The Chinese New Year is a day of celebration and reunion, but it also bothers many people. Some people are worried that they will be urged to marry by seven aunts and eight aunts after returning home, some people are worried that they will follow their parents to relatives during the New Year, and some people are worried that they will have to spend a lot of money for the New Year.
Colleague Xiao Wei's worry comes from giving New Year's money to the children at home, Xiao Wei has been married for three years and has not yet had a baby, but when the New Year comes, he has to prepare a lot of New Year's money. Some are the children of relatives, others are the children of friends. She said: "The money you earn in a year will be spent a lot in the new year. If you don't give it or give less, it doesn't feel good. ”
New Year's money soared
In recent years, the topic of New Year's money pressure has been constant, in the past, the New Year's money was basically 10 yuan, 20 yuan, but now the New Year's money is rising, and many places are rising to make people call it stressful.
A "National New Year's Money Map" is circulating on the Internet, which shows the general situation of New Year's money in various places. Among them, Fujian Province won the first place with "3,500 yuan", which is only the average amount of New Year's money, and it is said that Putian is far ahead with a height of 12,000 yuan. This amount of money already feels "stressful" just by looking at it!
The average in the northern region is 650 yuan, with the capital Beijing topping the price with 2,900 yuan, Tianjin at 1,000 yuan, and Hebei and Shandong at 800 yuan. Although the amount is far from that in Fujian, it is a great problem for many families.
Some time ago, an uncle in his 60s in Anhui said that he worked as a security guard in a company, and his monthly salary was only 2,300, but the New Year's money was one or two hundred, and several families were one or two thousand, which was worth a month's salary of the elderly. The uncle said: "It's 200 years now, and it's hard for others to look down on it if it's less."
This situation is not only difficult for an uncle with a salary of 2,300 yuan a month, but even a young man with a salary of seven or eight thousand yuan cannot bear it! I don't know when it began, the New Year's money soared, and it became a tool for "comparison" between people.
The meaning of New Year's money
Every year, the elders will prepare New Year's money for the younger generations, which has a certain meaning. The following four are comparisons
Implication 1: Bless the child
Every year, when my brother and sister receive red envelopes from the elders in the family, they will say some blessings to the children: "healthy growth", "peace and security", "academic progress", etc. The New Year's money contains the blessings of the elders for the new year for their children.
Moral 2: Express love
The folk custom of pressing the New Year's money can be passed down for thousands of years, mainly due to the care of the elders for the younger generations, on the one hand, it reflects the family affection and cohesion of the family, and on the other hand, it is also in this way to relieve some pressure on the younger generations.
Moral 3: Ward off evil spirits and keep peace
The mainland was the first to have the saying that the New Year's money was pressed for the New Year, mainly to ward off evil spirits. At first, it was not a coin, but it was printed with some decorations with better meanings, hoping to bless the child's safety. With the change of the times, although it has become money, the beautiful meaning has not changed.
Implication 4: Cultural inheritance
New Year's money first originated in the Han Dynasty and has a history of more than 1,200 years, which can be said to be the traditional culture of the mainland. It has been passed down from generation to generation and has become a part of the Chinese culture.
Do you want to cancel the New Year's money?
Every Spring Festival, children like to receive New Year's money from their elders, but now the New Year's money that conveys good wishes has become the pressure and trouble of the elders.
Zhang Xuefeng, a famous teacher for postgraduate entrance examinations, said: "Can children really get their hands on red envelopes? Children get a New Year's money, parents have to return a New Year's money, red envelopes are essentially a game for adults, if you want to send them, you have to send them to your children can get their hands, parents need it most." ”
He also distributed a New Year's dictionary pen worth 1,000 yuan to the company's employees, hoping that in this way, he could help the children in learning and encourage them to invest more energy in their children's education. As soon as this remark came out, it was a subversion of the thousand-year-old money culture that had been inherited for thousands of years, which attracted many people's controversy.
Netizens think that parents will give the same red envelopes to their relatives' children, and giving red envelopes is actually a tradition, just to celebrate and ask for good luck.
There are also some netizens who support Zhang Xuefeng's suggestion, "Teacher Zhang Xuefeng still sees it more thoroughly, and I really like this way, and it is really not recommended to give children New Year's money." ”
"I have to say, it's true, so now when I see this, I feel that many people will give each other New Year's money during the New Year. ”
It can be seen from the discussion on the Internet that Zhang Xuefeng's statement is under a lot of pressure on many people. Whether or not to cancel the New Year's money will not be fruitful in the short term, after all, the customs and culture that have been inherited for thousands of years are not easy to shake.
New Year's money is the mind, do what you can
A few days ago, I was discussing with my sister how much red envelopes I would give my niece this year, because last year was the first year of birth, so we gave 1,000 yuan for the New Year. But this situation is naturally not suitable for giving every year, and many factors should be considered, and the red envelopes are given to each other without much pressure, and they can be happy.
Factor 1: Personal financial status
New Year's money is not a face-saving action, there is no need to compare, it is just a symbol of good wishes for children during the New Year. Therefore, how much to give depends on the individual's ability.
Factor 2: Family traditions and regional customs
Some families may have a fixed amount, such as 200 yuan, 600 yuan, 800 yuan, etc. There are also some areas that may give 10 yuan, 50 yuan, 66 yuan, 88 yuan, etc., each situation is different, just give it according to local customs, there is no need to give too much anxiety, and there is no need to feel faceless because of giving less.
Factor 3: The right amount of money
The year before last, our neighbor's children spent all the 12,000 yuan of New Year's money given by their families. Parents were careless for a while, and others gave red envelopes and did not help the children save them, but handed them over to the children to manage themselves.
As a result, children who have no concept of money use the money to invite their classmates to dinner and play games. Therefore, it is possible to give an appropriate amount of money for the New Year, especially for children who do not have the ability to spend.
Pillow Parenting Message:
Although it has always been a tradition to give your child New Year's money as a way to express blessings, if you have caused financial pressure on yourself, you should give due consideration to the size of the amount. Personally, I think that although Mr. Zhang Xuefeng's method may not be liked by children, it is also a good choice to buy some supplies that are helpful for learning.
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