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Going home for the New Year For single, school-age youth, family reunion and blind date are tied for the first place. Even if the young people themselves feel that it doesn't matter, the parents who urge marriage and the enthusiastic seven aunts and eight aunts will push this matter to the important position of tying for the first place with the New Year.
In the current marriage and love market, especially in the vast countryside, the momentum of 'a family with a woman and a hundred families' is intensifying. In this kind of realistic situation that is particularly friendly to young girls and has a large space to choose, girls should open their eyes of wisdom and choose a most suitable Ruyi Langjun for their lives among many young talents.
1. Moral character and family style always come first.
The old lady Sheng in "Do You Know", the only daughter of Yongyi Hou, how noble her identity is, when she was young, she fell in love with the Tanhualang of the current dynasty - Sheng Hong's father, and she did not hesitate to marry across classes for love. As a result, she lost the bet. After the sweet period of the newlywed, not only did her husband not love her, but he didn't even care about the life or death of their biological son, so that Mrs. Sheng's only biological son died because of her husband's practice of favoring concubines.
It can be seen that love at first sight is not long-lasting. When love turns into non-love, two people bound together by marriage are left to torture each other.
When Minglan grew into a delicate flower under the care of Mrs. Sheng, Mrs. Sheng began to look around for Minglan to see a suitable in-law. At the same time, the other two daughters of the Sheng family, Rulan and Mo Lan, were also used by their respective mothers to use their brains and skills for their daughters' lifelong events.
The eldest lady and Lin Xiaoniang's vision of choosing a husband is very consistent: a high-ranking family in Bianjing City.
The eldest lady thought that 'Hua Lan and Rulan are both her biological daughters, both have the status of concubines, dignity and decency, since the eldest daughter Hua Lan can marry into the Earl's Palace, the younger daughter Rulan can naturally marry a prince and earl'.
Lin Xiaoniang thought that she was Sheng Hong's own daughter, and her Mo'er was born well, poetry and writing, flower arrangement and tea, and other aristocratic things, and Mo Lan was also top-notch among the Sheng sisters. Since the eldest girl Hua Lan can marry into the Earl's Court, her Mo Lan can naturally be too'.
Only Mrs. Sheng chose a husband for Minglan to see the family style, the character and temperament of the person Minglan will marry in the future. Considering Minglan's status as a concubine, she was afraid that she would suffer in her in-law's family in the future, so she would rather choose someone with a lower family rank than let Minglan live a decent life in order to climb high branches, but in fact she was wronged.
In the drama version of "Do You Know", Mrs. Sheng looks at He Hongwen, a child of a medical family for her granddaughter Minglan , who is the grandson of her old best friend, a good family who knows the roots. He Hongwen has a simple and honest personality, listens to and loves Minglan Yan, and has the ability to learn from his family. Although the He family is far lower than the Qi family in the Guogong Mansion, and He Hongwen himself is far less handsome and elegant than the little grandfather Qi Heng, but the He family does not have a strong mother-in-law, and Minglan can naturally live a comfortable and wishful life when she marries in the past.
Marriage, the so-called glory and decency, are all for outsiders to see, and it is the most affordable to live comfortably.
Second, Minglan 's mate selection requires the 'barrel principle', and the person should look at the lowest place.
Minglan was frustrated in her first love, and turned her attention to He Hongwen in her grandmother's photo. The elder brother of the He family is kind and sincere at heart, and he is extremely attentive to Minglan . Originally, it was a good marriage in which two parents were about to make a decision, and the parties had no opinions, but because of the appearance of Cousin Cao, there was an accident, and the shortcomings in He Hongwen's personality were also tried.
In the matter of finding a partner, the matchmaker will always praise the other party, even if it is two young people who are in love, what they see at first are each other's advantages and strengths, and the shortcomings in life in the character will only be exposed little by little if they live for a long time. At this time, it is too late to retreat, or it has been trapped in the net woven by the other party's sweet words and cannot extricate itself, or it is difficult to turn around.
In the play "Do You Know", Cousin Cao's sudden intervention suddenly made He Hongwen, who originally looked perfect, expose the shortcomings in his personality - his heart is too soft.
Cao's cousin, who used to be a childhood sweetheart, cried and made trouble, and the brother of the He family panicked, and there was Minglan Minglan, the 'quasi' wife who had not yet been hired, and he wanted to place the crying and aggrieved cousin in the inner house first. He Hongwen, a soft doctor's benevolent heart, was pinched to death by the mother and daughter of the Cao family.
Although a man's soft-heartedness is not a bad thing, it affects the relationship between husband and wife and the relationship between them, so it has become a big shortcoming.
As Minglan said to her grandmother, if she and He Hongwen live a life in the future, they can still live a stable life with respect for each other. If Minglan is really sincere to him, Brother Hongwen's soft-hearted problem doesn't know how much unnecessary trouble and right and wrong will be caused in the future, which is a great disadvantage for the loving couple.
So, the little fairies who go home on a blind date for the Chinese New Year, the 'high-quality' man that the matchmaker highly recommends to you, or a certain excellent man you have a secret love for, don't just stare at his merits, you probably haven't had a chance to discover his shortcomings at this stage. Lu Yao knows that the horsepower has been in the hearts of the people for a long time, so it is not too late to understand the other party and the surrounding area of the other party clearly, and then move on to the next link.
3. Choose one person, and let him be of one mind.
The most difficult thing to see on a blind date is the potential ability of the other party, because most people don't have a pair of fiery eyes.
The root cause of Manniang's madness and murder, in addition to her insatiable greed, is also due to her unkindness. People say 'one day husband and wife for one hundred days', Manniang and Gu Tingye had two children, and when she found out that the child's father had no 'future', she actually ran away with the money. This is not just Mama Chang saying that she has no conscience, Manniang has no heart, no morality, and no humanity.
Therefore, if the blind date at the end of the year is successful, even if the current life is good and stable, you must also be prepared for the psychological expectation that you will encounter setbacks in the future.
Life is so long, I got married on a blind date around the age of 30, and I will support each other for decades for the rest of my life. If you encounter difficulties, you want to throw the other party away like a burden, and you will also lose the glory of the other party after experiencing the trough rise.
In the play "Do You Know", Minglan didn't have any love for Gu Tingye when she married him, and it took several episodes of plot stories in the play to spread out Gu Tingye's depression about Minglan Mune. But Minglan received a very good education and the Sheng family's style of Qingliu are very good and orthodox. Although she and Gu Er love after marriage, and the relationship is gradually increasing, Minglan has been ready to be husband and wife since the day she got married.
Therefore, when Gu Ershi's career was in jeopardy, Minglan really tied herself to Gu Tingye, and she achieved the 'husband and wife as one' in words and deeds.
The treasures who have gone home and are about to embark on a blind date journey, ordinary people are not blessed to have a wise grandmother like Minglan in "Know" who has a long-term vision and thinks about her wholeheartedly.
Therefore, if you want to choose a good partner on a blind date, in addition to listening to the opinions of the elders in the family, you must determine the character and family style of the other party, and then use the shortest plank in Minglan 'barrel principle' to determine the maximum capacity of the barrel, and analyze where the lowest point of the other party is?
Use rational thinking to choose the right partner first, and then talk about a romantic love. I wish every little fairy and promising young man who walks on the blind date road can meet a good match for a lifetime in this Spring Festival.