Whenever I think of myself in the age of sixties, gray hair, and faltering, I always sigh that life flies, and time is like an arrow. In my opinion, there is no greater happiness than spending the rest of my life with my beloved wife all the way. However, there will be a parting in life, who knows what fate will arrange for us? I often ask myself, if one day, my wife is gone, how will I spend the rest of my life.
So I had three things in mind, hoping to prepare my children for what I wanted and what I wanted.
First of all, you must not give up your future in order to repay it.
Children are the greatest concern and expectation of parents. Think about yourself from the time you are a baby, you have been educating and nurturing your children day and night, hoping that they will stand taller and go further. For most of the older generation, our biggest dream is to see our children succeed in their careers and live in peace and contentment.
But life is always a tragedy and tragedy. The last thing I want is that if my wife leaves me early, my children will give up their future and dreams in order to repay my parenting kindness, and accompany me through my old age every step of the way. I understand that my children are filial, but family and career can be taken care of. What I hope is that while accompanying me, my children can still pursue their dreams and bring glory to the family.
The second thing is not to interfere too much with the children's families.
When children grow up, they will naturally start a family. Those of us in the older generation are often in a hurry and want to point too much fingers at our children's marriage and family. As everyone knows, every family has its own way of life, and the established trajectory should not be changed without permission. Excessive intervention not only promotes children's dependence, but also makes it easy for them to become nosy in-laws in the eyes of others.
I often tell myself that my children's families are in charge of their own affairs, and that I only need to be a warm listener. Especially if the wife is gone, it will not be idle all day long, focusing too much on the children and becoming their roadblock. On the contrary, I try to give my children as much space as possible so that they can learn to face family life independently, which is my best support.
The third thing is that we must know how to be grateful and cherish the present.
The happiest thing in life is to rely on each other all the way and spend time hand in hand. My wife and I have also grown old together, spending more than 50 years together, experiencing ups and downs, birth, old age, sickness and death. We take care of a small home and live an ordinary and happy life.
If one day, my wife passes away suddenly, it will undoubtedly be a huge blow to me. But at the same time, I understand that birth, old age, sickness and death are the inevitable paths of life, and those who have a long future need to continue to live. I will tell myself to be grateful for my wife's companionship and dedication before her death, to be grateful for my current life, to grasp every minute and every second in front of us, and to complete our unfulfilled wishes.
Life is a long road, I am old and frail, and everything is unknown where fate will take me. I sincerely hope that my children will have a smooth life, and my wife and I will be white forever. In my twilight years, I can still walk into the warmth of my home, sit head to head with my dearest, listen to the songs and stories of my childhood, and reminisce about the past.
If all of this is in vain, I have no regrets. Because I know that the most precious thing in life is to share the foam with each other, and the most gratifying thing is to watch my children grow up strongly.
A dream, a story, is enough.