Narrator: Zhao Li
Life is like a play, it is really unpredictable, no one can say what will happen tomorrow?!, once a high school first love classmate, he was admitted to the military school and cut off relations with me, and later I married a village secretary of the Youth League branch, after years of development, no one expected that the person who broke off the relationship with me transferred to the local government in 2006, but became my husband's subordinate.
My name is Zhao Li, I was born in 1965 in Sichuan in a half-worker, half-farmer family, said half-worker, half-farmer, mainly because my father participated in the 62-year Sino-Indian War, when he was the squad leader, because of the courage in battle, not afraid of death, led the class of soldiers to take the lead, bravely forward, excellent completion of the tasks assigned by the superiors, won the third-class meritorious service.
After my father was discharged from the army, he was arranged by the government to work as a worker in a fruit winery, and my mother was a farmer who could not read a few words, so my two younger brothers and one younger sister in the family were all rural residents.
The houses of each family in the hometown village are located in a narrow ditch, all are built according to the hillside, scattered and scattered, sitting north and facing south, there are twenty-five families in the whole village, lined up from east to west, there is a shallow ditch in front of the house, and because they are all surnamed Zhao, it is called Zhaojiagou, the easternmost house in the village is my home, first the earthen wall thatched house, in the early eighties when the family conditions were better, it was rebuilt into a brick house.
At that time, the countryside was still very poor, although my father earned a salary, the family's economic conditions were not very well-off; when I was a child, I also wore clothes that my mother could not wear, and my younger brother continued to wear clothes that I could not wear; although it was difficult, as long as my brother and sister and I were willing to study, my father and mother were still very supportive, because they all recognized a principle and firmly believed that knowledge could change fate.
When I was a child, my mother taught me to be self-reliant and self-reliant, especially girls, not to have the idea of dependence, otherwise I will be subject to others when I grow up, and I have no dignity, so I remember my mother's teachings, since I was a child, my self-care ability is relatively strong, when I was 5 years old, my mother went to the production team to earn work during the day, and I dared to take care of my younger brother at home alone.
I was able to cook for myself when I was 6 years old, but the first time I cooked, I remember that on the 15th day of August, my brother was arguing for glutinous rice, and my mother took out the glutinous rice and put it in the pot, and brought me a bundle of branches, telling me that after cooking it, the rice would be cooked.
Then I went to the back field to ask my mother to eat, after all, it was a child, but what I thought at the time was, add more firewood, let the fire be a little stronger, the rice should be cooked faster, so I should call my mother back for dinner earlier!
After a while, the branches given by my mother were burned, and I happily ran to call my mother home for dinner, but as soon as I opened the lid of the pot, there was a smell of paste, and I used a spoon to serve rice, and the top did not boil the pot, and the bottom of the pot was burned more than a centimeter thick, and I was so aggrieved that I cried, thinking that I had wasted food and delayed eating.
When my mother saw this, she immediately said, "Child, it's not your fault, it's because I didn't give you an explanation in order to earn more work, and you need to make glutinous rice while burning the fire while shoveling the bottom of the pot with a spoon, otherwise it will be easy to paste after sinking to the bottom, you are too young to be safe, and you can't do it."
Which era is not like now, my father is working in the field, and my mother is taking care of our 3 children in the countryside alone, inside and out, she is both a father and a mother, busy all day long, it is good to let us eat, and there is kung fu to manage our learning.
My brother finished three years of junior high school, and because he was not admitted to high school, he went home to farm, and I have been working hard in my studies since I was a child, and I was not admitted to the middle school after graduating from junior high school, and later went to the county No. 2 middle school to study in high school.
In the second year of high school, the school was divided into arts and sciences classes, I studied science, because I have a certain literary and artistic talent, cheerful and lively personality, what activities love Zhang Luo, plus popularity, I was elected by my classmates as the secretary of the Youth League branch in the class.
At that time, the class leader was Zhang Jiandong, he was 1.78 meters tall, with clear eyes and beautiful eyebrows, healthy and handsome, his face was always full of youthful smiles, and he always had a youthful expression when he saw female classmates, and he usually had little contact, before New Year's Day in 82, in class activities, after talking, he knew that he was still a neighbor to me.
He is the fourth child in the family, with two older brothers and a sister above, and a younger brother below him, his father and mother are authentic farmers, and his mother is not in good health, has asthma, due to the poverty of the family, the family of seven still lives in two thatched houses, and his eldest brother was in his 30s at that time and did not marry a wife.
Because I usually have some contacts in school class activities, and his family and I are neighboring villages, Zhang Jiandong and I are slowly familiar with each other, and go home together every Saturday, and when we return to school, we also make an appointment with the time and place in advance, and go to school together after meeting, so many students in the class joke that we are a natural pair, whenever I hear this, my face and his face are unconsciously reddened with shame, but the speaker has no intention, the listener has a heart, and only that, the relationship between each other is getting closer and closer, and gradually there is affection.
