to work, I saw the procuratorate's car parked in front of my unit. A few of my ex-husband's colleagues got out of the car, and I saw that they all had solemn faces and sad expressions.
I felt a faint sense of uneasiness in my heart, and before I could speak, they told me that the night before, on the way back to Baoding in Beijing, because of heavy fog, my ex-husband's car got into a big car parked on the side of the road but did not have a warning sign, and my ex-husband died on the spot.
Next, I couldn't hear anything, my head was buzzing, I couldn't believe that a person who was fine yesterday was no longer there if he wasn't there.
said that the white head is old, why is it separated by yin and yang in an instant?
For a while, my mind went blank, and it wasn't until someone from the procuratorate reminded me that I needed to deal with my ex-husband's afterlife, and I came to my senses a little.
(always thinking of her husband)
I got into the prosecutor's car, endured my grief to settle down with my family and work, and hurriedly went to deal with my ex-husband's death.
When it was all over, I locked myself in my house, not wanting to say a word or see anyone.
Every day, I don't do anything except knit sweaters, sweaters, and hooked slippers. During that time, it seemed that I could only temporarily forget the pain of losing my ex-husband through the non-stop knitting work.
At that time, the word depression had not yet appeared in the public eye, and now that I think about it, my state at that time was depression, and the situation was still relatively serious, I couldn't get out, and I even thought about dying, just looking at my lovely son, I suddenly realized: I am not qualified to die at all.
My son is not yet ten years old, he has just lost his father, how can he lose his mother again? I want to be the heaven above my son's head.
I bothered to get out of the house and start to go back to my old life.
(I attend the event)
However, life cannot always be calm, it will always inadvertently send you a little wind and waves.
A year after the death of her ex-husband, her son fell ill again.
At that time, although my son was only 11 years old, he was already as tall as an adult. He said that his heart was uncomfortable, and I was so frightened that I hurriedly took him to the hospital for a check-up.
When the test results came out, the doctor said it was myocarditis. When I heard the words "myocarditis", my mood seemed to go back to more than a year ago, and I was so anxious when I heard that my ex-husband had a car accident.
What if not? With a hint of fantasy, I took my son on a 12 o'clock train in the middle of the night and rushed to Beijing Fuwai Hospital overnight. At that time, there was no high-speed rail from Baoding to Beijing, and the child had been vomiting in the car because of fever.
(Beijing Fuwai Hospital)
Fortunately, God still favored me, and the expert told me after seeing the child's symptoms that the disease is not serious, but the child's body is developing too fast, but the tissues around the heart are not fully developed, so it is necessary to let the child reduce the amount of exercise and recuperate. In this way, I listened to the doctor and gave the child a year off from school at home.
The son is very sensible, although he was not able to go to school, he insisted on studying at home, and his grades were still among the best as always.
As soon as my son was settled, my mother was paralyzed in bed due to a cerebral thrombosis.
Someone said: "When you reach middle age, when you open your eyes, you are surrounded by people who rely on you, and you have no one to rely on." "I was only in my 30s at the time, but I experienced the helplessness of middle age early.
There are 6 sisters in my family, but only 4 of them can take care of the elderly. So, the four of us discussed, and each took turns to take care of my mother for two months. When it was my turn, I had to hold my mother, who weighed more than 160 pounds, and my son turned over the old man and changed diapers with my son.
(I'm in Jianshui, Yunnan)
In just two or three years, I lost my husband and mother one after another, and I was so sad that I couldn't even cry.
As the saying goes: "Nine times out of ten, life is not satisfactory", since I am not the luckiest person, then be a person who works hard and hold up an umbrella for the people around me.
I took out my ex-husband's car accident compensation and opened a dairy factory with my five sisters, becoming the first dairy businessman. The busy life not only gave me a stable income, but also allowed me to gradually come out of the pain of losing my loved ones, grit my teeth and move on.
At that time, my mother-in-law was seriously ill in bed, and I went to my mother-in-law's house every day after work, fed my mother-in-law, helped my mother-in-law wash up, and then took the evening bus back to my house, and so on for most of the year, until my mother-in-law died.
