53-year-old Sister Song's nanny career
The years are unforgiving, and now the 53-year-old Sister Song's face has gradually shown vicissitudes, but her eyes are full of unwavering light. 13 years ago, Sister Song had to choose to embark on the road of nanny, and she has been working for 13 years.
At first, Sister Song was forced by life - her family had changed, her husband died mysteriously, and she faced a storm of layoffs at work. With no source of income, and having to support the family alone and raise children who are still studying, Sister Song is struggling in the quagmire of livelihood.
Under the introduction of a friend, Sister Song came to the home of an elderly man to work as a helper. The first time she took care of the elderly, Sister Song was very scared, for fear that her service would not satisfy her employer.
But the warmth of the old man made Sister Song quickly let go of her worries - it turned out that many old people just hoped that someone could listen to their stories, everyone had their own unique life experience, and telling it to others was the only pleasure of the old people.
Sister Song found that she could use her spare time to learn some new skills to please the elderly. For example, learning massage can help the elderly relieve body aches; Learning to sing and dance can make the elderly happy.
Sister Song often walks, plays chess, and chats with the elderly, and the old people gradually treat her as their daughter.
Taking care of the elderly is not easy, but Sister Song finds satisfaction in her work. She hopes that her service can make the elderly feel respected and warm, and even if their children are not around, they can have a fulfilling and happy old age.
Sister Song's love was praised by the elderly, and they introduced Sister Song to other elderly people in need. Unexpectedly, there are really so many elderly people who need to be cared for and respected.
Sister Song is determined to pass on her love so that more elderly people who live alone no longer feel lonely.
First employer: a university professor and his wife
Sister Song's first employer was a retired university professor couple, both of whom had children who had started a family, and their busy work made them have no time to take care of the daily life of the old couple.
The old professors have been teaching at the university for many years, and after retirement, they are still often remembered by students and old colleagues, and their living conditions are very good. They live in an old apartment of 168 square meters next to the school, the house is spacious and bright, full of antiques, calligraphy, paintings, calligraphy and paintings collected by the old couple for half a century.
At first, Sister Song was worried that her cultural level could not match the two intellectuals, but after actually getting along, Sister Song found that the old couple was funny and easy-going, without any arrogance, and their amiable personality made Sister Song quickly let go of her worries.
Sister Song often listened to the stories of the two old professors when they were students while doing housework, and listened to them talk about the past and the present, and discuss academic issues, which benefited a lot. Sister Song also often cooks authentic southern dishes that the two old people like to eat, so that the old couple can taste the taste of their hometown, and the nostalgia in their hearts is also comforted.
Five years later, my father-in-law unfortunately passed away, and the grandchildren sent my grandmother to a senior nursing home, hoping that my grandmother could receive more professional care there, but my grandmother still missed Sister Song's warm companionship.
Second employer: Grandma Qin, an elderly person who lives alone
Grandma Qin is 79 years old, her children have settled abroad after going abroad for further study, her son in the United States is the president of a large company, and her daughter in the United Kingdom is a university professor.
Grandma Qin, who lives alone at home, is weak, and her children ask someone to find Sister Song, hoping that she can go to her grandmother's house to help take care of life.
When we first met, Grandma Qin was on crutches, wearing an old Mao suit, full of silver hair, and her expression})'. It's dark. Sister Song felt sorry for Grandma Qin's solitary life, and she knew that she finally had the opportunity to make an old man no longer feel lonely and desolate.
Sister Song patiently took care of Grandma Qin's diet and daily life, and often chatted with her grandmother and listened to her grandmother's reminiscences of the past. Gradually, grandma revealed a trace of anger, she would complain to Sister Song about the unfilial piety of her children, and she would also smile and share interesting stories about her youth with Sister Song.
Whenever she talks about her children, her grandmother's eyes show pride and expectation. Sister Song knows that grandma is still full of love for her children in her heart.
Sister Song warmed Grandma Qin, who lived alone, with her love, so that she could feel the warmth of home even if her children were not around. This job is not only Sister Song's profession, but also a mission.
53-year-old nanny Sister Song's work experience
Sister Song has been working in the nanny industry for 13 years, and she still vividly remembers the first time she took over the job.
That year, when Sister Song was 48 years old, her husband suddenly ran away from home, leaving her and her minor children at home. Sister Song took on the responsibility of taking care of the children and supporting the elderly alone, and the family's expenses were all borne by her.
