During the winter vacation, I took my daughter to watch these 6 documentaries, which specialized in treating timidity, crying, inferiority and internal friction

If you also have a daughter, be sure to make her strong and free.

Only children who grow up savagely can live a tenacious vitality and move forward firmly in the face of wind, frost, rain and snow.

Author | Potato Mom

I have received many concerns from the mothers of girls:

My daughter will always talk about "I don't dare" and "I'm afraid", what should I do if I always twist and pinch it?

She always feels that she is not good-looking, and her first reaction when she encounters something is "I can't do it", how can I cultivate a girl's self-confidence?

My daughter has been very well-behaved since she was a child, so good that she didn't dare to squeak when she was bullied, and she didn't even blame others and reflected on herself, so she began to have internal friction at such a young age......

On the way to a girl's growth, cowardice and low self-esteem are her biggest obstacles, whether it is study, work, marriage or interpersonal relationships, she will suffer everywhere.

If you want to improve your girl's courage and self-confidence, you might as well take advantage of the winter vacation to take her to watch more high-quality documentaries.

These 6 god-level documentaries will open the girl's eyes and pattern, and will also silently change her submissive, inferior and sensitive character.

"Women"

Loving yourself is the first lesson in life

This Douban documentary, which has a score of 9.4, is a different monologue from more than 2,000 women around the world.

In front of the camera, they tell their real stories and reveal the dilemmas faced by women.

You'll see a lot of girls' coming-of-age issues in the film:

Adolescence, appearance anxiety, sexism, occupational bias, marriage and childbirth, domestic violence, and more.

The apprehension and joy of menstruation for the first time, the wonder and excitement of falling in love for the first time, and of course, many realities and helplessness.

There are girls who have to give up their studies because their older brother was admitted to high school;

There is a girl who was forced to marry a 52-year-old man at the age of 18;

There are girls who are subjected to domestic violence, and there are girls who are doused with sulfuric acid by their husbands after getting married......

As women, there are so many challenges and injustices we have to experience.

But what is commendable is that the women in the film did not cry and complain, they did not compromise or bow their heads, showing the tenacity and courage of women.

A mother who has just given birth to a child praises herself as a superwoman: "I have given birth to all the children, what else can I not do!"

A woman gets the highest salary in a board of directors with only men......

Their story is telling our girls:

You can be someone's daughter, whose wife, whose mother, but you are yourself first and foremost.

Loving herself, appreciating and accepting herself is the first topic in every girl's life.

Justice Ginsburg

"Be a lady and stay independent"

Every girl hears something along the lines of "You're a girl, so how should you be." ”

Girls are always constantly defined and constrained, to be sensible and gentle, to make sacrifices for the sake of the family and children, even if the education is high, it is better to marry early.

But Ginsburg's mother told her, "You have to be a lady, but you have to be independent." ”

"To be a lady" is not to be controlled by unnecessary anger, to be a calm and wise person.

"To remain independent" is to be a person with an independent soul who is not attached to others.

At that time, women had a low status and few opportunities for education and employment, and their mission was to do housework and have children.

But Ginsburg didn't think so, and she unswervingly broke with secular prejudices, was admitted to Harvard Law School, and became the second female justice in American history.

Ginsburg looked so short, thin, and inconspicuous among the tall male judges.

But her strength and contribution are beyond the reach of men:

She promoted equal pay for equal work, women's schooling, the liberation of reproductive rights, and the protection of pregnant women's right to work...... She fights for women's status and rights through case after case.

After becoming a justice, she experienced the death of her partner, two cancers, and three broken ribs in her eighties, but she never gave in and walked non-stop.

She is calm and calm, neither humble nor arrogant, sober and independent, and is the best model for a girl's growth.

Take your daughter to see Ginsburg's story and let her know:

Anger, depression, loss, and injustice are all normal in life, but we must be like Ginsburg, a "gentle and firm, strong and powerful" woman.

"The Girl Who Caught the Basket"

You don't have to be someone else

Just be yourself

This women's basketball documentary has a Douban score of 9.4 points.

It records the path of a group of high school girls to pursue their dreams, and also hides many truths that we should teach girls.

In high school, there are very few girls who play basketball, and even fewer girls can stand on the stage of national competitions.

But this group of girls broke the gender label, overcame all kinds of difficulties in the arena, classroom, and family, and won the championship all the way.

Girls are not defined, you don't have to be someone else, you just have to be yourself.

A girl named Cao Boyi looks independent and strong on the outside, but because her father was unable to accompany her, she was very depressed;

Guo Xiaoni, who is sensible in the eyes of her mother and reliable in the eyes of her teammates, has never been able to let go because she has no confidence in herself;

And Liang Yuejie, who has superior conditions, will also have times of nervousness and fear......

Every girl will have difficulties and challenges on the road to growth, but if she retreats when she encounters a little wind and rain, then how can she reach the end?

Only by surviving the past can we complete the transformation and growth, and live the posture of a big heroine.

Their youth, enthusiasm and tenacity are worth learning from every girl.

After reading it, I will really be enthusiastic, full of energy and passion.

