There is a good saying that finding a good wife is harder than making money.
Finding a wife who matches your heart will make you feel like looking for a needle in the sea.
I remember some time ago, I saw a report about a media reporter in the city who went to ask the local villagers how the marriage situation was in their village.
The old man sat outside the gate of his house, shook his head, and said, "There are about a few hundred families in our village, and there are young men of the right age everywhere, but there are only about 10 women who are suitable for marriage and still live in the village, and the ratio of men and women is seriously out of balance!"
After listening to those words, the reporter asked, "Do you think the man's chances are lower than the woman's?"
And the old man said with deep helplessness: "Actually, that's not what it meant. As long as the woman is willing, she can find a suitable partner regardless of her health status. But it's different for men, and their chances of marriage are really pitiful. ”
To be honest, I don't know if this news has been put on the Internet now. However, what the old man said was a real problem in many rural areas.
The other day, I stumbled upon another photo of a wedding.
Judging from the photos, the groom is in his 40s, and the bride is only about 25 years old, and the two had a very simple wedding. The bride only received a bride price of 60,000 yuan from the man, and confiscated everything else, just kept looking forward to it.
Normally, if this is an older groom marrying a younger girl, they will usually increase the amount of money as a bride price, but because of the special circumstances of the bride and the man's financial constraints, they only give 60,000 yuan in the end.
In the shot, the bride sits quietly on the bed, calmly waiting for the ceremony to begin, while the groom looks happy, sometimes looking at her, most of the time just to cooperate with the photographer's photo.
According to everyone's description, the bride seems to be a somewhat incomprehensible person, with a somewhat dull look in her eyes and a blank look. Although the relatives and friends around her are very happy, someone finally married her off, at least there is someone to comfort her when she returns to her parents' house after marriage.
Throughout the wedding process, everyone looked at them with mixed feelings.
Some people whispered in private, with such a big age gap between the two of them, can they really spend happy days together?
The bride didn't say anything from beginning to end, and she wasn't resentful of the groom. It's just that her communication skills are limited and she can't communicate well with people, although she used to live in the company of her family, but in the future, who can take care of her?
It is true that the groom is older, but as long as he truly loves the bride, then they will be able to go on well. After all, in the countryside, it is not easy to find a suitable partner. As long as they understand the importance of cherishing their family more than those women who only have fun and do not cherish their family, what's wrong?
No one wants to be physically disabled or look different. They also aspire to be like all women, to wear makeup and dress up beautifully every day, to have the opportunity to chat with three or five confidants, and to spend the rest of their lives with their loved ones. However, their birth background cannot be changed, and some may even be in good health as a luxury.
As parents, they only hope that their children can eat well and have someone to live with them in their old age, which is enough.
For those who are onlookers, they will always feel entangled in their hearts after seeing this scene, and at the same time, they sincerely hope that the bride can live happily. After all, marriage is such a thing, and you can only know the ups and downs when you have experienced it. Under such conditions, it is really a rare thing to get a good marriage, and I hope that the groom can treat her well, do his own responsibility, and not live up to the expectations of both parents.