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When people reach their old age, they will always be confused, thinking that they have worked hard for most of their lives, full of grievances, and they want to find someone to talk to, regardless of who the other party is, just listen to what they say.

When people reach their old age, these things are not unhappy, and there are many contradictions in family life

Young people know that their parents and grandparents' generation have suffered a lot, and now that life is better, children will indeed be extravagant and wasteful, but living conditions are like this, don't care if the children in the mountains eat or not, and wear new clothes.

If you are rich in your own conditions, you will not be able to understand them, and if you empathize with them, you will not understand people who are in pain if you have not experienced them.

When I was young, I suffered a lot of sins, and when I suffered from them, my ancestors all suffered, but now that the living conditions are better, we must not ask the children to live the life they used to have, and if there are no conditions, we should try to create conditions!

This kind of thinking is not healthy, even the elderly have to say, don't think like this, people are moving towards a better life, there are good days, but there is no basin to live a hard life.

Occasionally talk to the children about their previous life, just let the children feel it, but you can't say it every day, Dun Dun said, the child dropped a piece of steamed bun and didn't pick it up and eat it, it's okay to say a few words but can't go online.

Children always eat wasteful, never eat leftovers, you think it is wasteful, take it away and eat, there is no need to talk about eating grass roots and gnawing tree bark in the past, if children really have a deep understanding, they will not do this.

Young people have not experienced these difficulties, there is no way to understand, no matter how much their parents say, there are no books, teachers do not talk about these things frequently, and there is no such environment around them, they will not always take these things to the bottom of their hearts.

Parents mumble a lot, and their children will be annoyed, this is not disrespect, not filial piety, but repetitive broadcasts are really noisy, and anyone will be irritable if they are replaced.

The mother-in-law regards her son as very important, and she is always afraid that her daughter-in-law will bully him, and she will look at her daughter-in-law horizontally and vertically.

Preconceived prejudices are really nerve-wracking, and the daughter-in-law will dislike it or not, and the mother-in-law will dislike it, and she will find fault with it, just don't wait to see her, don't care how she looks, virtuous or not.

After the child gets married and starts a family, the old man will let go, not for himself but also for his son, he has to think about his son, originally left a very free son, for fear that he will be idle by his daughter-in-law, if he intervenes in his son's married life from time to time, it will definitely cause the daughter-in-law to be dissatisfied, and the result can be imagined that there are only two kinds:

(1) You help your son educate your daughter-in-law, and scold your daughter-in-law for your son, and your daughter-in-law is not a vegetarian, so she either fights with you or goes back to her parents' house, otherwise she will divorce directly.

If the mother-in-law can bear these three results, she will do it, and if she can't bear it, don't be reckless, and besides, if you drive your daughter-in-law away, your son will have to marry a daughter-in-law again, you still have to spend money, and if you can't change your competitive temper, your daughter-in-law won't stay for a long time!

(2) The son is dealing with you to his daughter-in-law, this result must not be what you want, the son who is hard to pull and pull, and the son who is loved by thousands of people actually helps outsiders to speak, and the mother-in-law is not sad that she can't eat, and she is married, the son and daughter-in-law are a family, and the family status will be much higher than yours, and the mother-in-law must understand this truth.

Everyone is an adult, and they have to be responsible for their actions and words, the mother-in-law is not used to her daughter-in-law, nagging in front of her face, nagging behind her back A few words, and saying for a long time without stopping, the daughter-in-law will definitely resist, and then it is the time to test the relationship between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law, it has really come to that step, the daughter-in-law does not come back, and outsiders laugh at your family, but if the child is younger, the child will not go back, and the mother-in-law can bear this result!

Learn to let go of the children's lives, don't care if they are daughters and sons-in-law, sons and daughters-in-law can't say this or that, they all have their own lives, it doesn't matter if they live well or badly, as long as they are safe and sound, bravely accept the ordinariness of children, mediocrity is a realm, and it is also a compulsory course in life.

A good family atmosphere is to eat quietly when eating, sleep quietly when sleeping, smile every day, forget about being unhappy, don't get entangled in drilling the horns, learn to let go and don't worry about idleness, don't say it first, most people don't appreciate it.

There are so many things inside and outside, such as your own family, other people's homes, relatives' homes, neighbors' homes, children's homes, earning money, spending money, providing for the elderly, life, wife, going out, yourself, God, if you put these things in your head, don't do anything, you have to think about one thing for many years, and thinking about it will also produce more things.

Time is turning, things can't stop, at this age, just take care of yourself, the things that should not be seen are left invisible, the things that should not be taken care of by yourself should not be managed, people go to high places, water flows to low places, people are old, it's time to rest, don't find yourself unhappy for inconsequential and trivial things.

The inner capacity is insufficient, and I can't pretend to be able to deal with things, no matter what, and finally I have to find strangers, outsiders complain, it's really meaningless, and it will affect family relationships and family atmosphere.

Write at the end:

The elderly are different from young people, young people say the wrong things and rely on their youth and ignorance, most people don't care, the elderly are not rigorous, they complain about life everywhere, they complain about their children, and they don't want to be seen if they talk a lot.

There is a regular loudspeaker at home that will really make people panic, and they will start scolding and scolding from time to time, saying that now, talking about the past, looking at this family is not pleasing to the eye, looking at the family that has no eye, let outsiders know, it is not good for the children, they will be jointly ridiculed, which will definitely affect the family relationship, so that there is no contradiction in the family contradictions, so that the already contradictory family is more confused.

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