As the saying goes, things gather like and people are grouped.
If you are with any kind of person for a long time, you will unconsciously become that kind of person.
"Xunzi" has clouds:
"If you fly with the phoenix, you will be a handsome bird, and if you walk with a tiger and wolf, you will be a beast of fierce. "One
What an individual's life will look like and how far he can go depends largely on who he chooses to walk with in the first place.
Before the age of 30, Zeng Guofan was a stunned young man with a hot temper and fighting with others at every turn, and like many ordinary people, he had many shortcomings.
After entering the Hanlin Academy, in such a place where talents from all over the country gathered, Zeng Guofan soaked in it for a long time and found many top talents with good temperament.
These people were not like his old friends, they were believers in science.
They are strict with themselves, sincere and serious in their treatment of others, and firm in the face of rolling red dust.
Zeng Guofan envied these people and wanted to be like that. So in the year of his establishment, he set himself the ambition of "learning to be a saint".
Later, Zeng Guofan was ruthless to his shortcomings, and finally achieved the legend of "Inner Saint and Outer King".
Zeng Guofan's process from an ordinary person with mediocre qualifications and many shortcomings to becoming a king and becoming a saint is inseparable from the surrounding environment and outstanding talents.
If Zeng Guofan hadn't been admitted to the Jinshi and came to the Hanlin Academy, in the isolated and backward place of his hometown, he might never have thought of becoming a saint. Because of the people around you, the surrounding environment has too much influence on a person.
Otherwise, Mencius's mother would not have worked tirelessly to move with her son again and again.
As the saying goes, "Only by being close to excellent people can you become better and better." ”
For ourselves, if we want to be better, we need to find a way to put ourselves in a good environment first.
Whoever you want to be, get close to that kind of person first.
Excellent people will bring people cognitive subversion.
His field that you have never set foot in or know little about, looking at the same thing from another dimension, his point of view comes from the refinement of experience, and it is bound to give people a new perspective.
Mo Yan said:
"The greatest luck of a person is not to pick up money, but one day you meet a person who breaks your original thinking.
It raises your awareness, which elevates your realm and takes you to a higher realm. ”
"The World" is a hit, and the mother-in-law of Zhou Bingyi, the son of the Zhou family, is transparent, rational, and well versed in the rules of officialdom, and is the mentor of his career and even life.
Relying on the assistance of his mother-in-law, Zhou Bingyi grew rapidly in the workplace, rising from the deputy director of the General Department to the secretary of the Municipal Party Committee and finally to the central cadre.
When there was a desertion in the marriage, the mother-in-law's meaningful words woke up Zhou Bingyi, so that he would not ruin his family and career.
Zhou Bingyi was born in a working family, and his parents were just hard-working ordinary people who could not help his career.
As the mother-in-law of a senior cadre, she is the Bole who carved Zhou Bingyi.
It can be said that the subversion brought to Zhou Bingyi by his experienced mother-in-law is unparalleled, and without the support of this wise man, he would not have reached the top.
Zhou Bingyi knows how to seek advice from the nobles around him and is willing to listen to his mother-in-law's teachings, because he clearly knows that maintaining communication with excellent people from time to time is a shortcut to his rapid growth.
Benjamin, a famous educator, once received a call from a young man asking for advice, and made an appointment with the young man who was eager for guidance.
When the young man came as promised, he saw that Benjamin's room was in disarray.
Before he could speak, Benjamin beckoned:
"My room is too messy, please wait outside the door for 1 minute, I'll tidy it up, you come in again. ”
Then, he closed the door.
In less than a minute, Benjamin opened the door again and welcomed him warmly into the living room.
At this time, he saw a tidy room with two glasses of red wine on the table.
But before he could ask the question, Benjamin politely said, "Cheers." You're good to go. ”
The young man was stunned, and he said embarrassedly and regretfully, "But I haven't asked you for advice yet?"
Benjamin said softly:
"Haven't you seen enough in these 1 minutes?"
After hearing this, it dawned on the young man that he understood that he could do a lot of things and change a lot in one minute.
This is the one-minute rule: if you're willing to act, one minute is enough to change a lot of things.
I recently read Isakosen's biography of Leonardo da Vinci, which mentions that da Vinci would write down in his notebook every day what he would do today:
Find a mathematician and talk about triangles, consult a hydraulicist about how to build a canal, study the wings of birds and see the mysteries of their flight.
There were many tasks on this day, but da Vinci successfully completed them all and made a new plan the next day.
Leonardo da Vinci's strength lies in his ability to assign difficult tasks to himself and complete them within the specified time, without reducing his efficiency.
A lot of great achievements are actually made up of tiny units.
Compared with fantasy, only when everything is done first, walking on the road, and walking non-stop, will the beauty gradually get closer.
You know, no matter how perfect the plan is, if you don't implement it, it's equal to zero.
No matter how good the idea is, it can only have results after it is executed.
Life never rewards you for what you want to do, but for what you do.
Write at the end
"Zengguang Xianwen" has clouds:
"Friends are respectful and far away, and friends are respectful and close. Make friends and choose morality, not to judge whether you are rich or poor. ”
In ancient times, Meng's mother moved three times, which made us understand that a good environment is very helpful for people living nearby to grow into excellent people.
As the saying goes, the environment still has an impact on those who are mentally mature, not to mention those children whose minds are not yet mature, and it is difficult for them to grow into outstanding people without a good environment.