Time slipped quietly in a flash, the short 3-year high school life was over, due to the low rate of admission and the low quality of teaching in township high schools at that time, of course, the most important thing was that I didn't work hard enough, when I graduated from high school in 83, only one person in my class was admitted to university.
At that time, my father and mother wanted me to repeat my studies for another year, and he was not allowed to repeat his studies due to family difficulties, but he was unwilling to farm at home all his life facing the loess with his back to the sky, and he was very eager to change his fate.
After the college entrance examination, when I was setting up a dragon gate formation at home, I told my father and mother about Zhang Jiandong and me, intentionally or unintentionally, but they did not object, maybe they just acquiesced, and when I went home, I told my father and mother about the situation and thoughts of his family; my father said that with his experience as a soldier, he graduated from high school, and his family conditions were not good, so it was best to become a soldier, as long as he worked hard, he would definitely develop.
So I told Zhang Jiandong my father's opinion, and he was as excited as if he had grasped a life-saving straw, so he worked at home while waiting for the conscription notice, and I went back to school in September of that year.
But Zhang Jiandong didn't hear the news of the conscription at home until November, and I thought it was strange, so I told my father about it, hoping that he would help ask if he knew anything about the conscription.
My dad suddenly remembered that one of his comrades-in-arms happened to be the head of the armed forces in the county, so he asked him when the conscription would start, and they said that the physical examination was almost over, but only later found out that due to the shortage of places to be soldiers, the militia company commander in Zhang Jiandong Village did not disclose the conscription information at that time, but only notified a few people he was familiar with.
Then my father's comrades-in-arms said, first call someone to go for a physical examination, and then I will talk to the township and the village to make up the formalities, so that Zhang Jiandong rushed to the county hospital overnight and caught the last train of the physical examination.
In the winter of '83, Zhang Jiandong was wearing a brand-new military uniform, wearing a big red flower, and carrying a heavy bag on his back. The sky was exceptionally clear that day, and the sun was shining on everyone's faces, but our hearts were full of reluctance and worry.
"Lili, when I come back, you must write to me," Zhang Jiandong said with tears in his eyes, his voice firm and gentle. At that time, I clung to his hand, and tears fell one after another like beads of broken thread. I had a lot to say, but I couldn't put it into words, so I could only nod my head vigorously and silently swear in my heart that I would wait for him to come back no matter what.
After he went to the army that year, he respected the chief, united his comrades-in-arms, fully demonstrated the spirit of hardship and hard work of the children of peasant families, rushed to do all kinds of hard work, tiring and dirty work, and bravely fought for the first place in military training and political study, and his personal ability and quality were quickly improved, and he became a squad leader in the second year after joining the army.
And I failed again in the college entrance examination in July 84, in addition to helping my mother farm after returning home, it is to ensure that my younger brothers and sisters study; at the same time, after not studying, there are more opportunities to go to relatives, just in August of that year, my uncle and cousin got married, I went to the wedding with my father and mother, and suddenly found a familiar figure at the scene, he is my senior Liu Jun.
Liu Jun is two terms taller than me, and he has also been the secretary of the Youth League branch, and he has been in contact with meetings and activities in school, so he is very familiar, he is 1.82 meters tall, he is relatively handsome, he is a strong, responsible, words and deeds, and he can even be said to be a delicate person.
He has an older brother and younger sister, and after he failed in the college entrance examination, he did not repeat his studies due to family difficulties, and the village party secretary saw that he had graduated from high school, had Wencai, and had also served as the secretary of the Youth League branch in school, so he made him the secretary of the Youth League branch in the village.
At that time, he asked me what I planned for the future, I said that I didn't think about it, first help my mother farm and take care of the family, and then slowly think about it, he said that we are all people who have studied in high school, don't waste the knowledge you have learned, if you don't dislike it, I just heard that our village lacks a teacher, and a few people came last semester who are too remote, and they have to cook by themselves three times a day, so they are all gone without working for a month.
I'll go back and tell my village party secretary about your situation, and I'll definitely be able to agree, and I agreed without thinking about it, so when the school started in September '84, I became a substitute teacher in a remote village, with a monthly salary of 27.5 yuan, because of my professionalism and excellent performance, in September '85, I changed from a substitute teacher to a private teacher.
At the same time, because of his outstanding performance in the army, Zhang Jiandong was recommended by the company in 86 to enter the cadet seedling class of their division in the teaching team, and through his arduous training and study, he was finally admitted to the Nanjing Engineering Academy; at that time, he immediately shared the good news with me, telling me not to reply to him again, and to wait until the military academy knew the address before writing to me.
