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The idea of "parental unkindness" was first put forward by Kong Rong, who was the three-year-old Kong Rong who made pears.
"What kind of relationship should the Father have with the Son? As for its original meaning, it is really the ear of lust. The son is also ridiculed for the mother, for example, if the thing is sent in a bottle, it will be separated."
The popular version of the explanation has been in Stephen Chow's movie. In addition, Lu Xun and Hu Shi also supported such views.
After all, in the era in which Kong Rong lived, there was a Han Dynasty in which every emperor's name had the word "filial piety", and then there was the Jin Dynasty where "Fu Wei Shengchao ruled the world with filial piety", and one of the crimes of Kong Rong's family was killed also had this. However, there has always been a simple truth among the people: it is better to be kind than to raise kindness.
If parents work hard to raise their children and give their children a similar education (by current standards, at least let their children graduate from high school), even if food, clothing, housing and transportation cannot meet the standards required by their children (don't underestimate children's comparison), after all, some parents do have limited ability to make money, then it cannot be said that these parents are "unkind" to their children.
However, there are also some parents who give birth but do not raise, and wait for their children to come to find relatives when they are adults; or I see some answers, some only give their children the most basic food and drink guarantees, live luxuriously by themselves, and let their children suffer for no reason; There are also some parents who eat and wait for death, and are willing to lie down, just counting on their children to improve their lives, PUA children for more than ten years (stupid birds don't fly, lay eggs, and hope that the eggs in the future can fly). The above three types of parents say that they are "unkind" to their children, and I don't think there is a big problem.
Now it is very common to find relatives, no matter what you don't ask since you were a child, and when your children grow up and come back to ask for retirement, this is a typical "no grace".
Such parents should first investigate their "abandonment".
In summary, the "theory of parental unkindness" is still meaningful in specific circumstances, the so-called "monarch, minister, father, son", parents first do what they should do, and then it is not too late to talk about kindness to their children. It's just that "don't care about the child", and when the child grows up, he blindly kidnaps the child with morality, which is unkindness.
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