#我来唠家常#
I, born in the 60s, am 61 years old this year, and now retired to take care of my grandchildren at home.
In my life, I have experienced 3 periods of family life.
The first period was a very poor life from birth to marriage.
I lost my father when I was 8 years old, and I have 3 older brothers, 3 older sisters, and 2 older sisters are married.
The deepest memory since I was a child is that the two elder brothers often fight for the trivial things in life, and their strength is spent on fighting, and their academic performance must be bad.
After the two elder brothers got married, they still fought against each other for a long time and even went to court for a little homestead, and spent countless energy on it, and finally both lost, their careers were unsuccessful, and finally the house was demolished, and now both of them have a low pension and live in a high building, what about the homestead?
My second family life was after I got married.
From the time I got married to the present, my husband has always been obedient to me, we have never quarreled in our lives, and we have only counted a few times when I am angry and red-faced, and each time it is no more than 10 minutes, he must have coaxed me well.
If we have a difference of opinion, even if I am wrong, he will listen to me, in fact, it is all small things, wrong, it is only a loss of tens or hundreds of dollars, but in big things, I will not call the shots.
My husband has 3 brothers and sisters, an elder brother and a younger sister, my brother died of illness 10 years ago, and when my brother was alive, the relationship between the three brothers and sisters was very good.
Because we moved out of the old house after we got married and lived in the house divided by my husband's unit, the family's homestead was given to his brother, and when it was demolished, we got much less than his brother.
When his brother was alive, his in-laws had a headache and brain fever, he took care of it alone, although we lived not far away, but he always couldn't bear to disturb us, sometimes at 3 o'clock in the morning, a person took his mother-in-law to the hospital to hang water, never complained, we have the energy to do a good job, take care of our son.
A person's eyes should be on the outside career, not on the inch of land at home.
When I was young, I did my job during the day, took self-study exams in my spare time, and in 10 years, I was admitted all the way from junior college to undergraduate, and finally my title was promoted to deputy high school, and my pension was linked to my title, so it was a lot.
When I was working, I did my best to work, because I could bear hardships and stand hard work, the workload was large and high-quality, my bonus was the highest among my peers, and when I bought a house, it didn't take a few years for the loan to be paid off.
I can do this, really thanks to a good family environment, people's energy is limited, except for work and study, nothing consumes any of my energy. In addition, they can also get support from all sides of the family.
Every year at the beginning of summer, my sister-in-law will boil my son's goose eggs, duck eggs and eggs and send them over, and every Spring Festival, my sister-in-law will prepare our New Year's goods, which has greatly saved me a lot of energy, and they usually take the initiative to help when there is something.
My third family life is that after my son gets married, I get along with my daughter-in-law, there can be a generation gap, there can be differences, but there can be no contradictions, do empathy, the measure should be big enough, especially now that I have a grandson, I must be happy every day, work together to bring the child well, the daughter-in-law's personality is also very good, what thoughts in my heart will be said at any time, we communicate with each other, understand each other, whether it is the sister-in-law who once invited, or the cleaning of the glass at home a few days ago, from our talking interaction, we think that we don't want to be a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, like a mother and daughter。
Not long ago, in the neighbor's house next door, the young couple fought in the night, the head was broken and bleeding, and the 120 ambulance came to pick it up in the middle of the night, and the mother-in-law hugged the little grandson and trembled, tearful communication, very pitiful. Can children from such a family be brought well? Can young couples do a good job in their careers?
A colleague of mine and his wife, because of the conflict, were able to go cold for a month or two without talking, which also seriously affected the work and life of both parties.
In this highly competitive society, the economic and physical health of families with long-term internal friction will become worse and worse, and even lead to the decay and disintegration of the family.
Home is the harbor of the soul and the haven of life, and I hope that each of us can run our own family well and live every day happily.