Text / A veteran
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Note: In order to facilitate everyone's smooth reading, the article contains some fictional plots
In December 1976, I enlisted in the army, and in March 1991, I returned to the local government. In my 15 years of military career, many things have happened, and I have met many people, but the one that impressed me the most was in 1985 when I was an instructor and took new recruits, and a soldier's parent came to visit his relatives in the army.
In 1985, I served as an instructor in the 8th Cadet Squadron. At that time, in the 8th Squadron, most of the cadets were new soldiers who enlisted in the army that year. Since our troops are stationed in urban areas and the transportation is very convenient, there will be families of soldiers who come to visit their relatives every once in a while.
Because we know that the parents of the fighters miss their children when they come to visit their relatives in the unit, in the face of this situation, our squadron has also made a reasonable provision: When the parents of the soldiers come to visit their relatives in the unit, the squad leader and the district leader of the squad to which the fighters belong must report to the squadron, and then the squadron will make unified arrangements for food and lodging. At the same time, during the family visits of the soldiers' parents, the squadron cadres also meet with the soldiers' parents and explain to them the specific situation of the soldiers' training and life in the unit. Finally, the squadron cadres should also solicit the opinions of the soldiers' parents on the management of the troops, so as to facilitate the soldiers' future training and growth.
However, as soon as the number of parents who come to visit their relatives in the army increases, various situations will arise. For example, when some parents of soldiers come to visit their relatives in the army, they are very happy to see that their children have grown and improved greatly after joining the army, so in order to express their gratitude, they will warmly invite the squadron cadres to "sit down" in restaurants and restaurants in the urban area.
At the beginning, in the face of the enthusiasm of the parents of the soldiers, we would shake our heads and refuse, and then solemnly explain to them that the army has a rule that cadres are not allowed to eat out. After listening to our answer, some parents could only shake their heads in disappointment and give up. However, some parents, after listening to our answers, seized the "loophole" and thought that if they could not go out to eat, they would instead order a table in the dining hall of the military guest house, and then invite the squadron cadres to participate on the pretext of celebrating their children's birthdays.
In the face of this invitation, we were initially polite. But gradually, it caused dissatisfaction from some of the fighters' parents, saying that we were "big shelves" and "didn't give face". Because considering that some of the fighters' parents are still local leaders, and some local work still needs their support, we should not be too "reserved" and refuse them too many times. So in the end, at the kind invitation of some of the soldiers' parents, we made an exception and accepted their banquet at the army guest house.
I thought it would be once or twice, but what people didn't expect was that since this "opening" was opened, the phenomenon of soldiers and their parents inviting banquets to squadron cadres when they came to visit their relatives in the army has gradually increased. But think about it, if you go to one, it is difficult to refuse the second one, because if you don't go, this "bowl of water" will not be even. However, as the parents of the fighters invited more and more banquets to the cadres, I felt more and more that something was wrong, but I had no choice but to find a suitable reason to "brake" for a while. It wasn't until one day that a soldier's family came to visit their relatives in the army and said goodbye without saying goodbye, that I made up my mind that from now on I must refuse all banquets from the parents of soldiers who came to visit their relatives in the army.
That night, after dinner, I organized the squadron for a late roll call as usual. But when I called the name of the new soldier "Li Guolong", the fourth squad leader replied: "Li Guolong's father is leaving, so he asked for leave to send his father to the station." "At that time, after listening to the words of the fourth squad leader, I was very puzzled: why did Li Guolong's father not meet us, so he said goodbye.
So, after the roll call, I left the fourth squad leader behind and asked him about the situation. After listening to my question, the fourth squad leader lowered his head and said embarrassedly: "I told Li Guolong that I wanted his father to meet the squadron leader, but Li Guolong was unwilling to let his father meet the squadron leader. ”
After listening to the words of the fourth squad leader, I was even more puzzled, so I asked him, "Our squadron has always had the practice of meeting cadres when soldiers' parents visit relatives, why is Li Guolong reluctant to let his father see us?" ”
Hearing my question, the fourth squad leader was stunned, and then raised his head sharply and said: "Because Li Guolong saw that when the parents of other soldiers came to visit their relatives in the team, they all invited the squadron cadres to dinner, but his parents were farmers at home, he was the eldest son in the family, and he also had two younger brothers and two younger sisters, and the conditions at home were very poor. His father came to see him in the army this time, and borrowed all his relatives, but he only scraped together enough money for the round-trip journey, and there was no money to invite the squadron cadres to eat, so Li Guolong did not let his father see you, but sent him back overnight. ”
After listening to the words of the fourth squad leader and learning the truth of the matter, I suddenly felt ashamed and extremely guilty. Because of my "indulgence" of the soldiers' parents visiting their relatives and inviting the cadres to dinner, it has caused so much damage to the hearts of the new soldiers, where has the image of the cadres leading the troops gone, where has the army's fine tradition of "respecting cadres and loving the soldiers" gone, and where has the sense of purpose of serving the soldiers wholeheartedly gone.
Realizing my mistake and understanding the importance of the matter, I immediately told the squadron leader about the situation. After hearing this, the squadron leader was also very guilty. So after discussion, we decided to convene a meeting of the squadron cadres overnight. At the meeting, I first made self-criticism on the issue of accepting a banquet from the parents of the soldiers, and then I also deeply reflected on the harm that this incident brought to the construction of the squadron. Finally, the meeting decided: Starting today, all cadres leading troops in the squadron must strictly abide by the "eight prohibitions" and prohibit accepting gifts and banquets from the parents of soldiers; at the same time, it is also necessary to extensively carry out education on "respecting cadres and loving soldiers" throughout the squadron to further strengthen the relations between officers and men and between the army and the people.
Although the source of the problem has been eliminated, I know that the problem is still not completely solved. Therefore, at the roll call the next night, in addition to announcing the decision of last night's meeting, I also took the initiative to talk to the new fighter Li Guolong. In the course of the heart-to-heart conversation, I first sincerely apologized to Li Guolong and asked him to convey our apologies to his parents. At the end of the heart-to-heart talk, I also told him earnestly not to feel inferior, and that in the army, whether it is a cadre or a soldier, everyone is equal. "Disliking the poor and loving the rich" is also contrary to our purpose, and every cadre who leads the troops will also accept the supervision of the soldiers.
At that time, after listening to me, I didn't expect that Li Guolong would suddenly cry. At that moment, I was even more deeply aware of how much impact and damage my negligence had brought to Li Guolong's heart. Therefore, I once again sincerely express my apologies to Li Guolong. At the same time, I also told him that if he has any problems in the future, he must come to me in time to talk to him. After listening to me, Li Guolong nodded heavily, and then said, "Thank you, instructor, I understand what to do in the future." ”
Since then, the phenomenon of the families of the fighters giving banquets to the cadres when they come to visit their relatives in the unit has completely disappeared, the relationship between the cadres of our squadron and the soldiers has become closer, and the enthusiasm of our squadron for training has also become even higher.
After fifteen years of working and living in the army, in March 1991, I returned to the local government. In my local work, I often meet people who say "meaning", but that unforgettable moment of guilt in military life has always spurred me on and gave me the courage to say no to all "meanings".
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