I have to say that every woman's blessings are different.
Some women are born with a blessed life, they don't have to do any work, and they are pampered.
And some women are very pitiful. They are born to suffer, and their life circumstances are not good, and the conditions are not good.
It's really embarrassing.
People who are over 40 still rely on their parents to help their fate, I'm afraid it's difficult. It is more practical to rely on oneself to cultivate blessings.
Women who turn 40 have to face a series of life challenges. The more you go to these 3 places, the less blessings you have.
01 The Land of Gossip
In reality, women who are over 40 years old sometimes hide a lot of grievances in their hearts. This grievance is naturally difficult for a person to digest.
Some women hope that others will gossip with them to vent their anger. That is, everyone gets together and scolds their husbands and mothers-in-law.
But in fact, this is not a very good way to deal with it.
Long-term scolding will breed anger in the heart and make the whole person become cynical.
And for the problems at home, there is often no help, and it cannot be solved at all.
For example, a relative of mine often goes to her peers to talk about her family troubles.
Then after complaining for a few years, she herself was often provoked by so-called friends because of her lack of assertiveness, and went home to make trouble with her family.
This creates more estrangement from the family.
And she made herself very aggrieved.
This did not solve her problem, but only aggravated it.
In reality, if there is something unhappy in the heart, you need to face this problem head-on and solve it.
Instead of gossiping with people.
That is not a fundamental solution, and it will also strengthen one's own grievances. In the end, the mentality is even worse.
He even ruined his own family relationships.
02 Where too much vanity
In reality, when people reach the age of forty, in fact, there is not much room for development in terms of wealth.
If you want to get rich, you have already been rich. At this age, don't expect too much.
Therefore, in terms of consumption, we must be careful and have few desires. Be better for yourself.
If a person, after the age of forty, often goes to a vain place to spend.
That's not good for your self-cultivation, and it's not good for your wallet.
For example, I know an acquaintance who had a decent income in the past few years and often spends highly.
But now the income is not good, and I can barely make ends meet.
As a result, it is very difficult to retain that consumption habit.
Actually, it's not good. It's a bad heart.
If people are over forty, it is better to cultivate more self-cultivation.
If you look down on the material aspect, you can gain more freedom.
Otherwise, on the one hand, I really want it, and on the other hand, I can't be satisfied, isn't it difficult for myself?
03 A place where there are many men and women
In reality, women who are over forty years old are sometimes very aggrieved in marriage.
I really want to find an outlet for myself.
But don't just find other people of the opposite sex, it's not good for yourself.
For example, some women are attracted to men on the outside and think that they are very good and better than their husbands.
But in reality, this may only be one-sided.
If you really live together, you will find a lot of shortcomings, and you will even be intolerable.
Middle-aged women who have passed the age of 40 should stay away from these places of right and wrong, vanity, and places where there are many men and women.
Life is to stay away from some disputes and temptations in order to achieve a peaceful life. Are you right?