Tomorrow (January 10) is the fourth Chinese People's Police Day, the Central Propaganda Department and the Ministry of Public Security released the advanced deeds of 20 "most beautiful grassroots policemen" in the country in 2023 to the whole society, and among the newly elected 20 "most beautiful grassroots police", Chen Fei, a community police officer of Yangjiabu Police Station of the South Taihu New Branch of Huzhou Public Security Bureau, is on the list.
"The Most Beautiful Grassroots Police" is an advanced figure organized and selected by the Central Propaganda Department and the Ministry of Public Security since 2019. So far, it has been held for 5 sessions.
In each session, among the 20 "most beautiful grassroots police", there are Zhejiang policemen, including a Zhejiang police flower, the first four elected are: in 2019, the former Ningbo Detention Center Correctional Brigade second-level senior sergeant Mao Zhuoyun (retired), in 2020, Changxing County Public Security Bureau Hongxingqiao Police Station third-level senior sergeant Shen Yunru, in 2021, Hangzhou Municipal Public Security Bureau Xihu District Bureau Police Inspector Brigade first-class sergeant Sui Yonghui, in 2022, Xinchang County Public Security Bureau Exit and Entry Management Brigade Captain Liang Xiaoli.
The heartwarming stories of these most beautiful police officers, in the final analysis, are about the relationship between people.
Most of the troubles in our lives come from the relationships between people. Everyone understands the message of others in their own context. Sometimes, misunderstandings bring troubles, misses, and grievances.
Today, let's approach the two most beautiful policemen and walk into the warmth and coldness of the world they experienced.
Chen Fei: Untie the knot of intimacy in their talking
Last year, Orange Persimmon Interactive reported one thing, the quadruplets in Heze, Shandong Province passed the score line in the college entrance examination, and his father Chen Jinxue shared the good news with Chen Fei, a police officer from the Yangjiabu Police Station in Huzhou South Taihu New District, for the first time.
(Shandong Heze quadruplets when they were young, from right to left, the eldest child, the second child, the third child, and the fourth child)
(Shandong Heze quadruplets, from left to right, the eldest one, the second one, the third one, the fourth one))
Chen Jinxue, a 54-year-old truck driver from Chengwu County, Heze, Shandong Province. Both of them are surnamed Chen and are of similar age, and when it comes to this fate separated by more than 600 kilometers, there is also a story behind it.
On March 26, 2022, Chen Jinxue shipped a batch of goods from Shanghai to Huzhou. Because of the prevention and control measures at that time, he went to the quarantine hotel.
Chen Jinxue is an out-and-out farmer, and his family has two or three acres of land. He has 5 children, the eldest daughter is 30 years old this year, and the second child is the dragon and phoenix quadruplets, who are 18 years old this year.
Originally, he was doing farm work in his hometown, watching the sky and eating, and when the days were tight, he went to learn car repair and help people drive, more than ten years ago, he helped people run long-distance transportation, the wind came and went in the rain, the car was his home, and he took advantage of the summer and Spring Festival to go home to see.
In 2020, the quadruplets went to high school, but Chen Jinxue fell from the car while loading the goods, broke his leg, and suffered a comminuted fracture of his right calf, so he had to recuperate at home. But he couldn't work in bed, and his children's tuition and living expenses made him worried.
When the local volunteers heard about it, they sent them love and charity, and the school also waived the children's tuition and miscellaneous fees, etc., so that Lao Chen could take a breather.
As soon as the injury was healed, he went out to run the transport. For him, life cannot be stopped, and stopping for a day is a loss for a day. So in the quarantine hotel, Chen Jinxue was in a hurry to go out and was unwilling to cooperate, which made everyone have a headache.
A few days later, Chen Fei went to the quarantine hotel to be on duty, and after hearing about it, he came forward to do his work.
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"The four children have all crossed the score line!" "The father of the Shandong Longfeng quadruplets reported the good news to the Huzhou police as soon as possible
This chance encounter did not end with Chen Jinxue leaving.
Later, Chen Jinxue chatted with Chen Fei from time to time, and every time, he never forgot Chen Fei's concern, "Before, when I saw the police, I thought I was going to eat a ticket, but I didn't expect to meet such a warm-hearted policeman as you." ”
Later, Chen Jinxue's two sons also had the desire to become police officers, and the second and third were both admitted to the China Criminal Police Academy.
"When he called me, it was a recognition of my work", for Chen Fei, this is enough.
The knife rested on his father's neck
Liu Zhenyun said that the affairs of the family, one thing is related to eight things.
It's not easy to sort out chicken feathers. Family relationships are the most intimate relationships between people, and they are often the most difficult. So, some experts say that intimacy is the lesson of each of our lives.
Chen Fei has a Xi of keeping a work diary, and between the lines he records not only the chicken feathers behind the disputes, but also the starting point and origin of the misunderstanding between the respective people.