Sister Song, who is not a manual worker, suddenly needs to work to support her family at this time, and the pressure can be imagined.
Inadvertently, Sister Song saw an advertisement looking for a nanny, who paid well and worked nearby. Sister Song hesitated again and again, but still mustered up the courage to apply.
Because the family really needs this income.
I remember that on the first day of work, Sister Song stood nervously outside the door of her employer's house, her palms sweating. Will this old couple like their strange self? Will they be able to take good care of their daily life? All kinds of anxious feelings filled Sister Song's heart.
Fortunately, the employer is a kind old man. They may have seen Sister Song's nervousness, and as soon as they opened the door, they greeted her with a smile and asked Sister Song to come into the house and sit down, bringing fruits and snacks.
Gradually, Sister Song relaxed, and she began to carefully observe the living habits of the elderly, write down their preferences, and try her best to take care of the old couple.
As the days went by, Sister Song gradually adapted to this job. What started as a sense of intimidation slowly turned into a sense of intimacy at home. Sister Song treats the old man as her elder, and the old man also relies on Sister Song's care.
In this way, Sister Song became an excellent professional nanny. Time flies, and in a blink of an eye, she has been working in this industry for 13 years. In the past 13 years, Sister Song has witnessed the regret that too many children are unable to take care of their parents due to their busy work.
This also made Sister Song sigh how difficult it is for a person to live in his old age.
The experience of the first employer
Sister Song's first employer was a pair of retired university professors, and their living conditions were very good.
The old professor has a good pension and lives in a spacious and bright house in a high-end apartment in the center of the city. The exquisite furnishings in the room and the famous paintings hanging on the walls show their cultural taste and affluent life.
It's just that this old man has a big problem, that is, the children who live alone in a foreign country. Many years ago, their children went to the United States to study and work, and eventually they all stayed in the United States for a long time, rarely returning to China to visit their parents.
Although the children have a happy family, they cannot accompany the elderly.
This pair of elderly people wants to get the company of their children rather than a life of material luxury. It's a pity that the busy children only rush home to visit during the festival every year, and then leave in a hurry.
The old man's heart was infinitely lonely and disappointed.
In this case, Sister Song's appearance was like a warm sun, shining into the old man's lonely heart.
Sister Song took care of the elderly's daily life, chatting, playing chess, and singing with them. Her patience and warmth slowly melted the loneliness and frustration in the old man's heart. The old man, who was originally hiding in his memories, has also regained the joy of life.
Sister Song is like the old man's relatives and has become the most important confidant in their lives. With Sister Song, the old man's face often showed a look of joy that he had not seen for a long time.
What happened to Grandma Qin, the second employer
Sister Song's second employer was 79-year-old Grandma Qin, and all her children had emigrated abroad for many years without returning.
Grandma Qin lives alone in the old house in her hometown, and her children ask the neighbors in the village to take care of them often, but the neighbors are also busy with the work in the fields and cannot take care of them often.
After Sister Song came here, she finally let Grandma Qin have someone to take care of. At first, Grandma Qin was still wary of this strange woman from a foreign country, for fear that she would be a treacherous person.
But Sister Song gradually dispelled Grandma Qin's doubts with a kind smile and patient and meticulous service.
Day after day, Sister Song takes care of the elderly's daily life and diet, chatting with her about family life, singing old songs, and telling ancient poems, which will also make the elderly happy. Grandma Qin gradually regarded Sister Song as her daughter.
Sister Song watched Grandma Qin frequently look out of the door, her eyes were full of longing, and she couldn't help but feel that the old man's hope for her children was so sincere and deep.
While Sister Song is working and serving the elderly, she is also reflecting on her life experiences. She hopes that when her children grow up, they will not forget the existence of the elderly because they are pursuing their own lives.
As long as you go home once in a while and chat, it can bring great comfort to the elderly.
The ups and downs of Grandma Qin's life made Sister Song realize that the maintenance of family relationships requires both parties to work together.
The feeling that the nanny job brought to Sister Song
In more than ten years of working as a nanny, Sister Song has seen too many similar stories.
When many old people are young, they look forward to their children's successful careers and they can live a happy and comfortable old age. They raised their children with hope and joy, but they never imagined that the ending would be so bleak.
