If you knew your fate in advance, would you still choose to start this life?
Luo Ruishen and Zhou Chaoxi's answers are firm "yes", and in the next life, they will be mothers and sons.
Luo Ruishen is a double rare disease patient, 11 years old due to illness lost the ability to walk, the doctor said that it is likely not to live to be 18 years old. Most of his daily life and travel depend on his mother Zhou Chaoxi.
The vast majority of rare disease patients and their families will become invisible islands, isolated from the public. Some people even feel that they were born sinful and should not have come into this world.
Zhou Chaoxi said: "Mortals have genetic defects, my children and I are both victims of unfortunate probability, we have borne the price of human evolution to advanced creatures, what is the crime?"
Zhou Chaoxi took Luo Ruishen to nearly 100 cities
Although death is very close to Luo Ruishen, before it really comes, the only thing Zhou Chaoxi, as a mother, wants to do is to let the child be happy every day and have a wonderful life as much as possible, "whether he is 18 years or 20 years, it will be regarded as 100 years of life."
"I succeeded in raising myself to be an Iron Man because I didn't want or have the opportunity to be a weak woman, and I didn't want my child to be a wretched, defeated man mocked by fate," she said. ”
Last year, Luo Ruishen spent his 18th birthday safely.
Fate cruelly broke Luo Ruishen's wings, and his mother Zhou Chaoxi became his wings.
God is not everywhere, so Mother was created
The bullet of fate is fired, and no one knows what will happen to the person who was hit.
In 2005, 28-year-old Zhou Chaoxi looked at his newborn child tenderly, not knowing what kind of illness and torture the child was about to suffer in his life.
Luo Ruishen, who was born 15 days ago, was diagnosed with phenylketonuria, a rare disease with a prevalence of only 1 in 10,000, which doomed Luo Ruishen to only eat a few foods in the diet in his life, and most of the "ordinary foods" were "delicious poisons" that he could not touch.
Most crucially, the disease has the potential to affect his emotions, intelligence, and even life.
Zhou Chaoxi had to toss and turn in various hospitals during the day, and every night he had to beat his spirit and coax his son who was crying because of his illness.
It's not just that she can't take care of her energy, her monthly salary is 800 yuan, and half a year's salary is only enough for Luo Ruishen's special diet for a month...... But she still fought hard with the "bullet" that was fired at her son, and struggled on the verge of collapse every day at three points in the hospital, school, and home.
When Luo Ruishen was 3 and a half years old, his condition finally improved, and the god of fate briefly raised his noble hand to the mother and son, which finally relieved the mother.
Just when his life was improving, Luo Ruishen was diagnosed with Duchenne muscular dystrophy, and the doctor told Zhou Chaoxi: "The child may not be able to walk when he is about 11 years old, and he may not live to be 18 years old." ”
When Zhou Chaoxi heard the news, there was no imaginary pain and despair in her heart, and she seemed to have quit the emotion of sadness from this moment, because sadness could not solve any problems.
She only cried alone in the middle of the night, but she was more gentle with Luo Ruishen: "Mom will protect you, no matter what kind of problems you encounter, Mom will find a way to solve them for you." ”
Nietzsche said, "A man who knows what he lives for can endure any kind of life." ”
Zhou Chaoxi's weakness and armor are all Luo Ruishen.
Luo Ruishen, who was lively and carefree when he was a child
"I want him to have a wonderful life. ”
If the length of life is short, let it bloom more vigorously.
So, in the next ten years, Zhou Chaoxi not only took care of Luo Ruishen's study and life, but also took his son to travel to most of China and nearly 100 cities.
Mother and son sat side by side by Qinghai Lake
Mother and son often say that "let us forget the pain, only remember the joy and beauty".
Zhou Chaoxi changed his official account profile to "Born and happy, live without regrets, live to death, and smile".
She did the same.
No matter how difficult life is for her, her love for Luo Ruishen never slackens.
Almost toughly, she helped her son turn the track of fate into a wilderness where he could grow freely.
Over the years, her mother, who was as confused as she was at the beginning, asked her for help, and Zhou Chaoxi also began to cultivate another road-
Through the Internet, we helped these mothers understand rare diseases, let the public understand rare diseases, and successively raised love funds for nearly 100 families in need.
The illness was going to destroy Luo Ruishen's life, but his mother made everything beautiful.
Source: Visual China
The potential of the mother depends on the needs of the child
The story starts more than 30 years ago: the newborn Hongyi, who was originally a chubby and laughing baby, accidentally fell and was seriously injured at the age of 18 months and became a child with multiple disabilities.
This is not the first difficulty in his life.
At the age of 4, he was blind, at the age of 9, he was paralyzed on the right side of his body, and at the age of 10, he was paralyzed on the left side of his body.
Xu Qin, like Zhou Chaoxi, was persuaded by countless people that it was better to give up this child.
At the same time, like Zhou Chaoxi, she chose a more difficult path because of her irrepressible maternal love.
