No one expected that Wu Jing, a patriotic tough guy with a box office of more than 30 billion, now failed to stand firm and fell on firewood, rice, oil and salt.
In the past few days, netizens have scolded Wu Jing for being "selfish, indifferent, and emotionally giant", while sighing on their backs and saying two "unexpected" at the beginning of 2024:
"I never imagined that Zhou Yiwei loved his wife so much, and I never imagined that Wu Jing treated his wife like this. ”
The cause of the incident was that an old variety show was turned over with new problems.
Wu Jing and his wife Xie Nan participated in a variety show together before, but these days they were suddenly overturned by the short video platform.
The N details of N many trivial matters in the show are naked, straightforward, and clearly exposed the "other Wu Jing":
★ Cooking in the kitchen with Xie Nan, he asked his wife twice "Do you want chicken soup", completely ignored it, ignored it at all, and deliberately did not respond.
★ After the chicken noodle soup was ready, he brought it to the table himself, feasted as if no one was around, and didn't ask his wife, who was waiting for the meal, to eat together.
★ After Xie Nan expressed his dissatisfaction with his "eating alone", he not only did not realize his fault, but blamed Xie Nan "Didn't you see that the meal was ready", and then when his wife carefully explained, he said aggrievedly, "Are you accusing me".
Then, angrily, he ran to the upstairs bathroom and smashed the towel into the mirror to vent his anger.
★ When cooking and cooking the large intestine, after being kindly reminded by Xie Nan to "cook for a while, don't let others eat bad stomach", Wu Jing's anger was ignited at once, shouting, manic, and emotionally broken: "Why do I do something, you are thinking about it wherever you ......"
★ When playing the game of tacit understanding between husband and wife, it was obvious that he was not performing well, but he turned out to beat Xie Nan and said that Xie Nan did not cooperate, and finally gave up the competition directly, and made Xie Nan cry with a childish attitude of "can't afford to lose".
After watching these videos, some people scolded Wu Jing for being a scumbag, some people commented that Wu Jing was drifting, and some people were anxious: "He is like this, it is in vain that he has liked him for so many years"......
Uh, okay.
People who praise madly and people who slander madly are often a group of people.
It's just that scolding and liking are just a kind of emotional catharsis.
The most precious thing in the world is to see—to see a person or an event, why it is the way it is, and to stand in a higher dimension, to introspect, to give rest-
From a psychological point of view, Wu Jing has obvious characteristics of omnipotent narcissism.
The common psychological logic of the all-powerful narcissist is: "I am omnipotent, and the world will work the way I want." ”
It is precisely this kind of psychological logic that the all-powerful narcissist is especially hungry for attention and praise from the outside world, and especially looks forward to becoming the shining C position and protagonist in the crowd.
Therefore, most of the all-powerful narcissists have macho (big woman) and heroism complexes.
This makes it easy for him or her to achieve extraordinary success and extraordinary success in his or her career - he needs constant external identification to confirm his inner omnipotence and narcissism, and he will create one brilliant brilliance after another.
Wu Jing, who always plays a patriotic tough guy, has created the pinnacle of his acting career again and again, not only because of his superb acting skills, but also because of his own inner soul, which is the character himself.
But, the other side of the coin is:
Once the needs of the all-powerful narcissist are not met, he will become accusatory, cranky, and violent.
even used vexatious and violent threats to make the people around him succumb to satisfy his narcissism.
If you are a family member or lover of the almighty narcissist, you will often be used as a punching bag by them, in the midst of being demanded, ignored, coldly violent, and even violent, suffering and suffering:
What outsiders see is his excellence and ability, only you know, his mania and vulnerability.
After watching Wu Jing Xie Nan's video, many female compatriots are so empathetic because they saw their excellent and irascible husbands, and they also saw their seemingly happy and indescribable marriage.
Wu Jing, who originally maintained an idol in the public sphere, why did he fall off the altar in the private sphere?
This involves a truth that needs to be speculated in the Internet era:
The general public's obsession with perfection and the oversharing of public figures.
For this, I would like to mention two other people -
● One person, is Tao Yong.
