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"Ding Dong", the WeChat prompt sounded, I picked up my phone casually and looked, and a strange and somewhat familiar name appeared in the new friend request. If you think about it carefully, it turned out to be a classmate from college, but it hasn't been in touch for many years. I couldn't help but wonder in my heart, why did he suddenly add me?
After passing the request of a friend, before I could say a few words, he said bluntly: "Old classmate, can you lend me some money?" "I was stunned, it was too sudden. My mind instantly began to tangle, to borrow or not to borrow? If so, how much?
I haven't seen him for many years, and he seems to be the sunny and cheerful big boy in my memory, and we have had some intersections in college, but they are not particularly close friends. Now I was suddenly asked to borrow money, which caught me off guard.
I began to think about it carefully. Emotionally speaking, after all, they are former classmates, and there is still some affection. Maybe he's really in trouble and urgently needs a sum of money to tide him over. If I can help, I've done a good thing.
However, from a rational point of view, I have not been in touch for many years, and I do not know anything about his current situation. Why did he borrow money? Was there a real emergency, or was there something else? Does he have the ability to pay back on time? These are all unknowns. Moreover, it is easy to borrow money and difficult to repay, in case he does not pay it back, what should I do? Isn't this money in vain?
I'm reminded of some of the news and stories I've seen before, where a lot of people have fallen into awkward situations because they've lent money to others. Some friends borrowed money and disappeared without a trace, while others kept shirking and didn't pay it back, and even turned against each other in the end. I don't want to ruin my old friendship by borrowing money.
But if you refuse directly, it seems a little impersonal. After all, everyone can have a hard time, and maybe I will need help one day in the future.
So, how much is the right amount to borrow? Borrowing too much will also be stressful for me myself, and the risk will be greater. Borrowing too little doesn't seem to be interesting enough.
I decided to talk to him first to find out what was going on. I asked him, "Why do you suddenly want to borrow money?" Did something happen? He replied that he had recently encountered some financial difficulties, and that his family was sick and needed money urgently for surgery. Hearing this, my heart softened all of a sudden.
I started to waver, thinking if I might as well lend him some. But there was still some hesitation, worried that what he said was not true. After all, there are also some people in society who cheat money under various guises.
I continued to ask him about some details, such as the name of the hospital, the specific condition of his family, and so on. He answered them all, and it sounded reasonable. I thought to myself, maybe he was really in trouble, and I should help him.
But just as I was about to say yes to him, it occurred to me that how could I easily believe him just by his words. Should I think twice about it? So I said to him, "I don't have much money to spare right now, I have to look at my finances before I can lend you how much I can lend you." ”
After putting my phone down, I began to think deeply. I thought about a time when I had financial difficulties, and how much I wished I could have someone to help me. If I reject him now, will I make him feel disappointed and helpless?
I carefully recalled my impressions of him in college, trying to find some clues from my memories that could judge whether he was trustworthy or not. However, so much time has passed, and those memories have become blurry.
After struggling for a long time, I decided to contact a few other college classmates first and ask them if they knew anything about him. After some inquiry, I learned that his job after graduation was fairly stable, but he did seem to be in some trouble lately.
This made me even more entangled. On the one hand, he has a stable job, which means that he has a certain ability to repay; On the other hand, he doesn't seem to be in a small amount of trouble.
I mentally weighed the pros and cons over and over again. If we lend it to him, it may be risky, but it may also help him and maintain our friendship with our classmates. If I hadn't borrowed, I might have avoided some trouble, but I might also have lost a friend I once had.
After a few days of struggle, I finally decided to lend him some of the money. But I also made it clear to him that this is the most money I can come up with, and I hope he can pay me back as soon as possible. He said yes and was very grateful.
After transferring the money to him, I was still a little nervous. I don't know if I made the right decision, and I don't know what the future holds.
As the days went by, he would occasionally contact me at first to say something thankful. But gradually, there was less and less news of him. I began to feel a little uneasy in my heart, wondering if he had forgotten to pay back the money.
After a few months, I couldn't resist asking him when he would be able to pay it back. He said at first that if he waited, he would pay me back as soon as possible. But then, his replies became more and more perfunctory, and sometimes he didn't even reply to me.
My heart suddenly cooled in half. I began to regret my decision, why did I trust him so easily? Well, now, the money may not come back.
I fell into deep self-reproach and remorse. I felt like I was too stupid and too easy to trust others. I began to reflect on my own behavior, why didn't I be more cautious about borrowing money?
However, regret is useless. I can only try to accept this reality and find a way to get myself out of this shadow.
I realized that when faced with something like borrowing money, you can't just rely on emotions and impulse to make decisions. We need to analyze and judge more rationally, taking into account all possible scenarios and consequences.
