There are unpredictable circumstances in the sky, and people have good and bad luck.
Life is full of ups and downs, and I never know what will happen in the next moment.
Husband and wife are not in harmony, children are not angry, jobs are lost, income is not satisfied, the elderly in the family are sick, and they are calculated by friends...... In the face of adversity, it is useless for you to dodge.
If you want to face a dilemma, you have to have a way to face it, and you can't do it brutally.
In fact, whether life is difficult or not, the key lies in the "heart", as the so-called, the situation is born from the heart. When the mind is clear, there is a way to overcome difficulties, adversity will become good, and good luck will not stop.
Liu Bowen, the founder of the Ming Dynasty, was originally a student and official of the Yuan Dynasty, but because of bad luck, he left the officialdom and lived in seclusion. It wasn't until he met Zhu Yuanzhang that he showed extraordinary ability.
Some of Liu Bowen's words, if they can be understood, have a good guiding effect on life changes.
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"How can you be as good as you want, but you want to be worthy of my heart": when life is not going well, take a step back and be in a relaxed mood.
Liu Bowen's talent and achievements are admired. Later generations also said: "The three-legged Zhuge Liang dominates the world Liu Bowen." ”
However, he himself believes that life is flawed and unsatisfactory. As long as you have a clear conscience, you'll be fine.
His words have also become the mottos of celebrities such as Lin Zexu and Zou Taofen.
When many people are not going well, they will use alcohol to drown their sorrows, or smoke a few cigarettes to relieve their troubles in the smoke. There are also people who don't vomit unpleasantly and like to talk about their troubles with others. These routines are essentially "asking for trouble".
You tell the people around you about your inner pain, but the people around you don't understand you and ridicule you. Tobacco and alcohol will only harm you, and if you become addicted, it will harm you for the rest of your life.
The worst thing is that your parents will not understand you and think that you are too useless.
Let's say you fell out of love and told your parents. The parents casually said, "If you are looking for a partner, he is not the only one, and you can find it again, why are you crying?"
If you make your heart wide and can tolerate anything, it's different—I try, but I don't want to be perfect. Flaws, failures, and pain are also part of life, so let go.
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"Virtue is not wide can not make people come, and the amount is not macro can not make people safe": when life is not smooth, cultivate virtue and gather popularity.
The truth of virtue is well known to passers-by.
If you are not doing well, it may be that your virtue is not good enough, so the people around you are not willing to help you.
If you take the initiative to help others and smile at the people around you, the situation can change immediately.
After all, the premise of meeting a noble person is to become someone else's nobleman.
Relationships are mutual, never unilaterally flattering. Who is willing to find the warmth of the soul from a cold face.
Even if you meet a villain, don't be resentful, just smile and walk away. Although you don't get help, at least the other person won't be your scourge.
You are virtuous, you meet many noble people, someone pulls you, and everything changes immediately.
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"If there is nothing in the world, you can't abolish the military": when life is not going well, prepare and seek the long-term.
Many people are afraid and worried when things don't go well. And when he is very smooth, he makes the appearance of "the sky is not afraid of the earth".
People should learn to plan for a rainy day, instead of waiting for a bad time to arise and then rush to find a way.
In the decades of life, you have to base yourself on the present, and you also have to think about ten years later, after you get old.
For example, when you are middle-aged, you can make money, but you Xi used to eating, drinking, and having fun. When you are 60 years old, you find that you have no pension and life starts to be stressful. This is the "unhappiness" that I found.
When you are middle-aged, you will be diligent and thrifty, prepare pensions and houses, etc., and your old age will be smooth.
Things are different now. At this time, planning at that time is getting smoother and smoother.
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"Those who are versatile are fresh, and those who are worried are decided": when life is not going well, don't be busy, but focus.
Some people, eighteen kinds of martial arts, there is nothing that can't. But he really wanted to fight against people, but he lost badly. Because none of his martial arts are proficient.
There are also people who learn some kung fu that has no practical use, and in the end, they waste their youth.
Awesome people, do a line, love a line, and be single-minded.
A life is long, but you may not be able to do one thing in a lifetime.
If you have seen the story of the monkey breaking the corn, you will understand that when the monkey sees the watermelon, he picks up the watermelon, and when he sees the corn, he picks up the corn. When he saw the rabbit, he threw away the corn and chased after the rabbit. In the end, he was empty-handed.
If the monkey picks up the watermelon and goes home at the beginning, he can have a good meal, and the other processes are superfluous and troublesome in life.
As a person, there is nothing wrong with being a carpenter all your life and a driver all your life. If the technology is excellent, you won't have to worry about running out of food.
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"Frustrated things, eternal life in the will of its gains": when life is not going well, don't show off, bow your head.
There is a way that a man who commits iniquity shall not live.
Many people don't do things well, but they actually create obstacles themselves, not encounter unexpected situations.
Whatever you show off, you will lose something, and you will be calculated by others. Such a law has to be known.
A colleague of mine is ready to change jobs, and he has also found a unit to accept him. But he couldn't keep his mouth shut, and went around talking, thinking that he was very capable.
When a colleague resigned, he found that the other unit didn't want him anymore. Because someone secretly made trouble, listed the mistakes in the work of his colleagues and handed them over to the other unit.
On the surface, it is someone who makes a bad person and can't see the good of his colleagues, but in fact, it is his colleagues who show themselves. If a colleague is silent, things will be fine.
Zhuge Liang said: "If you are not indifferent, you will not have a clear ambition, and if you are not quiet, you will not be far-reaching." The reason is very similar to Liu Bowen's words. Anyway, keeping a low profile is a must in life.
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Life doesn't always go smoothly along the way.
It's like a sailing ship, there are times when there is a tailwind, there are times when there is a headwind, and there is a crosswind. The wind does not blow in one direction.
But smart people will adjust the sails and move slowly against the wind, instead of complaining about the weather.
If you do good deeds and accumulate virtues, maintain a good attitude, and have a big pattern, and do not seek fulfillment in life, then there is no so-called adversity.
Think about it, adversity is a test, a process, and further on, it will naturally reverse.
The real smooth sailing is actually a transparent heart and a smile on everything.
Author: Cloth Clothes Coarse Food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
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