Friends around me jokingly said that the ex-husband is no longer there, and taking the children back to see the grandparents during the New Year's holidays is even if it is benevolent and righteous, and you can be in the newspaper if you do your best for your ex-in-laws.
(Sister Ma is also Teacher Ma)
I never thought of being in the newspaper, and being filial to my in-laws before the bed is not only my commitment to them, but also my family's family style.
After my ex-husband left, I knelt beside the two old people and said to them with tears in my eyes that I would definitely give them a pension and send them to the end of my life.
Since childhood, my parents have taught us to "put filial piety first". After the death of our parents, the six of us sisters made an agreement: although our parents are gone, we will give this love to our parents-in-law and treat our parents-in-law as our biological parents.
People's hearts change hearts, for so many years, my ex-husband's family and I have long been like a family. In the years after my ex-husband's death, I basically provided the food and clothing of the two old people. Before her death, the child's grandmother said to the whole family: "You must find another good family for MCA!"
Remarriage is a topic that I can't avoid, I don't reject remarriage, but I don't want my children to be wronged.
On Chinese New Year's Eve in 2006, I invited my ex-husband's family to a Chinese New Year's Eve dinner as usual. After coming out of the hotel, my son said something to me: "Mom, I want to marry you off so that our family will be complete." ”
(Brother Zhang and I are in Xi'an)
Listening to my son's words, tears rolled in my eyes, and I nodded lightly, promising my son that I would let him watch his mother get married.
After a while, I was introduced by a friend to Brother Zhang, who was 7 years older than me and worked in the tax bureau. The first time I met Brother Zhang, I felt that he was a good man who was down-to-earth and reliable.
After the meeting, Brother Zhang invited me to sing, and the meaning was self-evident. But I have one condition, only if Brother Zhang agrees, I will continue to go down with him - I will always take care of my ex-husband's father until a hundred years later!
Many men will not agree to such an unreasonable condition, but Brother Zhang not only accepted it, but also took care of the old man as a father with me.
(Take the old people to visit Xibaipo)
On December 31, 2006, Brother Zhang and I got married.
Brother Zhang's mother has been living with Brother Zhang for more than 20 years, and after we got married, the old man still lived in my house for 13 years.
In our spare time, Brother Zhang and I will take my mother-in-law and my ex-husband's father to travel together to see the mountains and rivers of the motherland.
The year before last, my ex-husband's father was seriously ill, and we were in Xinjiang at the time, and when we heard the news, Brother Zhang drove for three days in a row, rushed back to Baoding as fast as possible, and took care of the old man with me for two months.
Brother Zhang's family has many brothers, and every Saturday and Sunday, I will call all the people of his family to the house, cook for them, and after the meal, everyone chats about family life and plays mahjong, and the family is happy.
Brother Zhang's brother-in-law said to me sincerely: "My sister-in-law is so good! Although our family was good before, after my sister-in-law came, it became more like a family." ”
This is the highest evaluation of me by Brother Zhang's family!
(Our home in Baoding)
After seeing my remarried life, many people think that I am lucky to have found such a good man as Brother Zhang. But I would like to say that luck does not fall from the sky, it is all the result of my own efforts.
In 2014, after I retired, under the leadership of my son, I began to get in touch with cross-border e-commerce.
At the beginning, the data on the website was not complete, so I carried two large notebooks with me, densely recording the efficacy, ingredients, price and profit of each order.
Later, my son asked me to help him find a dietitian certificate because of his work. At that time, the registration fee for dietitians was 1,000 yuan per month, which I thought was too expensive, so it was better to take one myself. Besides, I am also a salesman, and taking a certificate is also a boost to my business ability.
So, in my 50s, I picked up my books again and stayed up to 3 or 4 a.m. every day.
A few months later, I got the national second-level dietitian certificate, and at the age of knowing the destiny of heaven, I once again proved that people can only live up to the stars if they work hard.
(I'm studying, taking notes)
After that, my e-commerce business seemed to have started a hexagram, not only could I earn tens of thousands of dollars every month, but also had my own team.