Under her care, her son's condition improved, and he could even go to a special education college to learn life skills, and both mother and son showed a long-lost smile.
But happy times are always short-lived, and Hongyi graduated.
He was unable to integrate into society and did not find a job.
20 years of hard work seems like a joke.
Xu Qin looked at her son, who could only go home, becoming more and more lost and anxious day by day, and made a decision.
She opened a public welfare small class at her own expense, and started a "life long-distance exercise" with her 6 sons' classmates.
Go to the vegetable market, the supermarket, the bank, take the bus, take the subway, and finally teach them to work.
No matter how small things in life are, they are also challenges for these children.
Xu Qin not only led them to succeed in the challenge, but also crossed the limits of their bodies with more of the same children.
What used to be a small class of 7 people has now become a "Wanwan Childcare Center" that carries the hopes of more than 50 families, and it is also the first non-profit organization in Hangzhou to carry out education for people with mental disabilities over 16 years old.
At the opening ceremony of the 4th Asian Para Games in Hangzhou, more than 20 children from "Wanwan" warmed up for 202 seconds.
The applause lasted for a long time.
Bookstores, supermarkets, and car washes have been opened in the care center, and children with mental disabilities who were once in despair can support themselves here.
The Wanwan Custody Center has become a must-visit volunteer check-in place for caring people, and Xu Qin also won the "Hangzhou Charity Model Award".
A "family guide" for mental disabilities compiled by Xu Qin is also influencing and helping more people.
A mother's love makes more love.
Xu Qin said: "We are very happy, and we hope that more people can be happy. ”
Hongyi, who had nowhere to go after graduation, may not have thought at that time that his mother's love had so much energy.
suddenly remembered that Shi Tiesheng had a leg disease, and his mother had been with him. When he came to the Temple of Earth many years later, he couldn't help but sigh: "Not only have my ruts everywhere in this garden, but there are also my mother's footprints where my ruts have been." ”
It is not easy to have any profession in this world, only when you are a mother's child, you don't need to do anything, you can get the best love in the world.
Fate twists and turns like a labyrinth, and my mother can find every escape route.
Her love has no direction, the child is the navigation.
Source: Visual China
In the journey of life, mother's love is a supply station
Life is full of holes, and my mother sews and mends it.
In Zhangjiajie, Hunan, 28-year-old Tian Chao was suddenly diagnosed with uremia and met with death several times.
Although the mother Xiang Jinnong was successfully matched with her son's kidney, she could not donate a kidney because she weighed nearly 150 pounds and had underlying diseases such as fatty liver.
In order to save his son, 58-year-old Xiang Jinnong insisted on running 8 kilometers every morning and losing 20 pounds in 4 months.
Xiang Jinnong who is running
Bi Shumin once said: "We used to look for sincerity all over the world, but we didn't know that the sincerity we wanted most was in our mother." ”
Mao Buyi sang in the song "One Meat and One Vegetarian" written to his deceased mother:
"Sunrise and sunset, deep and deep; a small square table, with a meat and a vegetable;"
He and his mother don't express their feelings very much, and they don't communicate much, but his mother knows that he likes meat and vegetarian food when he eats, so every time he goes home, no matter how busy his mother is, she will prepare at least one meat and one vegetarian for him.
Once Mao Buyi mentioned his mother again in the show, and couldn't help but cry with regret: "The most uncomfortable thing for me is that I didn't see my success when she left, which made her feel that I was unproductive." ”
Maybe every child has had such a feeling: I am so a failure, sorry for my mother's good love.
Actor Jia Ling's film "Hello, Li Huanying", created for her mother who died young, tells the story of a daughter who feels that she is a failure, travels to the past and tries to make her mother take another path in life.
But unexpectedly, her mother firmly said to her: "My future daughter, I just need to make her healthy and happy." ”
In the show, Aya also patted Mao Buyi on the shoulder and comforted him: "I am a mother, you believe me, no mother will think that her child is not successful, she is just worried that you can't take care of yourself." ”
The following messages in "One Meat and One Vegetarian" also tell about my mother's love for me:
The bullets of fate may come at us from all directions, but as long as Mom is here, she will always stand up and stand in front of us.
A mother's love can heal most of the sufferings in the world.
Source: Visual China
Finally, I would like to say -
She must not be perfect about the mother, she has her experiences and limitations, as well as her stubbornness and shortcomings.
But her love is unconditional.
Lao She once said: "People, even if they live to be eighty or ninety years old, they are still a little childish if they have a mother." The loss of a loving mother is like a flower in a vase, although it still has color and fragrance, but it has lost its roots. Those who have a mother are at peace in their hearts. ”
As long as the mother is alive, we will still be children.
In the new year, I hope that all mothers can be treated gently by the years in the passage of time, and I hope that all children can treat their mothers well and leave no regrets in their trivial lives.
Author: Sanqi.