At the beginning, I wanted to ask the sisters, do you have a "good girl mentality" in your daily life-
◍ It's hard to say no to someone, and saying "no" can make you feel guilty.
◍ You care a lot about what others say about you, and you may even fall into self-blame.
◍ You want people to like you and feel that meeting their needs will win them approval.
◍ You're always saying sorry to others, even if it's not your fault.
◍ There is very little free time because you are always doing things for others.
◍ You are afraid of being called "outlier" by others, so you often pretend to be gregarious.
Like the sword of Damocles, hanging over a girl's head, it traps us with high expectations and controls our behavior until it becomes a shackle in our hearts.
Let's admit it, getting a "good girl" doesn't make a woman better.
Of course, this is not a kind of lip service, but what I see from the pop superstar "Moldy", Taylor Swift, who has recently become popular again.
At the age of 34 this year, she shined with the movie "Times Tour", with a Douban score of 9.3.
Once she was a good girl, dreaming of pink bubbles with a folk guitar in her arms, and meeting the expectations of the world. And now Taylor is obviously a "collapsed house" in the eyes of the public, no longer "sorry", no longer obedient, no longer dodging-
The occurrence of women's intellectual beauty often begins from the moment they know how to refuse and try to become "bad".
Not only Taylor, but I also distilled the rebellion and violence in other "bad" girls, and summed up a set of "Zhimei Girls Evil Girl Cultivation Code".
It doesn't have to be profound, it's not necessarily right, deep and right always belong to a good girl.
And I only hope that sisters, not to please others, but only to please themselves.
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I believe that the sisters can see that the so-called "evil girl" is not to encourage women to do evil, "evil" is just a means, we are still learning to make ourselves intellectually beautiful, and untie it from some disciplines-
Learn to be honest and reconcile with your heart's reasonable and normal desires.
Rather than being a good girl who "can be sent by all, and refusing to be worthy of torture", she wants to be free to define her own label.
Rather than obeying the rules of "good for you", I hope to set standards that are truly good for you.
Rather than having the talent to be liked, I want us to have the courage to be hated.
It doesn't matter if you don't learn, in the first month of 2024, we are all working towards a "better self" anyway.