After the children succeeded in their careers and had happy families, they left the old man behind. Their lives are so fast-paced that they don't even have time to take care of the mood of the elderly.
This is in stark contrast to the beautiful ideas of the old people.
Looking at the old man's eyes looking at his children full of expectation and faint despair, Sister Song felt infinite pity for them. She realized that in her old age, she must learn to rely on herself after all, and she cannot pin all her hopes on her children.
Sister Song began to reflect on her life. She wants to enjoy the joys of life in her energetic years, but also to prepare for old age in advance. For example, cultivate your own interests and hobbies, participate in more gatherings to enhance interpersonal relationships, etc., so that you can make your life colorful in your later years.
Sister Song also has to educate her children with her own experience, don't wait until you are old to regret today's estrangement. Children should learn to respect the elderly, and it is the least responsibility for them to go home often.
Old age will only be happy if both parties do their part.
You need to plan ahead for your old age
These years of work experience have made Sister Song realize that no one can take their old age life lightly, and they must start planning from now on.
First of all, we need to adjust our expectations and admit that there is a great deal of uncertainty in the traditional concept of "raising children to prevent old age". Children cannot be fully expected to take care of their old age.
Secondly, it is necessary to purchase health insurance in advance and have regular physical check-ups. Pay attention to diet and exercise to maintain physical and mental health. It is also necessary to save a certain amount of living expenses to ensure the financial resources of the elderly.
At the same time, we should also enrich the joy of old age through our own efforts. You can read more, learn crafts, travel, sports, etc., and cultivate your hobbies. It is also necessary to maintain interpersonal relationships through gatherings and contacts, and expand one's social circle to prevent loneliness in old age.
When you have financial security and a rich life, you can enjoy life even if your children are not around. Even when you feel lonely occasionally, you can chat with close friends and set off your loneliness.
Sister Song hopes that she can live a positive and enterprising life and accumulate life experience, so that she will have a rich spiritual world when she reaches old age. She believes that as long as she works hard, she will be able to create a happy and happy life in her old age.
How to view the responsibilities of children to the elderly
In these years of work experience, Sister Song is also reflecting on the responsibility between children and the elderly.
The responsibility of children for the maintenance and support of the elderly should be undertaken, but it should not be overly absolute. Because children also have their own families and careers to take care of, they cannot be by the side of the elderly all the time.
As an elderly person, you can express your desire to be cared for, but you can't ask for the company of your children in an absolute commanding tone. This can make children feel indebted to their parents, which in turn hurts the relationship.
In fact, the children have tried their best to provide for the elderly financially, which can be regarded as fulfilling the minimum obligations. As an elderly, we should also be grateful, and stop feeling disappointed or resentful that we can't see each other often.
Children need to balance responsibilities in all aspects, while the elderly need to take the initiative to let go and take a step back to understand their children's situation. If the elderly maintain an optimistic and cheerful attitude, even if their children do not have much time to go home, they will still feel the joy of family happiness.
Sister Song hopes that she can become an old man who can tolerate her children and take the initiative to plan her life. She will often talk to her children on the phone to share interesting stories about her life, rather than just complaining.
She believes that as long as both parties understand each other, the way to get along is not a problem.
Everyone is responsible for their old age
To sum up, through more than ten years of work experience, Sister Song has deeply realized a cruel truth: no one can completely rely on external forces to plan their old age, and everyone is responsible for their old age.
First of all, we must adjust our expectations and admit that there is great uncertainty in the traditional concept of "raising children and preventing old age". You can't put all the pressure and expectations on your children.
Secondly, it is necessary to ensure the financial resources of the elderly through savings and investment, and at the same time pay attention to physical exercise, cultivate hobbies, maintain interpersonal relationships, etc., so as to enrich their spiritual world.
Finally, we must learn to tolerate and understand our children, and take the initiative to let go of the reality that they cannot go home often. Maintain an optimistic and grateful heart and maintain a good relationship with your children.
Sister Song will work hard to reserve enough energy for her future life. She believes that as long as she is proactive, she will be able to create a happy and beautiful life in her old age.
This is also what Sister Song wants to say to everyone - don't deny your life because of temporary disappointment and loneliness. Establish a positive mindset and prepare for every stage of life, believing that happiness will be reaped in the end.