His work diary reads: "On the afternoon of August 25, 2022, I am still very happy today, and the troubles that have been pressing on Lao Li's heart for nearly three years have finally been resolved. In the afternoon, I asked Lao Li and his son Xiao Li to shake hands in the studio and ......"
More than 1 month later, at 11 o'clock one night, Xiao Li called Chen Fei and said that he didn't want to live and wanted to jump into the river.
Xiao Li no longer lived in Chen Fei's jurisdiction at that time, and he had moved away for more than half a year. Chen Fei was about to rest, put down the phone, and rushed over on the way, he speculated, "I must have been drinking again", he was too familiar with Lao Li and Xiao Li, the father and son.
Yangjiabu is in the suburbs of Huzhou, in recent years, with the construction of the city, many villages in Yangjiabu have been demolished and rebuilt, and many villagers have received demolition money.
In the early years, Lao Li did construction engineering, and then he was injured and couldn't do it, so he began to do vegetable business, and after accumulating funds, he opened a restaurant in the local area, the hotel business was not bad, and Lao Li's craftsmanship was also good. A few years ago, the area where the hotel is located was demolished, and Lao Li was divided into two houses, although there were two houses, they and their son still lived together.
In 2019, Chen Fei went to Lao Li's community to work as a community policeman, and heard from his colleagues that the father and son quarreled until they called 110, and they had more than once or twice.
In the first year of arrival, there was a call to the police, when Chen Fei arrived, Xiao Li put the knife on Lao Li's neck, and the village cadres stepped forward to persuade Xiao Li to turn around and put the knife on the neck of the village cadres.
Chen Fei removed the danger first, and as soon as he approached Xiao Li, he smelled that he was full of alcohol, and he couldn't stand steadily. Xiao Li is not tall and thin, and Lao Li is a head taller than his son and has a strong figure.
Chen Fei went to the scene a few times and found that almost every time he quarreled, Xiao Li couldn't quarrel with Lao Li, and if he wanted to do it, Xiao Li couldn't beat him, so he deduced that Xiao Li was afraid that he couldn't beat him, so he took a knife to strengthen his courage.
The contradiction between the father and son has reached such a point, and it is not a matter of one or two sentences.
Speaking of his son, Lao Li didn't have a good word, saying that Xiao Li was lazy to eat, didn't go to work and squatted at home to gnaw on the old, didn't go to work to forget it, and drank every day at noon and night, and drank too much, so he quarreled with people, quarreled with his family, quarreled with friends and neighbors, quarreled back and forth, friends and neighbors were afraid and avoided it. The only opponents who quarrel are the family members who get along day and night......
Xiao Li's Xi of drinking has been some years, in the past, Lao Li opened a restaurant to do business, busy until midnight every day, did not care, and when he wanted to manage, his son was already addicted to drinking. As soon as you drink too much, you start to make trouble, and when you make trouble, it will never end. When the trouble was called 110, the police came to the door, and every community police officer had a headache.
But Xiao Li also has grievances.
"Every day is very depressing, and with my family, I never laugh heartily. ”
As soon as Xiao Li's conversation box opened, he started talking when he was a child: he said that he followed his grandmother when he was a child, and his parents rarely returned home, and when Lao Li came back, he either scolded or beaten, and he had to physically punish himself. Going back further, when he was in elementary school, he quarreled with his classmates and injured them...... One thing, accumulated in his heart, he is not happy.
(Chen Fei's work diary records the past of Xiao Li and Lao Li's father and son)
Chen Fei came to the door several times, persuaded him with good words, and trained him strictly, but Xiao Li never took a knife again.
Later, Xiao Li found a job as a security guard in a community in another jurisdiction, and for the convenience of work, Xiao Li and Lao Li both moved to a house in another jurisdiction, and the relationship between father and son of the Li family seems to have improved.
"There is no warmth in your home"
It was more than 10 o'clock in the evening on August 24, that is, the night before the "father and son shook hands and made peace".
Lao Li called Chen Fei and said that his son Xiao Li was going to self-harm with a wine bottle.
In the house, Xiao Li's mother, wife and daughter were Xi to the dispute between father and son, and were silent.
Every time he stepped into the noisy home, Chen Fei felt that there was no temperature, "Your home is well decorated, but your home is not warm." ”
Lao Li said that his son first drank a bottle of wine in his room, and then drank it again, and he asked him to drink less, saying that it would delay work, and that other people's children were doing now.
Again, it is caused by a gap in language.
Father and son have been separated for a long time, and the other party has never done anything right, and mutual accusations have become their way of communication. When quarrels replace appeals, emotions replace emotions, and the problems that should be solved create bigger problems.
After the father and son calmed down, Chen Fei asked them to come to his studio the next afternoon to sit down and talk.