In 2019, I came into contact with a new project, because of my previous experience in e-commerce, I quickly gained a firm foothold in the company, and also developed a team of 10,000 people, including a milk powder, and my team accounted for 8 of the top 10 sales in the company.
Years of e-commerce sales have not only made me stronger, but also helped more people realize their entrepreneurial dreams.
In my team, there is a deaf and mute person who could have received a subsistence allowance in the local area, but she doesn't want to live on other people's handouts. By chance, she knew about our company, recognized the company through her own use of products, became our agent, and with my help, earned the first pot of gold and lived a dignified and confident life.
(My graduation photo of Peking University seminar)
In April 2023, I was also recommended by the company to study in the "Future Leaders Seminar" of Peking University, fulfilling my dream of Peking University and comforting my parents who are far away in heaven.
Over the years, I have achieved financial freedom with my own efforts, but I still have a dream: to drive around China in an RV, and to have three meals for two people in a car with Brother Zhang, and this wish was finally realized after Brother Zhang retired.
In April 2020, by chance, we had our first RV.
In October of that year, Brother Zhang and I took my mother-in-law on a 162-day RV trip, and my mother-in-law spent her 92nd birthday in the car.
Although it was the epidemic at that time, it still did not stop our enthusiasm for RV sojourn, we took the map every day to find low-risk areas, and lived our favorite homeless life, which changed at any time, which surprised my mother-in-law.
In an RV camp, my mother-in-law sat in the car, humming briskly the songs of her youth, and even I was infected by her and unconsciously hummed to her rhythm.
(Me and our RV)
It's just that the space of this RV is a bit small, and my son knows my wish and gives me a second RV on my 59th birthday, which is the one we are driving now.
RV sojourn, in fact, is to live in the car, no different from at home, Brother Zhang and I are also like at home, I am responsible for cooking, laundry, Brother Zhang is responsible for adding water to the RV, electricity and other work, we perform their duties, the division of labor is clear.
Many people think that home should be a fixed residence, and how can an RV be home. But in my opinion, where there is Brother Zhang, there is my home, the RV is my home, and the Chinese family of more than 9.6 million square kilometers is our residence.
Everywhere we went, we would go to the local wet market to make big purchases, come back and cook a few hometown dishes, and enjoy the scenery while tasting the food.
The travelers in the RV camp, seeing our comfortable life, all said that we were fairy couples.
(Brother Zhang and I are in Antarctic Village)
In the past few years, I have made a small video of my life with Brother Zhang and posted it on social media, attracting a wave of onlookers from netizens.
Some netizens left me a message: Let me help her find a good husband like Brother Zhang......
In fact, the so-called fairy couple is to tolerate each other and grow old together.
Brother Zhang has gout, and there is never seafood on the table at my house, and I am a Hui, and since Brother Zhang and I got married, they only eat beef and mutton......
But the comments from netizens still gave me a flash of inspiration: now, there are many single middle-aged and elderly friends, and they all hope that they can have a lovely wife in their old age and can go through this life together.
So, I set up a national remarriage public welfare group on my account, and I also went to the Huanglongdong in Hangzhou to pray for blessings, hoping that everyone in the world can find their own happiness.
(Brother Zhang and I are in Xinjiang)
Looking back on the past 60 years, when I was young, I was versatile and had a happy family, but in middle age, I was single with a baby and had to take care of my in-laws, and people thought I was pitiful. But I don't want this kind of pity, I believe that with my efforts, I can still give my children a good life and let my in-laws be well taken care of.
Now, in the year of the sixtieth year, I have lived a life of "poetry and distance" with Brother Zhang, and I have become the envy of others, and people think that my life is simply perfect.
In fact, my life, just like ordinary you and me, is full of bitterness and joy, and I have only now been beautiful after tasting the ups and downs of life.
Everyone's life cannot be smooth sailing, but as long as we can face it calmly, we will taste the sweet taste in the long years of the rest of our lives.
I hope that all people in the world can "be happy every year, and win every year"!
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[Dictation: Sister Ma]
[Editor: Landing into a river]
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