Tao Yong, a famous ophthalmologist, is sought after by the whole network as a benevolent and gentle gentleman because of his flashing academic qualifications, awesome skills, and tragic encounters.
has millions of fans overnight, was invited to appear on the show on variety shows, published books and interviews, appeared in major live broadcast rooms, and became a generation of top performers and idols.
However, a few days ago, on his daughter's 12th birthday, Dr. Tao Yong not only privately assigned his daughter to do this and that, but also shared it on the Internet in a show-off tone, and after discussing whether the girl is well-behaved and sensible with "lady" and "witch", he was chased and scolded by a group of female fans to delete the blog, and the perfect character set up in the past few years also collapsed instantly.
Is Dr. Tao Yong changing? Is it floating? Is it broken?
From the perspective of a professional and a doctor, although Tao Yong was cut off one hand, he is still the king of the industry and the messenger of light.
But from the perspective of family and parenting, Dr. Tao, who can handle the most difficult eye surgery in the country, cannot escape the subconscious domestication of women.
Always from the perspective of a "great doctor", to examine "Father Tao Yong", just like always from the perspective of a "box office champion", to conclude that "husband Wu Jing" must be a warm man who pities the fragrance and cherishes the jade and heroically saves the beauty.
Single-sided and martial cut.
Therefore, it seems that Wu Jing and Tao Yong are the ones who collapse in their personalities, and they are the public obsession who always want to complete the heroes.
From a philosophical and human point of view:
There are no perfect people in this world.
If so, the person is either a pretender or a pervert.
● Another person that comes to mind is Gong Li.
In the entertainment industry, Gong Li can be regarded as a "weirdo".
On the one hand, she is a movie queen and an international superstar, and on the other hand, she never opens Weibo, studios, or live broadcasts.
Not to mention, participate in any variety show that exposes your private life.
She said that she doesn't need marketing, she doesn't need fan platforms, she doesn't need traffic exposure, and she doesn't need to mix work and life.
She said that when acting, she has to prepare well, sink into the experience, devote herself wholeheartedly, and play each role selflessly.
She said that outside of life, she only does one thing well in her life, and that is to be a good actor.
She rejected enough exposure that had nothing to do with her work, so she had enough energy to practice her martial arts.
In the 30-year history of Chinese films, the reason why Gong Li is respected as "Gong Huang" is not only because of her atmospheric and natural beauty, her perfect acting skills, but also her unruly choice.
She is loyal to the role when she acts, and she is infatuated with herself when she lives.
This sense of boundary of "let Caesar what is Caesar, and let God's be God" is a scarce commodity in this era of "overexposure".
And this is precisely the crux of Wu Jing and Tao Yong's word-of-mouth reversal:
Don't really think that you are an all-round hero just because of your achievements in a certain field.
Do what you are good at, present it to others, settle your fragile level, and build yourself.
It is a pity that this bizarre world is trampling on "concentration" and "long-term love".
actors run to variety shows at every turn to expose their private lives;
The singer runs to the Gou Gou camp at every turn to earn a false name;
Policemen, teachers, racing to be bouncing Internet celebrities;
Parents with babies do not accompany their children well, and they do not leave their mobile phones to induce their children to take various jokes that expose their privacy;
The son and daughter-in-law who take care of Alzheimer's disease spoof the elderly in the name of "filial piety" change tricks every day, make everyone laugh, and turn around to bring goods live......
Too many people are addicted to the airtight show, constantly showing their love, filial piety, humor, humor, good popularity, and good heart......
I can't tell which is my real self and which is my acting self.
It wasn't until one day, from the false clouds, to the hard dirt that I knew:
Everything in this world has already been marked with a price, and it will be repaid sooner or later.
In fact, a really good actor and a good singer speaks with his works.
Real good mothers and good children live in the details without lenses.
People who truly love themselves, others, and all living beings are silent and joyful without making noise.
Yes, dear.
Those who are calm and sober are focused and quiet, transparent and comfortable.
Even if they are silent in the middle of the snowy winter, they still have a lush summer.
May you be so.
Happy Friday.
Thank you for reading to the end.