My grandmother was a very, how to say, a traditional woman who was a man of nature, cowardly and undisciplined, and so timid that I couldn't understand it.
To give a simple example: I was pushing her in a wheelchair, and it suddenly rained on the road, and I couldn't buy an umbrella, so I ran into the nearest clothing store and asked for an oversized plastic bag to cover half of her body.
When she found out that I had asked for a plastic bag, she was shocked and asked me: Won't people scold you?
I:...... What am I doing, people are going to scold me?
Her: You're looking for someone to ask for something, and they don't scold you or beat you?
I:...... I asked her if she had any umbrellas for sale. No. I asked if there were any big plastic bags that I didn't use. What am I guilty of? It's just a plastic bag. Moreover, I didn't say that I wouldn't give money (the other party didn't ask for it, just said a bag, take it). How can you be scolded?
She was still very worried, nervously grasping the wheelchair, pushing forward, for fear that people would chase her out and scold people, and at the same time babbled and persuaded me: Don't do such a thing next time, don't provoke others, you will be scolded. What should I do if I hit you?
I couldn't stop crying.
Also, I talked to her when I was a child. She wiped her tears and said how much she suffered when she was young, her mother-in-law abused her, and my grandfather didn't help.
I said, you're divorced.
She said that where was there a divorce in their time, a woman's divorce was shameful, shameless, and would be scolded by pointing at her backbone, she must think about the family, think about the children, and endure it, who doesn't live like this all her life, alas.
In addition, I will not talk about all kinds of other timid things.
Anyway, it's a very, very, very, very cowardly and cowardly old lady, a little daughter-in-law who is angry in the old society every day, and she will only wipe her tears when she encounters something, and sigh that her life is not good.
After I got married, she often said that I should cherish and live a good life, follow my husband, don't be tempered, don't be unforgiving, and will be scolded by my husband. He also said that I had a bad temper and didn't like to do housework, and I would be beaten by my mother-in-law.
Once when I was annoyed, I lied to her and told her that I was being raped, and I wanted to make up a story to encourage her.
She said in disbelief that my husband doesn't look like it, hey, how can there be a life without quarrels, just bear with it......
I lifted my pants and pointed to a large piece of the bicycle on my leg and said, "Grandma, it really hurts."
The little old lady immediately became anxious, and said with red eyes: Tell your father, tell your grandfather, and go to his house to reason. How unreasonable.
I said what should I do if people are unreasonable, what should I do if I want to beat someone, my grandfather is over 90 years old, and my father can't beat me alone, or I'd better endure it.
My grandmother said: You can't beat people, you can't beat people anymore - take me there, I've lived enough, I'll die in front of their house, and make their family unlucky in the future.
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I, a cowardly grandmother who has been timid all my life, a grandmother who doesn't dare to beat people and scold people, in the face of her granddaughter's domestic violence, the only way I can think of is to use my own life (superstition and curse) to make the other party unlucky.
Your own daughter, you still come to ask what to do?