Xiang Mei, who appeared in front of us, was wearing a slim-fitting white casual suit with a black vertical pattern pullover inside. A signature short haircut, neat and capable, the whole outfit is simple and elegant.
This is almost Xiang Mei's dressing style all along. On her body, it never seems to be more than three colors. Either a classic black dress with a red scarf.
Or a cool jacket with a warm silk scarf inside, not only the overall match is concise and clear, but also has a unique sense of lively jumping, which makes people feel a kind of vigor and vitality.
Of course, what attracts us more is her mental state and her elegant temperament. She always seems to be so dignified, quiet, calm, and determined, revealing a kind of beauty precipitated by the years.
I think that only a woman of a certain age can be so beautiful and atmospheric, just like a beautiful oil painting that has been treasured for many years, exuding a moving charm against the backdrop of time.
You must know that Xiang Mei will turn 87 years old on August 10 this year. But everyone who sees it says that today's Xiang Mei is much more beautiful than when she first debuted in her 20s.
It has been said that a woman's face, before the age of 30, is determined by genetics. But after the age of 30, her appearance is completely controlled by herself.
There is a lot of truth in that.
Because every woman, after she reaches middle age, her appearance, her temperament, and her aura will be closely linked with her experience, her insight, her cultivation, her cultural heritage, and her outlook on life and values.
We call these "spiritual appearances".
How important is a person's "spiritual appearance"? If we look at everyone around us, we will know it.
There are those who are full of resentment and have a hostility towards everything in the outside world. Such people often live very unhappy. Either the marriage is unhappy, or the mood is not good, so the eyes of people are like knives and ice.
There are also some people who always like to get into the "horns" and can't get out, not only used to "competing" with themselves, but also everyone around them. Such a person will inevitably be tired and mean, and the heavy negative energy will also make everything around him lose his vitality and fall into silence.
However, there are also some people who are soft in heart, full of gratitude for the world, and face everything with a positive and optimistic attitude every day. Such a woman often has a calm gaze and a soft face, and the state she presents can always bring people a sense of comfort and pleasure of "the years are quiet".
The so-called relationship is born from the heart, and this is the case.
I think Xiang Mei is the most typical representative of them.
1. Natural beauty is the easiest thing to disappear
In 1957, at the age of 20, Xiang Mei was still studying in the Department of Architecture of Tianjin University. But she was caught by Ding Li, the production director of Shanghai Film Studio, so she was recommended to the crew of "Women's Basketball No. 5" directed by Xie Jin.
Xie Jin was also taken aback when he saw Xiang Mei. Because the energetic girl in front of her is really beautiful. In his words, when the crew of "Women's Basketball No. 5" came to the university campus, the eyes of those boys were all focused on Xiang Mei. It can be seen what a dazzling scenery she was at that time.
And with the release of the movie "Women's Basketball No. 5", Xiang Mei who appeared in front of us has also made countless fans unforgettable, the face as beautiful as magnolia flowers, and the collagen on the face, all show us the beauty of youth and the advantages of youth.
At that time, Xiang Mei was born beautiful.
But natural beauty is really the easiest thing to disappear.
Everyone's appearance will become aging with the recommendation of time, which is a natural law.
There is a saying that no matter how beautiful the appearance is, it is not a scarce resource, because it will always be replaced by a more beautiful appearance.
But a person's inner cultivation and temperament will not.
After acting in "Women's Basketball No. 5", Xiang Mei became a professional actor in Shanghai Film Studio. She has starred in many movies such as "Night Voyage on the Sea of Fog", "A Thousand Girls in the Sea", "The Cuckoo Calls Again", "Red Detachment of Women" and so on. But she was so beautiful, but she still didn't become the most popular actress at that time. Because in the beautiful Shanghai Film Studio, her appearance is not the most eye-catching.
Xiang Mei actually became completely popular after she reached middle age.
In 1979, Xiang Mei, who was 42 years old, appeared in the movie "Gunshots of the Secret Bureau" filmed by Changying Studio. Is it because of her outstanding appearance? Of course not, but the grace and elegance she embodies make her bright.
Since then, Xiang Mei has played Shen Yaqi in "Blue File", Zhu Lan in "Flying to the Pacific", Tian Wan in "University in Exile", and Queen of the Black Rooster in the 86 version of "Journey to the West". Her screen appearance is elegant and lush, like a blooming peony, noble and elegant, isn't it a green flower, comparable to it?
In 2006, Xiang Mei played the role of Wang Qiyao's grandmother in the TV series "Song of Long Hatred". She was nearly 70 years old. But she appeared in front of us, with a gentle attitude and a demure demeanor. Even though Shaohua is fleeting and his face is old, the beauty carved into his bones is still fascinating.
Although later, as time went by, Xiang Mei rarely appeared in film and television works. But every time she appears in public, she always maintains an absolutely unearthly elegance. She is like a timeless poem, refined by the years. Her face, even if she is getting older, can always give people a sense of closeness because of her warm temperament and kind face.
And she has a high "spiritual appearance", and she will also pass on positive energy to more people around her.
So how can a middle-aged woman be like Xiang Mei and have the "spiritual appearance" of warm times?
Yaqing feels that as long as the following 5 points are done, it is enough.
2. How to control the "spiritual appearance"?
A person's emotions, whether positive or negative, are reflected in the face.
Therefore, it is very important to control and grasp emotions.
A person who has been swayed by negative emotions for a long time, the "spiritual appearance" she presents will not be too high. And the more time passes, the more obvious the outward manifestation becomes.
