Friends are most afraid of taking advantage of each other, no matter how friendly they used to be, many times time can change a person the most. I have always had a good relationship with my college classmate Dalin, but I didn't expect him to ignore his friendship for many years for his own personal gain. This recent experience has taught me that society is too complex and that some people really don't deserve to be deeply acquainted.
After graduating from university, I got a job in a provincial town and worked in the real power department. In the past ten years, I have been careful step by step, and finally won the reuse and trust of the leaders. However, the peaceful life was broken by a classmate who asked for help, this classmate named Dalin, who had always had a good relationship in college, and now he asked me for help, and wanted to invite the leaders of our unit to dinner through me to get the approval of an important project.
I read the project book that Obayashi gave me and expressed concern about the feasibility of the project. As far as I know, there are certain problems with the feasibility and risk assessment of this project, and it is unlikely that it will be approved through the normal process. I suggested that Obayashi revise the plan, but he insisted that there was no problem with the project and hoped that I could find a way to introduce him to the leadership.
For the sake of friendship between my classmates, I plucked up the courage to invite Director Li of our unit to a meal. Director Li is my direct supervisor, and he usually has a very low-key style and doesn't like to eat and drink with guests. It took me a lot of effort to invite him, but fortunately, Director Li was more satisfied with my work, and this time he made an exception and agreed to dinner.
In the private room, Dalin took out the project introduction and explained the importance and feasibility of the project endlessly. I saw that Director Li's face was not quite right, and I felt faintly uneasy. Sure enough, after politely praising the novelty of the project's ideas, Director Li put forward some pertinent opinions: the project involves reform and innovation, the feasibility study is insufficient, the input-output ratio is unbalanced, and there are certain risks......
Dalin's face changed significantly, but he still forced a smile on his face, saying that he must carefully study the leader's opinions. I saw that Dalin was not very happy, so he hurried to play a round, and Director Li also understood our difficulties and did not criticize them directly. The atmosphere of the dinner was a little awkward, so I paid in advance, and then sent Director Li home and gave some special products to express my gratitude.
Back in the private room, Dalin said nothing with a cold face. I advised him not to take it to heart, and the leader's opinion was also an improvement to the project. Afterwards, I spent a week helping him sort out a project feasibility report, analyze the risk points clearly, and formulate countermeasures. I was going to send it to Dalin for reference, but he had already blocked me and couldn't be contacted again.
Later, I heard from my classmates that Dalin's project was approved through other relationships, but in the implementation of the project, there were indeed various problems mentioned by Director Li at the beginning, which eventually led to the failure of the project and the investment in vain. At the project review meeting, Dalin was scolded by his superiors and was dumbfounded on the spot. Now he knew that Director Li's opinion was right.
This experience opened my eyes to some of the nature of human relationships. The friendship of classmates is vulnerable in the face of interests, and Dalin would rather sacrifice years of friendship for his own personal gain. I wanted to extend a hand of friendship to him, but I didn't want him to repay the favor with resentment. Since ancient times, morality has been as thin as paper, and Dalin's actions prove it.
In order to help Dalin, I asked the leader for personal matters for the first time, and I also owed a favor, but I didn't expect to be blocked by him afterwards. Driven by interests, some people will do whatever it takes, and I shouldn't have stood up for Dalin. This experience made me realize that in this complex society, there are some people who really don't deserve to be friends.
The obligation of friends is to avoid taking advantage of each other. In the future, I will remember this lesson, but I will still treat people with kindness. Things are unpredictable, but we should still be principled people and not trust others easily.
I don't know what you think about this kind of thing, and you are welcome to share your opinion