"Look at your family, the father is not like the father, the son is not like the son, the busier the people are, the better their life is, the conditions of your family are good, now look at you so tossed, people are now living a much better life than you...... Chen Fei said.
The father and son were speechless for a while.
Lao Li cares about his son in his heart and hopes that his son will become a Chan, but Xiao Li feels that Lao Li is always ordering him, and he is not respected.
"Being respected and understood is everyone's basic aggrief. As a father, you must see your son's strengths, not only his shortcomings, but also his progress, he is now going to work, which is progress, blindly criticizing, accusing, and expressing without choice will only push people farther and farther away, and the relationship will become worse and worse. Why do you have to think he's your son and he has to listen to you?"
After talking about Lao Li, he said Xiao Li, "You are the child's father, husband, son, and a person with a family, you have to think more about how to do these roles well, don't fight back as soon as you feel that you are stimulated emotionally, blame others, and understand the feelings and ......needs of others."
Chen Fei broke things apart, reason is bone, love is meat, both sides can speak, and people on both sides can listen.
When he was sober, Xiao Li's speech was also organized, "He just can't let go of the shelf that he is Lao Tzu."
"What kind of frame does the family have", Chen Fei borrowed words to guide, and finally he asked the father and son to promise that they would no longer blame each other, and Xiao Li also promised not to drink too much, "In front of me, you two shake hands and do what you say." The father and son shook hands and made peace, and Chen Fei wrote in his work diary, "It can be regarded as a phased solution." ”
One day, Chen Fei went out and saw Xiao Li riding a battery car passing by quickly, maybe the helmet was not worn firmly, fell to the ground, and rolled away, Chen Fei ran over to pick it up, Xiao Li turned around and came back, took the helmet, and was a little embarrassed, saying that he had now found a part-time job as a courier delivery, "do it well", Chen Fei was also happy for Xiao Li.
One thing pulls another thing
More than a month later, late at night, Chen Fei received another call from Xiao Li.
When I arrived at Xiao Li's house, Lao Li and Xiao Li were still arguing, Lao Li's wife sighed, "I don't have this son", Xiao Li's wife and daughter were silent in the room.
When the father and son saw Chen Fei coming, they asked him to comment. "Home is not a place to be reasonable, it is to be intercederal", Chen Fei has said this sentence to the father and son many times.
Lao Li said that his son and daughter-in-law quarreled in the room, and he was worried that his daughter-in-law would be bullied by his son, so he pushed the door to persuade him, and said a few words to his son, and his son's voice was loud.
Xiao Li said that he and his wife talked loudly, and Lao Li didn't ask about the situation, scolded him indiscriminately, and beat him, "I'm also from this family, why don't you believe me?"
As said in the novel "One Sentence Top 10,000 Sentences": Everything has a reason, and in each reason, there are several turns. Lao Li Shuluo's son still has a file, and in those days, his son resigned and quit his job. As he spoke, he pulled out another thing.
A few years ago, Xiao Li divorced, and his father, Lao Li, felt that his son was still swaying when he was old, and he would live a good life when he became a family, so he asked someone to help Zhang Luo introduce him.
The middleman introduced Xiaolan, the two sides and their respective parents met, set a marriage, after getting married, the couple also gave birth to a daughter, usually, the granddaughter is Lao Li and his wife to help bring.
Xiao Li drank too much, not only quarreled with Lao Li, but also called to "harass" his father-in-law, and it took an hour to fight, and the old man couldn't stand his son-in-law's tossing so much, so he simply didn't answer the phone.
Xiao Li said that she just wanted to find someone to talk to, Xiaolan had severe depression, Xiao Li wanted to talk to her, she didn't want to listen, she couldn't talk to her wife, she couldn't talk to her parents, and she couldn't talk to her father-in-law, "they all looked down on me and didn't understand me."
The two quarreled, Xiaolan would sue the family, the father-in-law helped the daughter, and the old Li couple also helped the daughter-in-law, Xiao Li wanted to explain the reason to his parents, but Lao Li felt that his son had finally become a family, and he had to keep the family well.
These words made a thorn in Xiao Li's heart.
Xiao Li felt aggrieved, he felt that from childhood to adulthood, Lao Li had the final say in everything, even marriage, but this was not what he wanted, "Never ask me what I want, and don't respect my opinion." "When he was suffocated, he drank.
Lao Li has his own Lao Li's fault, he used to be busy with business, neglecting the care of the family and the discipline of the children, and helping the children to decorate the marriage room to help take care of the children, is to make up for it.
But because it has already been planted, it will not happen overnight to turn the situation around.
After dealing with him a lot, Chen Fei also learned that Xiao Li, who didn't drink, was not useless. Xiaolan is afraid of seeing the fire because she is sick, and every time she cooks and cooks at home, Xiao Li does it, in addition to lunch and dinner, she also makes supper for Xiaolan, and most of the housework is also done by Xiao Li......
