Each of us makes mistakes and sometimes gets hurt by others. When we are in pain and despair, we always want others to redeem us and comfort us. But, in fact, salvation can only be achieved on one's own.
I have a friend Xiao Li, who used to be deeply in love with a boy, Xiao Wang. Xiao Wang made a vow to "be together forever" in the process of pursuing Xiao Li. However, not long after the two confirmed their relationship, Xiao Wang empathized and abandoned Xiao Li. Xiao Li was greatly injured, and she was in pain all day long, numbing herself with alcohol and tobacco. She hoped that Xiao Wang would change his mind and come back to her.
As the days passed, Xiao Wang had no news. Xiao Li's face also darkened in the continuous sadness. She began to resent Xiao Wang and resented this feeling. It's obvious that Xiao Wang did something wrong, and it's obvious that Xiao Wang broke her word, why should she bear these hardships alone.
One day, Xiao Li got drunk and called Xiao Wang. Xiao Wang's girlfriend over there answered the phone and said coldly: "Don't bother us anymore, we are already married, and Xiao Wang will not reply to you." This phone call was like a bolt from the blue, and Xiao Li completely collapsed.
She called me crying and asked me what to do. I thought about it for a while and said to her, "Actually, you have been waiting for Xiao Wang to redeem you and comfort you. However, he has looked forward, and you are still in place. No matter how much you wait, he won't come back. There are two ways for you to go now, either keep waiting until you die of old age, or you can redeem yourself. ”
Xiao Li was silent.
After a week, Xiao Li asked me to come out for dinner. She cut off her long hair and put on her professional attire. There was a little firmness between his eyebrows. She said to me, "I've figured it out, I won't wait for Xiao Wang any longer." I want to redeem myself and love myself. I signed up for a training course and I want to work hard, live well, and no longer be bothered by the mistakes of the past. ”
I stroked Xiao Li's head and smiled slightly. Loving someone by mistake can bring a period of pain, which can make us confused and hopeless. However, we have to get out of this pain on our own after all. We need to learn to redeem ourselves and heal ourselves. Use time to dilute the pain and enrich your life with your career.
Later, Xiao Li really did what he said. She got a good job through training and got a master's degree. Occasionally, when we got together to chat, she would talk about Xiao Wang. However, the tone of the mention is no longer the grief and complaint of the past, but is indifferent. I believe that her heart has been redeemed.
A lot of people like to say, "I've met the wrong person." However, there is no absolute error, and there is no complete right. Everyone is growing and will have their own problems. When we are hurt, we can't just hold a grudge against the other person. We must first learn to forgive, and secondly, we must know how to redeem ourselves.
Life will not be smooth sailing, and we will inevitably encounter career failures, emotional betrayals, and the death of loved ones. These difficulties can make us miserable and make us doubt life. But we can't pass the blame on someone else. Remember, salvation can only come on one's own.
When we choose to redeem ourselves, hope will be restored to life.
When we choose to heal ourselves, we can grow into a better version of ourselves. Relatives can give us some comfort, but the burden of life still has to be borne by ourselves after all. So, don't wait any longer, start today, love yourself well and redeem yourself. Use time and effort to fill in the shortcomings of life, and you will find that in fact, we have infinite possibilities.