At that time, I was also happy that he realized the dream of military school, after all, it means jumping out of the countryside and eating public meals, in addition to being happy, I feel a little uneasy, Bi Jing is not my own achievements, I remember what my mother taught me since I was a child, I can't rely on the mind, otherwise I will be controlled by others, there is no dignity, and I have to be self-reliant; but I comfort myself that he is not that kind of person.
During the Spring Festival in 87, Zhang Jiandong came back from winter vacation, we were really very happy when we met, Bi Jing did not see each other for 3 years, it was entirely through correspondence and heartfelt complaints, he said thank you for my encouragement to him and when he was not at home, when his mother was hospitalized, I also helped pay 120 yuan for the hospitalization, I said that no matter from which point of view, even ordinary friends should be.
At the same time, when the neighbors saw him wearing a cadet costume to my house, they were very envious of me, saying that I had good vision, was blessed, and could be an officer's wife in the future.
At a meeting near the end of Zhang Jiandong's winter vacation, he cautiously asked me if I was going to be a private teacher for the rest of my life? When I would be able to take over my father's class, I said at that time that I love education, I am willing to be with children, and I have a job now.
I never thought about it, on the one hand, my father is not very old, and my mother and younger siblings at home still count on his salary to live, on the other hand, even if I can take over when I retire, I am the eldest in the family, and I should not fight with my younger brothers and sisters, so I have never considered the succession, I have to rely on my own ability to eat, when he heard it, although he did not explicitly say that he was against it, but he could see that there was a trace of displeasure on his face.
After Zhang Jiandong went to the military academy in March 87, I wrote letters, one after another, each of which poured all my thoughts and love, but it sank into the sea without any response. During the school days, I looked forward to Zhang Jiandong's letter every day, but there was never a cloud in the sky.
It was not until May Day of that year that I replied to a brief letter, mainly saying that the study task was heavy, and later I wrote some letters to him, which were also in the sea, and when it was time to take leave, I replied with a short letter, saying that he was going to the army for internship and would not go home, and at the same time said that after he graduated from the military academy in the future, he did not know where he would be assigned, and he and I were not suitable, so I asked me to consider finding someone better than him, in fact, I just wanted to cut off relations with me.
At that time, after several of my good girlfriends found out, they all complained about me, and asked me to go to the military academy to find him, telling the chief that he was Chen Shimei, I couldn't be a husband and wife, I could still be friends, there was no need to be like an enemy, and I believed that I was not worse than him, I also graduated from high school, but I didn't have the opportunity to join the army and serve the country.
Besides, even if he changes his mind, after the broken mirror is reunited, there are still gaps, and he may not be happy in the future, I believe that fate is your can't be separated, not your begging.
At that time, I knew that when he wanted to break off the relationship, it was indeed painful and depressed for a while, but I quickly perked up, realized that everyone has the right to pursue their own happiness, and understood that it was not easy for him to jump out of the countryside.
At the same time, I thought to myself, I have arms and legs, I can live on my own, I don't want to climb high branches to rely on him, I don't want to drag him down, I can't do things that harm others and myself, I can leave a line as a person, and see each other in the future. So I didn't entangle with him too much, and agreed to his request rationally and indifferently, and we haven't been in touch since then.
After that, I put all my energy into teaching the children, and at the end of each class of elementary school, the admission rate of my class was among the highest in the township.
At the same time, Liu Jun knew that I was far away from home, and I was alone, as long as there was good food at home, I would send it to me, and I was very grateful to him, but it was a normal classmate relationship; at the same time, he went to the township in 85 to become a recruitment cadre, and he became a formal cadre in 89 through hard work.
Later, after he learned that I broke up with Zhang Jiandong, he was worried that I wouldn't be able to think about it, so he often came to school to persuade me, and as time went by, Liu Jun and I gradually developed a relationship. During an illness break in 88, I felt Liu Jun's meticulous care, and this care allowed me to release my deep emotions. When Zhang Jiandong firmly rejected me for two years, the relationship between me and Liu Jun moved to a new height, and in 90 Liu Jun and I officially entered the palace of marriage, and the next year we had our son.
I married Liu Jun and flew like wings, in their respective jobs with their husbands and wives, common progress, 96 years I passed the exam to become a public teacher, the fate was also changed, at the same time my husband, first in the township secretary, and then he went to the county after years of development, and then went to the county as the director, at the same time I also transferred from the rural primary school to the Chengguan Town primary school to teach, and became the principal of the school.
After Zhang Jiandong graduated from the military academy, he was introduced to marry a meter reader of a gas company in the county, and later he developed smoothly in the army, and after transferring from the main camp of the army to the local government in 2006, he happened to be arranged to work in my husband's bureau, but he became my husband's subordinate, and now their family life is relatively happy.
Now my husband and I have retired, living a happy life, although life is life, but also have to rely on oneself to grasp, happiness is through struggle, not begging; if I had married Zhang Jiandong, I may not have the happiness I have now, this may be God's favor for me.
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