Every time, Xiao Li asked Chen Fei to talk from the bottom of his heart, and as soon as the conversation box opened, he couldn't stop, Chen Fei understood that he needed to tell and someone to listen.
It's not frankness, it's loneliness.
Xiao Li also has problems with his own personality, on the one hand, he feels that his family does not trust him and looks down on him, on the other hand, he feels that he is incompetent, he wants to get rid of his troubles when he drinks, and he makes trouble after drinking too much, and repeats himself over and over again......
Every time Chen Fei came out, the father and son would ease up for a while. He explained to Lao Li: "You must care more, communicate more, encourage more, and speak well", take care of Xiao Li, drink less, find a stable job, be harmonious, and treat everyone kindly......
Chen Fei knew that the father and son had become Xi to living in verbal violence. The people on the outside can see clearly, but the people inside are trapped inside. It takes time to get out.
He also knows that Xiao Li is emotionally unstable after drinking, and he is worried that he will do something out of the ordinary, he often pays attention to job information, recommends jobs to Xiao Li, and lets him have a job, every time Xiao Li calls, he will answer, and he will listen to him, "Don't let him feel rejected by everyone"......
Letters to the family
Chen Fei is over fifty years old and has spent most of his life in a busy life, from a busy head full of thick black hair to a full head of white hair.
Chen Fei's hometown is in Lu'an, Anhui Province, and he is the fourth oldest among his brothers and sisters.
In 1986, at the age of 18, he joined the army and was assigned to a unit in Wuxi and became an infantryman.
Two years later, he applied for the military academy, and after graduating from the military academy, he was assigned to a unit in Yixing, Jiangsu, and in 1998, he went to a unit in Yangjiabu, Huzhou, responsible for training. Later, he was transferred back to Yixing until 2008, ending his 22-year career as a horse and transferring to the Huzhou Public Security.
In the army, he fed pigs, let go of horses, worked as a cook, participated in front-line disaster relief, worked as a staff officer, and tempered the troops, so that Chen Fei had a strong military temperament.
During a training session, a recruit who had just come in threw a grenade, the fuse of the grenade had been pulled, and the recruit was nervous, and the grenade was not thrown at a distant target, but was thrown at his feet. The training ground of three or four square meters has a parapet wall in front, and there are bomb craters on the left and right, and the throwing position is just in the middle. The grenade spun around in place quickly, "呑呑" was smoking, Chen Fei stepped forward and kicked the grenade into the bomb crater on the left, and quickly rolled into the bomb crater on the right with the recruit, protecting the safety of the recruit.
The army career has been in many places, every time I change places, my wife and daughter also follow, "they have suffered a lot with me", the daughter has just become familiar with the new classmates and the new campus, and she has to change schools, and the wife has just become familiar with the work at hand and has to start from scratch.
The guilt of his family, Chen Fei wrote into a letter to them.
In May 2022, he wrote in a letter to his daughter, "Because I served in the army, was transferred many times, and lived in two places with you for a long time, gathering less and leaving more, you changed schools five times throughout the primary and junior high school stages, and did not give you a relatively stable Xi environment and a stable living environment, and did not care for you enough and did not accompany you, which is what I feel guilty about in my life." ”
Chen Fei still retains the Xi of writing letters, at that time, his daughter often complained about the hard work and his son-in-law did not care about the family, and he wanted to communicate with his daughter by writing letters.
Coincidentally, the son-in-law also worked in the army, and he was very satisfied with this son-in-law Chen Fei, and the squadron led by the son-in-law won the national "May Fourth" medal. Because he has worked in the army, he can understand his son-in-law, but he also needs to explain his daughter's troubles, and in the letter he said step by step: "...... Marriage and family need to be managed, and they must be attentive, affectionate, and loving, rather than reasonable. Loving Him starts with appreciating Him first...... As the saying goes, a good word is warm in three winters, and bad words are hurtful and cold in June. When talking to the people closest to you, you should also talk about methods and art. Usually say more heart-warming words, do more heart-warming things, and don't always blame this and dissatisfaction. Be a person with low IQ and high emotional intelligence......"
The reply to the father, the daughter revised it several times. In the letter, she mentioned her bumpy childhood, "In my childhood memories, because of your work, you were frequently transferred, you fought in the north and south, and I ran around. When I was born, you were at the Jinhua construction site, you couldn't go home, it was the leader of the army who sent my mother to the hospital, and since then I have been with my mother, and there is rarely a sense of your presence at home. When I grew up, I went to school, and it was my mother who picked me up, my mother who took me to the hospital when I was sick, and it was always my mother who attended parent-teacher conferences. I transferred five times because of my father, and during primary and secondary school, I transferred back and forth between Jiangsu and Zhejiang provinces, always learning Xi new materials, adapting to new environments, and challenging new things......"
"Brave people don't cry, but are willing to continue running with tears", seeing his daughter's words, Chen Fei's eyes were wet.
