In the process of becoming a father, middle-aged men need to have a broader vision and more far-reaching thinking. They need to learn to be a father of a big picture, not only for themselves, but also for the happiness of the family and the future of their children.
As a father of a big picture, the first thing to pay attention to is "three don't say".
First of all, don't say anything about complaining about your father. The power of a father's example is endless, and children learn many things from their fathers, including attitudes towards family and life.
Secondly, do not say words that hit the child. Children need encouragement and affirmation, not disapproval and belittlement.
Finally, don't say the words of crying poor. The family's economic situation may not be satisfactory, but the father should establish the right values and wealth outlook for his children through his own efforts and struggles.
Fathers should also pay attention to the "three no-helps".
First of all, don't help your child with his studies. Learning is a child's own business, and fathers should encourage their children to complete homework and exams independently, rather than completing learning tasks for their children.
Second, don't help your child do things that he or she can do independently. Fathers should let their children learn to deal with problems and life independently, instead of relying on their fathers for everything.
Finally, don't help your child with his or her own ideas. Fathers should respect their children's choices and decisions, so that children learn to think and make decisions independently.
Fathers should also pay attention to the "three unaccustomed".
First of all, there are no rules. The family needs to have certain rules and discipline, and the father should set reasonable house rules and ask the children to follow them.
Secondly, I am not used to being lazy to eat. Children need the qualities of hard work and diligence, and fathers should guide their children to develop good habits through the power of their own example.
Finally, I am not used to spilling and cheating. Children need to learn to respect others and follow the rules of society, and fathers should teach their children the correct code of conduct and ethics.