"Gu Ailing: I'm 18 Years Old"

All turned out

It's all been planned for a long time

Gu Ailing has many labels: genius girl, Stanford student, Winter Olympic champion......

But compared to her talent and achievements, I hope that my daughter can be like her, always smiling, not afraid of losing or being discouraged, and being a positive girl.

Gu Ailing's optimistic, open-minded and confident personality can shine in any field, even if she is not a ski champion.

After watching this documentary, I realized that Gu Ailing's growth was not only happy and successful, but also like ordinary girls, she encountered many thorns and ups and downs.

In front of the camera, Gu Ailing cried twice.

The first time was at the age of 13, when she fell in the halfpipe and didn't finish in the halfpipe.

After the game, she suffered from a severe cold, her throat hurt, and she felt uncomfortable, and she hugged her mother and cried silently.

But the next day, she insisted on continuing to participate in the next competition, because she "didn't want to be just a spectator".

The second time was during training, when she lost her balance in the air and fell hard into the snow, unable to move.

Then she had a brief amnesia, forgetting who she was and why she was here, and sat on the snow crying helplessly.

If your child is often timid, withdrawn, and afraid of failure, let her look at Gu Ailing and let her understand:

No one is born to shine, and behind the halo is to stand up after countless falls.

As Gu Ailing said:

"I'm most proud not of being number one in the world, but that I'm going to do what I'm afraid of. ”

"Hello, Zhang Guimei"

I am a mountain

You don't have to be a vine that clings to others

"I was born a mountain and not a stream, and I want to be on the top of the peaks and look down on the mediocre ravines.

I was born to be a man and not a mustard, and I stand on the shoulders of great men and despise the lowly cowards. ”

Every time I read this passage, my heart is full of energy and hope.

This is a message written by Principal Zhang Guimei to students, and it is also the school motto of Huaping Girls' High School.

The girl in the mountains, from birth, is faced with a life that can be seen through at a glance, marrying and having children, washing and cooking, being poor and toiling, and unable to escape.

But Principal Zhang Guimei did everything she could to drag the girls to change their lives.

She has difficulty walking, but she still visits her home to bring the girls who were brought back by her parents to marry.

Even if she was dragging a few kilograms of fibroids, she insisted on teaching her children in the third year of junior high school......

She dedicated her life to the poor mountainous area and the three-foot podium.

And the more than 2,000 girls who came out of Huaping Women's High School no longer have to be confined to the corner of the mountain, they have started a new life and have their own careers.

Some of them have become police officers who can protect the safety of one party, and some have become teachers who have taken up the torch of teaching and educating people.

Principal Zhang Guimei is everyone's light and guide.

Although her face is full of vicissitudes and exhaustion, her eyes always exude perseverance and stubbornness.

Let my daughter see these girls who have walked out of the mountains, and she will know what self-esteem, self-reliance, and self-improvement are.

Let my daughter see the deeds of Principal Zhang Guimei, her bravery, righteousness and selflessness will definitely bring tears to her eyes.

The daughter will also learn that the girl does not have to be a vine attached to others, but must grow enthusiastically, grow into a tree, and bloom her own flowers.

Harvard Classroom - Positive Psychology

Cultivate blunt sensibility and refuse internal friction

This documentary also has a more accessible nickname - happiness class.

As the most popular course at Harvard University, it has really cured countless people's anxiety and internal friction.

Dr. Tal discussed the topic of "happiness" at different levels:

What is true happiness?

How to deal with all kinds of setbacks and pressures in life?

How to develop a positive mindset?

......

Dr. Tal's reference to the experience of American educator Marva Collins is impressive.

Those students who were considered "gangsters" went all the way to university where they became lawyers, doctors, and teachers.

And her most important secret is to let children believe in themselves, because only when they learn self-esteem can they be self-reliant.

The way she punished her children was to ask them to write 100 words that praised themselves, from A to Z, and could not be repeated.

In fact, this is the power of positivity, when the child no longer focuses on her own shortcomings, but magnifies her strengths, she will naturally be confident and full of hope.

In the documentary, there are many tips for teaching children to improve their happiness:

Exercise regularly, hug people around you, learn to keep a gratitude journal, meditate, and so on.

If your daughter is sensitive and vulnerable, often unhappy, always denying herself, or is in adolescence, be sure to take her to see this film.

Let her have blunt sensibility, no anxiety and no internal friction, and learn a positive way of thinking.

Mr. Yang Jiang said:

"When you have seen the world and seen all living beings, you will find that the world you want to see is the bravery and self-confidence in your heart.

When you have seen the four seasons and seen the wind and clouds, you will find that the beautiful scenery you want to see is your inner calmness and calmness. ”

For a girl, a self-confidence rooted in her heart and a calmness in the face of difficulties are her biggest "world" and the best nourishment for growth.

Taking advantage of the holidays, watching these high-scoring documentaries with her is like taking her through a journey of spiritual growth.

She will become more resilient and independent, and her vision and pattern will be extraordinary.

Be sure to forward and collect it for your daughter~