"I know you're under a lot of pressure now, you're older, your hair is gray, and your body isn't as big as before," the daughter said in the letter, she and her mother were worried about her father Chen Fei, and her father jumped off the bridge to save her mother and daughter, and went to the house to uncover the tiles to put out the fire. ”
Chen Fei once promised his wife that he would accompany his wife and daughter well after changing jobs. But when he arrived at the public security, he was still busy, "In my busyness, you have retired with honor, your daughter has graduated from college and joined the work, and the promise to accompany you has once again become empty words." In 2021, on the 27th anniversary of his marriage, Chen Fei was full of apologies in a letter to his wife.
In 2019, Chen Fei proposed to become a community police officer, and expressed to his wife, "I must focus on the family, care for and take care of you, and fulfill the responsibilities of a husband and a father." “
But Chen Fei didn't keep it.
(Visiting and searching for lost people is Chen Fei's daily routine)
When he first arrived in the jurisdiction, there were many contradictions and disputes, he went out early and returned late, and overtime became a daily routine, so he had to promise his wife: "After retirement, I will definitely take care of my health, accompany you, take care of you, and make up for all the regrets in the past." ”
In the unit, there are more and more young policemen, and sometimes, Chen Fei will reflect on himself when he looks at them, "They can separate their lives and work, and they will think of accompanying their families on their days off."
He was absent from his daughter's growth, and he didn't soothe his wife's troubles in time, although he would rush to do housework every time he went home, but what he missed was missed and couldn't be repeated.
Chen Fei is also changing, allowing himself to express himself more emotionally, his eighty-year-old mother is now in his hometown, taken care of by his eldest sister, and several of their siblings have taught their mother to use WeChat video, and every week, he will call his mother to chat about family life.
He would spend as much time as he could with his wife. In the past two years, he took his wife out to travel once a year, and he remembered the promise he made when he got married: I will take good care of you and do my best to make you happy and not wronged.
隋永辉：见证着拥抱和久别重逢
It is said that there are seven hardships in life, and love and parting is one of them.
Sui Yonghui, a police officer of the Police Inspector Brigade of the Xihu District Bureau of the Hangzhou Municipal Public Security Bureau, known as the "Commander-in-Chief of the Search", has been looking for relatives for 9 years, and has seen a lot of parting and tears, as well as a lot of hugs and reunions after a long absence.
Sui Yonghui is an expert in finding relatives in the Quick Find Column of Metro Express, helping many readers reunite with their families.
On Children's Day in 2019, at the scene of the large-scale public welfare family search activity jointly organized by the Criminal Investigation Corps of the Zhejiang Provincial Public Security Department, the Criminal Investigation Detachment of the Hangzhou Municipal Public Security Bureau, and the Metropolis Express, Sui Yonghui was invited as a guest.
Sui Yonghui has a goal, by this year (2024), he hopes to help 10,000 families reunite - "ten thousand family reunions". He hopes that those who have been separated and are now reunited can start a new life from now on.
"Second brother, you're here"
Now, many police officers across the country who use their spare time to help find relatives still remember that "the second brother took us out".
"Second Brother" is Sui Yonghui's screen name, and the name doesn't have any meaning, just because he is the second oldest in the family. It has been used from the popular days of QQ and BBS to the present.
Sui Yonghui is a veteran, with a very straight temperament, a thin face, and the heroism of Shandong people in his bones, with a military temperament. In 2006, Sui Yonghui, who had been in the army for 16 years, retired from the army and became a criminal policeman in the Criminal Investigation Brigade of the Xihu Branch of the Hangzhou Municipal Public Security Bureau, when he was 35 years old.
In the BBS era, "Second Brother" was a forum moderator.
10 years ago, in the police circle, the local police also set up their own forums, although the forum was internal to the police, but there were still a lot of police officers who mixed the forum back then, and there were many hidden masters.
At that time, there were several forums with different types of characteristics in the police circles across the country, including collaboration, business trip guide information, and police experience sharing. For example, the Taizhou police launched the "Six Veins Divine Sword" to provide business trip information sharing, and the police in place A should go to place B on a business trip across provinces to handle cases, and send a post to ask their counterparts in place B to understand the "market" such as accommodation, access, and contacts. For example, the "Qidong Police Collaboration Platform" launched by the Qidong Police in Jiangsu Province is about police cooperation, and colleagues from all over the world can post for help and share information when they encounter problems or need to investigate cases.
In August 2014, Sui Yonghui received an invitation from "Qidong Police" to settle in, and even his ID helped him register. At that time, the forum was not very popular, and the number of registered people was only a few thousand. The police work itself is relatively busy, and the station maintenance is all spare time, and the stationmaster at the time is a "technical man", and he is not proficient in how to "make an atmosphere".
