Ma Weidu once said:
"The best days for a person are thirty-five to fifty-five years old, and I dare to say that these twenty years are your golden age, and what you want to do and do is these twenty years. ”
Life before the age of 35 is the stage of accumulation of knowledge, experience and emotion, and it is the time of spring.
After the age of 35, life matures and has a rich cultivation.
Whether we are successful or not, we should take care of our lives between the ages of 35 and 55.
01
Running a marriage
At the age of 35, he has entered middle age.
Marriage has also reached the stage of the "seven-year itch".
Some people will be confused: "Why is it good when you are in love, but there are so many problems when you get married?"
In fact, the essence of love is a "feeling", and the essence of marriage is a "management".
When you fall in love, you just need to look at each other by feeling.
But marriage is like a partnership to start a company, there is no shortcut, only management, joint resistance to risks, and joint generation of more value.
Guo Moruo, a generation of writers, has three wives and one lover in his life.
In the love stage, he was very attentive to everyone, but once he got married, he felt that everyone was very bad and gave up on it.
Of the last four women, two hanged themselves, and two held a lifelong grudge against him.
He had more than a dozen children, most of whom refused to recognize him as a father.
Guo Moruo was lonely in his later years, indulging in copying the diary of his dead son, which can be described as extremely desolate.
Playing with one's marriage may not be a problem when it is going well, but if it reaches a low point in life, there is really nothing left if you lose your family.
Looking back, those happy couples may not be rich and rich, but they definitely know how to manage their marriage:
One is working hard outside, the other is running a family inside, without complaint or regret;
Hand in hand with the streets and alleys, cook the fireworks in the world, and enjoy it;
Small things give way, big things support each other, and we are in the same boat through thick and thin.
When people reach middle age, they must treat their partners well and manage their marriages well.
Because the warmth and laughter flowing at home are precious that no amount of money can buy.
02
Business education
A child is a blank slate, and what is written on this blank sheet of paper depends on the parents.
If you want to teach your children well, there is no other way than to lead by example.
I've seen a picture like this:
On the subway, two pairs of mother and son sit next to each other.
A mother and son, the mother is reading, and the son, seeing this, also takes out a book from his schoolbag and reads it with relish.
And the mother and daughter, the mother happily swiped the short video, and the daughter was attracted by the sound and also leaned over to look at the phone together.
The comparison between the two may foresee the different fates of the two children in the future.
A netizen in Zhihu asked: What habits of your parents have affected your life?
A netizen replied:
"For more than ten years, my dad insisted on getting up at 6:30 every day to read and recharge.
And my mother, whenever she has free time, will pick up books and read them carefully.
Every day after dinner, my parents would meet downstairs to play ball or go for a run, and when they came home, they would always be happy to exchange the benefits of exercise.
Years later, I realized that these were "deliberate" education by my parents.
In the past, I couldn't get up in the morning, I was sleepy when I read a book, and I was lazy when I exercised, but when I saw that my parents were still insisting, I suddenly felt that getting up early was not so painful, reading seemed not so difficult, and exercise became a daily habit. ”
It can be seen that teaching is a long road, and only example is a shortcut.
No matter how good a teacher is, he or she can't compare to the words and deeds of his parents, and no matter how good a school is, he can't compare to his parents who nurture them carefully.
From today onwards, in front of your children, you must lead by example. Only when we become a better version of ourselves can we guide our children to become better people.
03
Managing Contacts
When we reach middle age, we have a clearer understanding of networking.
The Stanford Research Center has published a survey report stating that:
12.5% of the money a person earns comes from knowledge and 87.5% from connections.
Farage, one of the nation's top networking experts, wrote about his own personal experience in "Don't Eat Alone":
When he was younger, he worked as a caddy in a wealthy family.
As long as it's his turn to be on duty, he'll do everything.
On the morning of each game, he walks the entire course to find every green and test the speed and direction of the ball rolling on the grass.
With his help, his employer was always invincible.
In this way, Farage became a close friend of the rich man, and the same rich man became the biggest help for him to develop his career in the future.
The influence of circles on a person is huge, and what kind of people you associate with, what kind of person you will become.
reminds me of a paragraph I saw on the Internet before:
In the circle of ordinary people, they talk about idle things, earn wages, and think about tomorrow;
The circle of businessmen talks about projects, makes profits, and thinks about the next year;
The circle of entrepreneurs, talking about opportunities, earning wealth, thinking about the next ten years.
In the second half of your life, you have to learn to manage your own network, less useless socializing, and more capable and valuable people.
It is these people who will take you to a higher position and meet a better version of yourself.
04
Business life
I've seen a wonderful explanation about "life":
Someone asked the wise, "What is life?"
The wise man replied: "To live is to be born crying and to live with a smile." ”
From the moment we are born, we are destined to have many unsatisfactory, unfair, loss and melancholy with us throughout our lives.
People who know how to treat life wholeheartedly can live their lives brightly, even in the most difficult times.
Writer Mang Xiaomang once shared his mother's story.
When she was a child, her family was very poor, but her mother always tried her best to make life poetic.
Although the house was small and dilapidated, my mother always kept it spotlessly clean;
Mother also planted all kinds of flowers and plants in the yard, so that there are flowers to enjoy in every season;
In the poorest days, when the family couldn't afford to buy vegetables, her mother took her out to dig wild vegetables in the name of spring outings, and then taught the children to make wild vegetable bags.
It is the mother's intentions that make the poor days vibrant.
In this life, everyone will encounter many unpleasant things.
If we blindly feel sorry for ourselves, it will not help, but if we look down on suffering and live an active life, we can also taste a little joy from it.
As the saying goes:
"If you're bored all day, it's going to knock you down with one punch and two kicks.
If you worship it in all its ways, it will spoil you and turn you upside down. ”
After the age of 35, only by operating with a steaming heart will you feel that life is bright and everything is lovely.
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Drucker, the father of modern management, said:
"If life is compared to a company, we are the best managers of our own company. ”
An excellent enterprise is inseparable from proper management.
The same is true of life.
Marriage, Education, Networking...... We need to operate with our hearts.