Last month, the 75-year-old mother-in-law fell at home and fell directly to the point of being paralyzed in bed.
She thought of me as soon as possible, and asked my husband to inform me to report to her house at 7 o'clock every morning, change her diapers, cook her three meals a day, and let me go home at least 10 o'clock in the evening.
When my husband relayed it to me, I looked at the natural expression on his face, it was really chilling, others don't know, doesn't he know, doesn't he know, how much I was bullied by my mother-in-law back then?
So when my husband finished speaking, I calmly asked him, "Do you mean the same thing as your mother? Are you sure I will take care of her?"
He didn't look at me quite right, but he still stiffened his neck and said, "I still have to go to work, and I don't have time to take care of her, she is your mother-in-law, and it is your duty to take care of her as a daughter-in-law!"
I immediately turned around and walked away, closed the bedroom door, and began to pack my luggage, then bought a high-speed rail ticket, and took the car to the provincial capital early the next morning, and lived in the apartment I bought for my daughter.
I don't want to see my mother-in-law again in my life, even if she dies, I won't give her a ride, haven't I been bullied enough by her all those years? I don't forgive her so easily.
【1】
When I got married to my husband, it was a complete naked marriage, but I thought that as long as two people love each other, life will eventually get better and better, even if I have lived in a rented house for nearly ten years.
Originally, I didn't plan to have anything to do with my mother-in-law, but after my daughter was born, her body has been very weak, and she has been sick twice in three days, so I can only ask my husband to ask my mother-in-law to come over to help.
But my mother-in-law not only didn't come, but she was also very patriarchal, thinking that I gave birth to a daughter, and cut off the incense of their old family, and she never hated me less from the heart.
I really can't invite my mother-in-law, so I resigned myself to my fate, while taking care of my daughter, I worked hard to make money, and I didn't feel tired every day when I was so busy that my feet didn't touch the ground, just because I was holding back a breath in my heart.
At that time, I was also young, even though my mother-in-law did not want to see me and my daughter, my husband still insisted on taking us back to my hometown during the New Year's holidays, but my mother-in-law never gave us a good face.
There is something delicious to hide, even the New Year's money, she didn't give a penny, and made excuses for herself, saying that she forgot to change the new money, and the old money was not given.
It has been like this for several years in a row, and I finally came back to my senses, and when my daughter was about 6 years old, my mother and son resolutely refused to go back to our hometown with our husband, because we didn't want to see my mother-in-law's stinky face anymore.
I thought that there would be no contradiction if we didn't meet, but my mother-in-law also had the ability to provoke our husband and wife without meeting, because she would call my husband every once in a while.
I once heard my mother-in-law say to my husband, "We are old, you just have to live your own life, and when I die, I will die when I see my eldest granddaughter!"
This sentence seems to be careless, but to my husband's ears, it means that I don't let my mother see my eldest granddaughter, and then she will hold back the fire and come to me to quarrel.
For so many years, my mother-in-law has been so ghostly and stirring up in our lives from time to time, and it can be said that every fight I quarreled with my husband was provoked by my mother-in-law.
But the point is that in my husband's opinion, he is a elder, and we have to obey her unconditionally, and this kind of foolish man can simply kill people.
【2】
As soon as I arrived at my daughter's house, my phone rang, and when I saw that it was my husband's mobile phone number, I hung him up without hesitation, and then pulled him into the blacklist, I didn't want to break with him.
Soon my daughter's mobile phone rang, and I had already agreed with my daughter that I would not tell her dad that I was with her, so after my daughter answered the phone, she said a few words to her dad according to my words.
I don't want to care about my mother-in-law, I just want to be chic now, when my daughter goes to work, I cook three meals a day for her at home, and we can eat whatever we want, and the days are too chic.
When I have free time, I go to visit the scenic spots in the provincial capital, one after another, standing in the crowd, I feel that I have lived for almost 50 years, and now my life is sober in the world.
About a week later, my daughter told me that her father was coming to the provincial capital to look for her, and I knew that he didn't miss his daughter, but just wanted to make sure I lived here.
So I booked a ticket to Dali overnight, and flew over early the next morning, I just didn't want to see my husband's natural face again, it looked exactly like my mother-in-law.
Originally, I was just dissatisfied with my mother-in-law, but later I realized that my mother-in-law dared to treat me like this, it was all allowed by my husband, and every time my mother-in-law bullied me, my husband stood aside and remained silent.
If I spoke out against my mother-in-law, my husband would stand up and tell me to respect my elders, but I didn't think about it at the time, thinking that my behavior was indeed disrespectful to my elders.
Later, I realized that my husband never helped me once when my mother-in-law bullied me, but every time I wanted to protect myself, he came to put moral pressure on me.
What is there for this kind of husband who never takes his wife to heart? The reason why I haven't divorced for so many years is that I am waiting for the day when my daughter becomes independent.
Anyway, now that my daughter is also working, and I have a place to settle in the provincial capital, I don't have anything to worry about.
I really don't believe it, after I get divorced, I can still be bullied by this girl? I want to live for myself for the rest of my life, and it's up to me to decide what I want to do.
【3】
Later, my daughter called me and said that after her father went to the provincial capital, he complained to her, saying that I was too selfish and would be punished by God in the future if I refused to take care of the elderly.
Of course, my daughter will not let go of this opportunity to be angry for me, she was scolded by her grandmother when she ate the candy hidden by her grandmother when she was a child, and she said that she had not seen a penny of her grandmother's New Year's money for so many years.
She said for at least an hour, telling all the grievances she had suffered from her grandmother for so many years, and her father didn't say a word, turned around and left in anger.
I praised my daughter for doing a good job, and her father had to treat him like this, so that he could figure out who the family was with, otherwise such troubles would only be endless in the future.
After playing in Dali, I went back to my daughter's apartment, I have already planned, I will find a part-time job in the provincial capital in the future, the focus is not how much money to make, but to live more comfortably.
Anyway, for me, as long as I don't go back to meet my mother-in-law, I am happy to do anything, and I am willing to do anything.