Just as the WeChat public account maintains a daily activity, popular forums, post updates, moderator management and timely replies are all very important.
Most of the people who come up to post are grassroots criminal police, police officers, and now in the era of big data, information cannot be shared, for example, a theft case occurred in place A, according to clues, the thief may have run to place B, and he should ask his peers in place B to assist in the investigation.
"The criminal police in the world is a family", Sui Yonghui was in the Criminal Investigation Brigade of the Xihu Branch of the Hangzhou Municipal Public Security Bureau at the time, the information technology development of the Hangzhou police was early, he helped his peers to study and analyze the clues, the reply was much faster, the activity came up, and the popularity was also booming, by the end of 2014, it had risen to more than 10,000 people, and Sui Yonghui was recommended to become the deputy stationmaster.
At the end of 2014, the annual meeting of "Qidong Police" was held, and the person in charge of CCTV's "Waiting for Me" column rushed to participate. At that time, the program "Waiting for Me" was launched less than a year ago (the program was launched in April 2014), and the person in charge came to meet the "second brother" Sui Yonghui.
The national family search public welfare organization "Baby Comes Home", which cooperates with the program, has provided a large number of information from all over the world to find relatives and ask for help. "Finding the 'second brother' is equivalent to finding tens of thousands of policemen", someone told the program team "inside information".
At first, Sui Yonghui politely refused, "I don't have the slightest contact with looking for relatives, I don't understand."
watched several episodes of the program video sent by the program team, Sui Yonghui, a Shandong man, also shed tears, and he promised to give it a try.
Although it was a try, he was not ambiguous, and proposed to set up the system first, and after communication, all parties asked Sui Yonghui to be the lead liaison, and the "Commander-in-Chief of the Search" was called.
Regret can't wait
Different from handling cases, there is always more or less pain behind the search for relatives, and sometimes, looking for relatives is like answering a question, and the process of finding relatives is a kind of self-healing.
In March 2022, a pair of brothers surnamed Liu in Xinyi, Xuzhou, Jiangsu Province, came to Sui Yonghui to find their mother, who had been missing for 10 years.
One day in August 2012, their mother left home and never returned.
In their memories, their mother used to run away, and their father always went out to look for it. Once, not long after he got it back, the youngest son had a fever, "the mother felt that she had harmed her younger brother", the eldest brother Liu Jianghua told Sui Yonghui that his mother may have listened to superstitious sayings, thinking that if he is at home, adults and children will get sick, and the children can survive only if they leave.
When his mother disappeared this time, Liu Jianghua was already an adult, his father was riding a bicycle, he was riding a tricycle, and the father and son were riding out to find it. Printing out the mother's photo and making a poster for the missing person, they rushed over because it costs money to stay in a hotel, and in order to save money, the father and son put the quilt on the tricycle and spent the night on the tricycle.
After looking for two years, the father told the eldest son that it would not work like this, and that there was still your younger brother to support at home, so the father and son went back.
A year and a half ago, after the death of their father and the aftermath of the funeral, the brothers set off again, riding an electric tricycle, with missing person notices on both sides of the car, in addition to Xuzhou, they also went to Shandong, Henan and other provinces and cities......
One day in March 2022, the Liu brothers swiped a video on the Internet, which was a video of a family seeker in Linyi, Shandong Province thanking Sui Yonghui, looking for his father who had run away from home for many years, Sui Yonghui helped him find it in Shanghai, and the Liu brothers came to visit.
The brothers' mother, surnamed Zhang, was 53 years old when she left home, and after ten years, the person's face will change a lot. After comparison, Sui Yonghui found that there was a rescue object named "Xiao Zhu Lan" at the aid station in Xiaogan City, Hubei Province, who was very similar to the brothers' mother, but she had passed away five years ago.
From Xinyi, Xuzhou to Xiaogan, more than 700 kilometers of road, how can a rural woman who has never gone out with any money when she goes out and has never been far away from home go to such a far place?
Sui Yonghui was not at ease, so he contacted the local aid station to inquire about the medical records of "Xiao Zhulan". Generally, after the rescued person enters the aid station, he will undergo a health examination, and the aid station replies to him, and the medical record of "Xiao Shulan" reads: There is a 6 cm long surgical scar in the anterior neck area.
He sent the file photo of "Filial Piety to Save Lan" to the brothers, "It's my mother!"
"Does your mother have a surgical scar?" asked Sui Yonghui.
"My mother has had thyroid surgery and has a scar", hearing this, Sui Yonghui can basically confirm it.
"You have to be prepared for the worst", Sui Yonghui was a little unbearable, "She passed away in 2017. ”
"Do you have any of her ashes?" the brothers refused to give up.
According to folk Xi, the husband and wife should be buried together after death, and after the brothers buried their father, there was still an empty double tomb, "Uncle said, this place will be for your mother in the future." ”
Thankfully, the local shelter has been carefully preserving the ashes of the brothers' mother.
