Do you still remember Ren Xianqi's lyrics? "Falling in love is always simple, but getting along is too difficult." ”
This is also the helplessness of many people in the relationship, which eventually leads to a lot of breakups. If you break up with a man who doesn't love you, don't force yourself to make amends.
So how do you deal with this situation better? I think the best way to do that is to actively disconnect. Let me talk about how to take the initiative to disconnect with a man and live a better life, I hope it will help you.
1. Delete all contact information
Don't be soft-hearted, you need to make up your mind to delete all his contact details. Although this step may seem simple, it is actually not easy for many people to do. After all, these contact details are the emotional bond between you, and once deleted, it means that the connection between you is completely severed.
However, long pain is better than short pain, and only by doing so can you get out of the shadow of pain faster. After deleting your contact information, you may feel uncomfortable and empty for a while, but as time goes by, you will find that you can still live a wonderful life without him.
2. Don't reach out to him
After the disconnection, you may be tempted to contact him, which is a normal reaction. However, you must resist your impulses and not reach out to him. Because doing so will only make you more miserable, and it will also make him less likely to value you or look down on you even more.
When you stop reaching out to him, he may lose his breath and start noticing your presence and even reach out to you. At this time, you must stay calm and do not reply to his messages easily. Doing so will not only let him know your determination, but you really can't be soft-hearted in this step, otherwise you will have to continue to face a man who doesn't love you.
3. Start a new life
In addition to not reaching out to him, you can also try to start a new life. For example, you can try to get in touch with some new circles, make some new friends, or do things that you didn't do when you were together before, so that your life becomes more colorful.
Doing so will not only allow you to divert your attention and reduce your pain, but it will also allow you to discover more beautiful people and things. When you start a new life, you will find that the world is big and beautiful, and the man who does not love you is just a small episode in your life, and it is not so important whether he exists or not.
Fourth, make yourself better
In the process of disconnection, you can also work hard to improve yourself and make yourself better. For example, you can improve your charm through studying, exercising, beauty, etc. When you become better, you will find that your mindset has become more positive.
And the man who doesn't love you will gradually be forgotten by you in the process of becoming better. In addition, you can enrich your life by cultivating your hobbies and expanding your social circle, so as to make yourself more attractive.
5. Accept his unlove
After the disconnection, you need to accept his unlove. This is one of the crucial steps to let go of a man who doesn't love you. You have to understand that love is two-sided, and it is not something that you can maintain through the efforts of one person. Why should you humbly love such a person when he no longer loves you?
Therefore, you have to be brave enough to face reality and accept his unlove. Only then will you be able to get out of the shadow of pain faster. When you have illusions about him, tell yourself directly: This man doesn't love me, why do I think so much?
Sixth, don't pay attention to his dynamics
Once you've decided to disconnect, don't pay attention to his dynamics. This includes not learning about his current situation and dynamics through social media, Moments, etc., and not asking friends about him, which will only make you even more unable to let go of him.
Therefore, you need to completely ignore his dynamics, let yourself gradually disappear from his world, and let him slowly disappear from your world, as if it were a dream. When you stop paying attention to him, you will find that your mood becomes lighter.
7. Find new love
Finally, and the best way, is to start a new relationship. Although love is hard to come by, don't hesitate when the opportunity comes, you have the right to pursue your love, especially when you have successfully come out of the shadow of pain, and there is nothing wrong with finding a new love.
Of course, that's not to say you need to rush or find someone to fill the void with. On the contrary, you should keep an open mind and a positive attitude to meet new people and develop new relationships. Only then will you be able to fall in love freely like a normal person.
I hope the above methods will work for you, because it takes courage and determination to cut off contact with a man who doesn't love you, but only by taking the initiative to disconnect can you get out of the predicament and start over. It's a difficult and painful process, but you have to be brave enough to come out of it in these ways to become more mature.