At the same time, I also learned that even former friends can't be trusted without reservation. In this complex society, we need to maintain a certain vigilance and not allow ourselves to be easily harmed.
After this incident, I became more mature and sensible. I learned how to better handle relationships and money.
I've also learned that helping others is a good thing, but we need to be within our power and make sure we don't lose too much.
Later, I encountered a similar situation a few more times. But this time, I was no longer as hesitant as I was last time, and I was able to make a decisive decision. For those I consider reliable, I will lend them some money appropriately, but at the same time be clear about when and how to repay the loan. For those I don't trust much, I would politely decline.
As time went on, I let go of my resentment towards that college classmate. Maybe he really had a big difficulty and couldn't pay back the money on time. I chose to believe in the inherent goodness of human nature, hoping that one day he would remember the money and give it back to me.
In life, we will always encounter all kinds of people and things. Borrowing money was just one of the episodes, but it taught me a lot of valuable life lessons.
I learned to stay calm and rational in the face of difficulties and choices, and not to get carried away by emotions. I've learned to cherish the friends I can really trust, but I also learned to protect myself.
Although the experience of borrowing money was not good, it made me grow a lot. I believe that in the future, I will face all kinds of challenges and difficulties more calmly.
And that college classmate, maybe one day we will meet again. At that point, I hope we can laugh it off and stop wrestling with the money. After all, there are many more important things in life that deserve our attention and pursuit.
In interpersonal interactions, borrowing money often reflects a lot of human weaknesses and complexities. We need to learn to protect ourselves while also giving appropriate help to others.
Sometimes, borrowing money is not just a monetary transaction, but also a test of trust and camaraderie between people. We need to be cautious and not careless.
In the future, I will meet more people and things, and I will face more choices and challenges. But I believe that as long as I keep a kind and rational heart, I will be able to make the right decision and walk out of my own wonderful life.
Whether it's borrowing money or something else, we need to learn from every experience and constantly improve our abilities and wisdom. Only in this way can we gain a foothold in this complex world and live the life we want.
Perhaps, this is what life brings to us. It allows us to grow through setbacks and difficulties, and makes us stronger and more mature. Let's cherish every experience, whether it is good or bad, they are precious treasures in our lives.
I hope he will get through this, and I hope our friendship will survive this test.
As the days passed, I never received any news from him that he had paid back. I started to be a little anxious and a little worried. I tried to contact him, only to find that his WeChat no longer replied to me. I had a foreboding feeling in my heart that he might really be in some big trouble.
I decided to go to his house to find him and see what the hell had happened to him. When I knocked on his door, I saw a man with a haggard face and tired eyes. When he saw me, he had a look of embarrassment and guilt on his face.
He told me that his family was getting sicker and needed more money for treatment. He had already borrowed all his relatives and friends, and he really had no choice but to come to me to borrow money. He said he would pay me back as soon as possible and hoped I could give him some more time.
I looked at him, full of contradiction and helplessness. I know he's having a hard time right now and needs help. But I also have my own life and pressures, and I can't wait like this forever.
I thought about it for a long time and finally decided to give him another chance. I said to him, "I can give you some more time, but you also have to promise me that you must pay me back as soon as possible." I also have my own life and I can't worry about your things all the time. ”
He looked at me gratefully and nodded his head. He said he would do everything he could to pay me back as soon as possible and would not let me down.
Since then, I haven't reached out to him. I didn't want to put pressure on him, and I didn't want him to feel like I was pressing him back. I just silently followed his life, hoping that he would be able to get out of the predicament soon.
A few months later, I suddenly received a WeChat transfer from him. He said he had finally scraped together enough money and gave it back to me. A stone in my heart finally fell to the ground, and I felt extremely relieved and relieved.
I know that this money can be a huge burden for him. But he still insisted on giving it back to me, which showed me his integrity and responsibility. I am confident that he will be able to get through this and start his life again.
This experience of borrowing money made me deeply appreciate the complexity and fragility of human nature. When faced with money and benefits, many people will expose their true nature. But there are also some people who are able to stick to their moral bottom line and will not lose their principles because of temporary difficulties.
I am very glad that I was able to meet such a friend, who showed me the beauty and goodness of human nature. I also hope that I can be the kind of person who can not hesitate to lend a helping hand when others need help.
Although borrowing money seems simple, it contains a lot of life philosophy. It teaches us how to get along with people, how to deal with relationships, how to choose between interests and morals.
I believe that this experience will make me more mature and sensible, and it will also make me cherish my friends and loved ones around me more. I hope that everyone can meet such friends in life, and I hope that everyone can become such friends.