Late at night on November 25, 2016, the brothers' mother was found on the streets of Xiaogan and sent to an aid station after being found by the local police. She also had no identification on her body, so she couldn't tell her name.
Through observation, the staff of the aid station found that she had mental problems, sent her to the hospital for treatment, contacted the public security department to collect DNA, and published a newspaper to find her relatives, but to no avail.
In February 2017, the old man was placed in the Xiaogan Social Welfare and Medical Rehabilitation Center, named her "Xiao Zhu Lan", settled down, and enjoyed the special poverty security treatment, where the old man spent his last days.
On July 27, 2017, the old man died of heart failure. Her ashes have been stored in the Xiaogan City Funeral Home for 5 years.
On August 16, 2022, the brothers drove more than ten hours to Xiaogan.
Rows of cabinets in the funeral parlor, open the bottom layer of the second compartment, the eldest son carefully took out the urn, the red cloth held by the younger son opened up, wrapped the urn, the brothers slowly walked out, "Mom, go home", the eldest son held the urn, the younger son held the umbrella, they wanted to give the mother the last section of the road to shelter from the wind and rain......
If we wait, how good it would be! After many years of longing, goodbye is separated by yin and yang, such regrets will appear from time to time in Sui Yonghui's search for relatives.
Say goodbye to them
Not all reunions after a long absence will have hugs.
In many of Sui Yonghui's cases of searching for relatives, parents are looking for their children who have been away from home for many years. Although, like the abducted family, the child is missing, and the parents are running around for the whereabouts of the child, emotionally speaking, the two are still different.
Because running away from home is a kind of active parting without saying goodbye. In this way, the family cannot understand it, and others think it is an escape, an escape from reality and irresponsibility.
Sui Yonghui couldn't understand it at first.
The eldest son of a Jiangsu couple is a high-achieving student from a famous school who came out of the countryside, and is the hope and sustenance of the whole family.
But one day 9 years ago, the eldest son disappeared, and my grandfather couldn't keep calling his grandson's nickname until he died.
9 years later, when his relatives were reunited, his mother hugged him and cried silently, and he stood like a log, patted his mother and asked her not to cry, "He didn't cry from beginning to end, and spoke very calmly from beginning to end", this scene once made Sui Yonghui incomprehensible, like many people, Sui Yonghui felt that he was too indifferent at that time.
"Because of face, he needs a step", later, after handling more such cases, Sui Yonghui understood the back of the eldest son's behavior, "He actually wants to go home, and he hopes that someone will come to find him, so that he can have a reason to go home." ”
Uncle Fang's son Fang Yun in Shaoxing, in 2009, he was 27 years old, and told his family that he was going to go to another place, but there was no news of him.
Uncle Fang and his wife are just such a son, and they asked their son's good friends and said they didn't know, the couple were honest farmers, and they didn't know how to post on the Internet for help. In August 2022, my niece and daughter-in-law swiped the news that Sui Yonghui helped Aunt Shanghai Lou find her son, and told Uncle Fang that he could go to find Sui Yonghui.
Sui Yonghui's inquiry found that Fang Yun was in Beihai, Guangzhou. He contacted the police of the jurisdiction where Fang Yun lived, "I just went to look for him a few days ago", and the police of the jurisdiction said on the phone that Fang Yun is now working as a manager in a local hotel.
Uncle Fang rushed from Shengzhou to Beihai overnight, and when he arrived in Beihai, he saw his son at the police station. "Do you want to go back to pack your luggage?" the policeman asked Fang Yun, "No, I don't want it."
Later, the father and son rushed to Hangzhou to send pennants to Sui Yonghui, Sui Yonghui took their pennants and didn't know where to put them for a while, there were too many pennants in the office, and the two filing cabinets had been stacked into two hills, and some had no place to put them, so they could only hide in the cabinets.
(Some of the pennants received by the studio were printed as photos as souvenirs)
The father and son of the Fang family were sitting on one side of the sofa, a little restrained, and it could be seen that there was some estrangement, but Uncle Fang kept looking at his son, and the smile kept on his face.
Fang Yun said that he also wanted to make money when he ran away, he didn't want to go to the factory to be a worker, but he didn't expect to be pulled by a friend to do a pyramid scheme, and when he got there, he found that something was wrong and quit.
At first, I wanted to find a job to stabilize myself, but it was not easy, the money for odd jobs was just enough for one person to spend, and he didn't want to go home so embarrassed, "I want to go back when I get better."
Fang Yun also went back to his hometown to apply for a second-generation certificate, but because he had to go back because he had to go back with other procedures, he didn't want his family to know about it.
"Sometimes I feel that it's good to be alone outside", Fang Yun said, and a person is used to Xi and feels very free.
