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Gentle upbringing
Edited by Yang Ying
Read aloud丨Liang Tingting
When her mother came home from work, Fei Fei immediately ran to her mother's side: "Mom, I'm hungry, why did you come back." The mother hugged Fei Fei, "heart and liver" and "baby" screamed, what did you eat at the "small dinner table" at noon, did you pay attention to drinking water at school, did you quarrel with your classmates, did you bump into it in physical education class, did you find something to eat when you came back hungry, and kissed her daughter on the face from time to time.
Although Fei Fei is already an 11-year-old girl, she is still the same as when she was a child, she loves to be tired of her mother, and she has to rely on her mother to think about everything for her. As for Mom, I think it's just such a daughter anyway, and I can't love it too much.
Enough intimacy, my mother remembered the stage test two days ago, so she asked Fei Fei if her grades had come down and how she did in the exam. Fei Fei said, "It's down." 95 in Chinese, 90 in Mathematics and 92 in English. ”
When my mother heard this result, she looked at Fei Fei's indifferent appearance, and her smiling face turned into a long face: "Are you still happy to be tested like this? You are in the fifth grade, and you will be admitted to middle school next year, why don't you have the slightest sense of worry!"
Fei Fei had an innocent expression: "What's the matter, I have scored more than 90 points in the test, and there are less than 80 points in our class." ”
The mother sat up straight, changed her serious look, and said to Fei Fei: "How do you know how to compare with each other! You are in the fifth grade, and you should understand the truth and importance of studying Xi seriously." But look at you now, you don't know how to study hard in a hurry, you don't know how to take care of your own things, you don't know how to take care of yourself, you have to worry about everything. ”
The more my mother talked, the more anxious she became, she didn't think there was anything wrong with her on weekdays, but now she remembered it one by one, and it became Feifei's problem at this time.
Fei Fei didn't seem to feel anything at all, her body twisted, and she wanted to lean on her mother: "Mom, why are you so cruel to me......" Mother grabbed Fei Fei, and there was no room for her to be coquettish: "Don't stick to me, I'll tell you seriously!" Fei Fei's little face changed suddenly, and she looked at her mother very aggrieved.
Some parents will be very casual and emotional in their attitudes towards their children, the way they discipline them, and the requirements for their children, depending on their own emotions, their views on something and their level of awareness of its importance, without considering what kind of impact this will have on their children's emotions and mentality.
Fei Fei's mother is like this, she is excessively pampered and indulgent in life, taking care of the child as a child, and always smiling, compliant, and caring for the child, lest the child have any mistakes, so that the child has no sense of independence and responsibility.
However, when encountering Xi problems, the mother requires the child to reach or even exceed the cognition that she should have at her age, and to be independent, conscious, and strive to achieve good results. The contradiction in the mother's attitude and behavior misaligns the child's biological age with her psychological maturity and tolerance, which is not conducive to the child's growth.
Anchor | Liang Tingting
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Editors: Liu Yan, Duan Shengqi