In our lives, we often mention that so-and-so has a "resentful face", and everyone avoids it. This is actually because she has accumulated too much anxiety, uneasiness, fear and hatred in her heart, and finally presented it through her appearance, that is, her eyes are cold, her face is haggard, her spirit is low, and her demeanor is sharp. Such people, their spiritual energy, is often swallowed up by pain and anger, not only their own hardship, but also hurt others to vent their dissatisfaction and loss.
When you meet such a person, who wouldn't stay away?
Therefore, if you want to have a "spiritual appearance" like Xiang Mei, you must first learn to cultivate yourself. Negative emotions can be brought to the face, whether it is the shadow of childhood, a selfish character, or a narrow-minded mind. But if we can uproot it through acquired efforts, the "spiritual appearance" left to us will naturally take on a new look.
So what exactly needs to be done?
Yaqing gives you 5 small suggestions.
1. Learning to reconcile with yourself is more important than anything else.
Who will have smooth sailing in this life? Who will not encounter ups and downs, misfortunes, and pains of one kind or another?
But if you are immersed in self-grief, then in reality, you become a slave to the control of negative emotions.
Therefore, learning to say goodbye to the past, learning to reconcile with oneself, and learning to "break away" is more important than anything else.
For example, Xiang Mei, she has been in a very depressed state for a long time. For more than ten years, she had no drama to film, and an actress's best years were wasted. Of course she was depressed, but she didn't complain. It's about catching up when the opportunity comes, and taking back the lost time.
I always feel that a person's space to store spiritual energy is limited, and if it is occupied by negative emotions, then it will be difficult for positive energy to come in. Therefore, it is very important for us to leave the good and remove the bad.
When a person learns to let go and make trade-offs, she will not only become relaxed all over, but also look younger and younger.
2. Think less and act more.
Many people live a miserable life, in fact, because they "think too much". If you have too many ideas, once you can't realize them, you will complain.
A person who lives in a happy atmosphere all day long is actually a very open-minded person. It is difficult for them to get themselves into a "dead end". Even if you encounter troubles, you will not indulge in them for a long time, but will pursue the principle that "there must be a road before the car reaches the mountain" or "the sky falls, and there is a tall man on top".
In addition, moving one's body is also an important factor in improving one's "mental appearance".
Xiang Mei, as an actor, has maintained the habit of exercising for many years. Because exercise can make the body's functions in an active state, it can not only release stress and relieve fatigue, but also allow us to have a healthy body. And a person who is physically and mentally healthy, how can her "spiritual appearance" not be high?
3. Read more and look good.
A person with an empty belly, no matter how good-looking she is, is just a shallow person who can see the end at a glance.
But if a person is "full of poetry and books", then a "bookish atmosphere" will naturally brew in her body. The so-called "belly has poetry and books from China", this is the truth.
And the more a person understands, the bigger the world she sees. When you have enough knowledge, then you will not be willing to be the "frog at the bottom of the well" forever, only to be confused by the pain and sorrow in front of you.
Why does Xiang Mei become more and more beautiful as she gets older? I think it has something to do with her "bookish atmosphere" and her gentle and elegant temperament.
4. Learn to "not be greedy" and beat all "cosmetics".
A person who is "not greedy enough" is often a person who has too much desire. You have to think about it, you have this, you still want to do that, it is endless, and you have been troubled in vain.
In fact, does a person really need so many material things to live in this world?
Just like a seedling, it only needs sunlight, water and soil. Later, humans just wanted it to grow stronger, or to reduce the growth time and reduce pests and diseases, so chemical fertilizers were added.
It's the same with people, even if the weak water is 3,000, you only need one scoop to drink, and even if you have a million mansions, you only need one bed to sleep. So what is the use of buying so many houses and cars? It's just to save face.
To put it bluntly, it is also a manifestation of "vanity".
And a person who has an excessive desire for material things, her eyes must be full of "greed", so how can her "spiritual appearance" be good-looking?
Xiang Mei has been an actor all her life and has a certain influence among fans. However, the environment in which she lives is actually very ordinary. But she was content and grateful. She believes that a home, no matter how big or small, as long as it can be filled with love, is happiness.
Contentment and gratitude make Xiang Mei more and more beautiful the older she gets, and she becomes a flower that will never wither.
That's why I say, learn to be "not greedy" and trump all "cosmetics".
5. Smile more, and you will become more beautiful.
Smile more.
There may be disappointments in life, but not as much as you think.
So don't let yourself be immersed in the "clouds of melancholy", smile and you will find that the world will light up in an instant. The flowers in front of you will become more colorful, and the trees in front of you will become more verdant.
And when you laugh, you will find that the pressure in your heart will involuntarily reduce a lot.
So, smile a little more, and you will become more beautiful.
Nothing can enhance the "spiritual appearance" more than a smile.
In addition, "autosuggestion" full of positive energy is also very important. If you try to say to yourself every day, "I'm great" or "I'm beautiful", then you will find that you are really going to be better and better, and you are going to look better and better.
That's how amazing this is.
Also, even if you encounter some difficulties and setbacks, don't rush to deny yourself. It is more sensible to seriously look for the cause.
I always believe that a confident person has its own "beautifying" effect. If you don't believe it, you can take a look at Xiang Mei, who appeared in front of us, which time, wasn't she more elegant because of self-confidence?
So, to sum up, is it really difficult to improve "mental appearance"? Actually, it's not difficult at all, right?
If we are born with our appearance before the age of 30, then after the age of 30, we can make ourselves more and more beautiful.
I think that if a person is dedicated to goodness and constantly replenishes positive energy, then your "spiritual value" will definitely get higher and higher.
Love yourself, love life, every person with increasing wrinkles and gray temples can become another "Xiangmei".
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