"People who run away from home, it's not that they don't want to go home, they often have two voices in their hearts, one voice says go home, and the other voice says, it's good now. In these years of searching for relatives, Sui Yonghui tried to read the hearts of these young people who did not say goodbye, and he tried to understand them. Only by understanding them can he comfort his parents who are struggling to miss them.
In many traditional Chinese families, parents and children do not express their feelings, and sometimes, saying goodbye is to escape the tension of the family, to face the hope that they will not be able to realize, and to face the fear of reproach when they return home.
But the bond of love is destined to be inescapable.
"Relatives only have one fate", Hong Kong writer Liang Jizhang wrote a letter to his son: "No matter how long I will get along with you in this life, please cherish the time together." In the next life, whether you love it or not, you will never see it again. ”
Therefore, every time he returns, Sui Yonghui will say to them: Come back, start again together.
Persistent family seekers
What you can't get is always hopeful.
This hope takes root in the hearts of children who have been separated from their parents since childhood, who have been adopted and abandoned, and have accompanied them for a long time.
Who am I, where do I come from? This ultimate reflection of life unfolds in their young hearts. When they know from their adoptive parents or from the gossip around them that they are not biological, they spend the rest of their lives looking for answers.
Orange Persimmon Interactive has reported on a reunion meeting hosted by Sui Yonghui in person in January 2022.
(Lao Feng cried and hugged his biological mother)
"Mom, Dad!", as soon as the door opened, the 48-year-old Feng took three steps and knelt down in front of his parents. There was regret in the tears of the mother holding her son and crying.
48 years ago, the Ding family in Haining, Jiaxing gave birth to a pair of twins, but the birth of twins did not make the Ding family happy, 2 years ago, they already had an eldest son.
At the beginning, the couple planned to hold on again, going out early and returning late every day, not daring to stop for a moment, but the current situation could not make the couple breathe, three children waiting to be fed, and two old people, the burden of the life of a family of seven was firmly pressed on Uncle Ding, who farmed for a living, and finally had no choice but to decide to send away the twins' brother, who was only 3 months old at the time......
The couple went to the middleman to inquire about their son, but the middleman was already suffering from Alzheimer's disease and could not remember the past.
In a flash, decades have passed, and the old man often thinks of his second son, "Where is he, is he doing well?" In early December last year, after Sui Yonghui received a request for help, he found that Lao Feng in Linyi, Shandong Province, and Ding Guofeng, the youngest son of the Ding family, were highly similar in appearance. After DNA comparison, Lao Feng is the second son of the Ding family who has been separated for 48 years.
After Lao Feng's adoptive parents passed away, his uncle told him, "You were picked up by your parents from Jiaxing", Lao Feng once thought that he was abandoned by others, and did not want to take the initiative to find his parents, but when the police came to him to tell him the truth, he was gradually relieved.
Not all searches will come to light.
For those children who know that they are not their biological children, they want to know where they come from, and the kind of attachment that they know about their background is incomprehensible to people who have not experienced separation from their loved ones since childhood.
52-year-old Chen Yuan is a family seeker in the Quick Find Someone column, and he is the most persistent and urgent one, and Sui Yonghui also knows him.
In 2007, Chen Yuan came to Hangzhou to look for relatives, and for 16 years, he has been looking for his biological parents.
Since junior high school, Chen Yuan has successively learned fragmentary information related to his life experience from his adoptive parents:
On April 4, 1970, he was born in the Provincial Women's Hospital, his biological mother then left, a medical staff from Shandong adopted him, named him "Lu Dong", but because the medical staff already had two children, the registration of "Lu Dong" did not pass, and the medical staff sent him back to the hospital, at that time a doctor surnamed Fu acted as an intermediary, and a Pujiang couple adopted him and became Chen Yuan's adoptive parents. Five years later, the couple welcomed their own child, who became Chen Yuan's younger brother.
On June 1, 2019, he rushed to the site of the first large-scale public welfare family search activity jointly organized by the Criminal Investigation Corps of the Zhejiang Provincial Public Security Department, the Criminal Investigation Detachment of the Hangzhou Municipal Public Security Bureau, and the Metropolis Express, and told Sui Yonghui about his situation.
In 2021, he came again in the second public welfare family search activity, and Li Da, the captain of the Criminal Investigation Detachment of the Taizhou Public Security Bureau, found that Chen Yuan was related to an old man surnamed Fang in Zijing Village, Yuhang Zhongtai, but found the descendants of Uncle Fang and other brothers, and ruled them out one by one......
"I really want to know my background and where I come from," Chen Yuan said, adding that if his biological parents were alive, they would be eighty or ninety years old, and he was afraid that he would not have time to see them for the last time.
Sui Yonghui can understand this sense of urgency, whether it is as a person who helps to find relatives, or as a person who is looking for relatives, on the way to find relatives, hope to be disappointed again and again, and new hope is born in the disappointment......
One day, the flowers will bloom and the moon will shine.