This feeling in a relationship is a reminder to you: Run!

My friend Yaoyao was in a suffocating marriage for 6 years, during which she worked hard, but suffered from her husband's repeated mental infidelity and long-term PUA from his family.

Haruka painfully seeks self-proof, hoping that they will recognize their mistakes and stop attacking her, however, her efforts are to no avail.

Finally, one day, she decided, "I don't want it!"

Write on the back

I read a follow-up interview study in a magazine a long time ago about why many people fall into toxic relationships.

The author hit the nail on the head:

We can't live without bad relationships, sometimes on our subconscious level, and don't see "leaving" as an option.

Maybe we will keep telling ourselves at the rational level to escape from bad people and things and avoid being consumed;

But at the perceptual level (subconscious), because of unwillingness, because of narcissism, because of various sunk costs, we are making all kinds of efforts to keep these people and things by our side, which coincides with the theme of our comics today.

Many times, we need to keep reminding ourselves:

Don't, it can be a choice, don't, you can say it with confidence, don't, you can also make our lives reap a lot of good things.

In this way, we can keep the subconscious and the conscious on the same front, and when one does not fight, change is possible.

May we all follow every "don't" in our hearts and live a life that we really "want".

END.

Foot Ben / Luke

Illustration / Glutinous rice balls

Operation / Ozawa

Producer / Chen Maomao, Lu Ke, Xiao Ze

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