In June 2021, after an accident made me discover my husband's unknown secret, my life was shattered.
In May 2021, my father passed away.
In June, my husband and I agreed that I would go back to my parents' house to build a grave for my father.
My husband agreed, and then I packed my things and prepared to go back to my parents' house, but I didn't get back to work out for the time being.
I thought I wouldn't go back to my parents' house until the next day, so I didn't inform my husband.
At one o'clock in the morning that night, my husband came back with a smell of alcohol.
He opened the door and I asked him why he came home so late?
My husband seemed very panicked, he didn't answer my question, but blamed me for saying that I was going back to my parents' house, why didn't I go back?
I wondered, when can I go back to my parents' house, what's wrong with him?
The woman's sixth sense tells me that my husband has betrayed me!
Less than a minute after my husband came home, I heard the sound of walking with high heels outside the door, and the sound was getting closer and closer, coming towards our house.
The first thought that popped into my mind was, my husband knew I wasn't at home, so he brought the woman back?
I immediately rushed out, and the woman outside the door noticed something unusual and turned around and ran.
The woman didn't run a few meters before I caught her.
I grabbed the woman's hair and found her ragged and a little drunk.
I knew that this woman was not simple, and angrily slapped her twice and kicked her ass several times.
My husband rushed forward and hugged me and let the woman go.
I wanted to chase a woman, but my husband dragged me home.
A minute later, the woman texted her husband.
"I'll give you a minute to get down, and if you don't, don't go back to that house again. ”
Reading this text message, I felt like five thunderbolts.
My husband has another home outside!
The next day, to find out the truth, I went to the property to check the surveillance.
The night before, my husband and a woman pretended not to know each other and walked to my house one after the other.
If there is no accident, this woman is the third son raised by her husband outside.
My husband and I have been married for 17 years and have two daughters.
Over the years, I have taken care of my children, taken care of my family, and solved a lot of troubles for my husband, so that he can manage the company with peace of mind.
I gave so much, I didn't expect my husband to repay me like this.
I was unwilling to quarrel with my husband.
The eldest daughter is in her 10s and is already sensible.
She cried every day after she found out about it, and she didn't want me to quarrel with my husband.
I gave my husband a chance to return to the family, but he didn't look back.
After being a stay-at-home mom for so many years, my body is bloated and my face is yellow.
And the woman has a slender figure, a good face, fair skin, a trendy dress, and ten fingers have a manicure, which is pointed and long.
Needless to say, it must have cost me a lot of money for a woman to have such a look.
Over the years, I understand that it is not easy for my husband to start a business, and if I can save it, I will save it.
I am only willing to spend money on my family and children, rarely buy clothes for myself, and I don't like to dress up, which leads to my poor image, and I can even describe myself as raunchy.
Men become bad when they have money, and the husband is so fascinated by women that he has moved away from home.
In order to give my daughter a quiet environment to grow up, I sued for divorce.
My lawyer found out that my husband had transferred four or five hundred thousand yuan to women since 2018.
What made me even more angry was that my husband actually transferred 20% of the company's shares to a woman without telling me.
In order to get my things back, I applied to the bank to freeze my husband's bank account.
Unexpectedly, my husband's bank account balance was zero.
I suspected that my husband had transferred property in order to recover my money, so I withdrew the lawsuit.
I searched for information every day, but after a year of searching, to no avail.
The woman's home is not far from my house, in an upscale neighborhood nearby.
I suspected that my husband bought the woman's house, so in order to find out the truth, I took the reporter to find out.
Because of the presence of reporters and photographers, the woman did not embarrass me, and she generously let me into the house.
The woman said that she broke up with her husband since I knew about them, and she regretted ruining my family and regretting being a third son.
Because of San'er's identity, she smeared her father's face and made her father unable to raise his head in front of relatives and friends.
The woman choked up a little as she spoke.
I didn't believe her because over the past year, I had also found out that she had a call history with my husband.
There are 3 children in the woman's house, two boys and one girl.
The older boy is seven or eight years old, the younger is a few months old, and the youngest girl is about two years old.
I know that my mother-in-law has always disliked me for not giving birth to a son to their family, and my husband does not want to turn back, and I suspect that these two boys are his sons.
I asked the woman, are these children my husband's?
The woman said that she was only an 8-year-old son, born to her ex-husband, and the other two children were her best friend's.
I don't believe the woman's words, because the woman and her ex-husband's son are already in their teens, and the little boy in front of me is less than 10 years old.
The woman patted her chest and promised that her son was really born to her ex-husband, and if I didn't believe it, she could immediately call her ex-husband and do a paternity test with her son.
Regarding the child's life experience, I will not investigate it for the time being, I just want to know if my husband has lived with a woman in the past year?
The woman's house was a three-bedroom apartment, and she only let me look at one room.
I searched around that room and didn't find any men's supplies, but the other two rooms wouldn't let me look at them.
I asked the woman, how much money did my husband transfer to her?
The woman only admitted that the amount that my husband transferred to her was a small amount.
I don't believe it because I have bills. In the past five years, my husband has transferred a total of four or five hundred thousand to her.
When the woman saw that I had evidence, she patted her chest again and said, "Now there are only small transfers, and I promise that my current cub has nothing to do with him." ”
The woman is really cunning, and she never leaves the "now" when she says it, as if she wants to draw a line with my husband.
If I don't understand it wrong, what the woman means is that my husband did transfer a large amount of money to her before, but now it's only a small amount. Her son is not related to my husband now, but he does not deny that he was related before.
Now, I don't expect my husband to come back, I just want to get back what belongs to me.
Regarding the fact that the shareholder of the company has a woman's name, the woman said that my husband has a conflict with his partner, and he wants to bring a partner in.
But since no reliable person could be found, he borrowed the woman's ID card and transferred 20% of the shares to her head.
The 20% stake is only in her name, in fact, it is just a formality, she doesn't get anything, and she doesn't interfere in the affairs of her husband's company.
Can you believe a woman's words?
I took the reporter to my husband's office.
My husband came back from an outing, and we happened to meet outside his office.
I asked my husband where he lived, and he refused to tell me, saying I wasn't qualified to know that.
The current husband is no longer the husband he used to be.
The former husband was honest and a little handsome.
And now, when he is middle-aged, he is insulated from handsome, his hairline is getting higher and higher, his weight is getting higher and higher, and his teeth are becoming more and more protruding.
Looking at his buckteeth and thinking of the dirty things he had with women, I felt sick, so I began to roar to vent my dissatisfaction.
"We're not divorced, I'm still your wife, why am I not qualified to know where you live?"
My husband smiled and said to reporters and photographers, you see I didn't say anything, she has become irritable like this, she is such a person, like a tigress at home.
My husband's buckteeth used to be not very obvious, but now that he is getting older, the buckteeth are becoming more and more obvious.
Seeing that he was smiling and not smiling, I longed to pull out all his big buckteeth.
The reporter asked her husband why he betrayed his marriage?
The husband did not answer the reporter's question directly, but blamed the reporter for bringing an outsider to find him.
Hehe, 17 years of marriage, it turns out that I am just an outsider in my husband's mind.
I was angry with my husband again, "We have been married for 17 years, am I an outsider? We haven't divorced yet, I will always be your wife." ”
But the more I roared, the more proud my husband seemed to be. Because he knew I cared about him, he thought I couldn't live without him. The more I cared about him, the more he was angry with me.
The husband still didn't answer the reporter's questions, and blamed the reporter for not knowing anything, so he came over to ask him about it.
The reporter scolded her husband, we didn't get to the bottom of it, the woman has admitted that they have a relationship, and we just want to know the truth of the matter from him.
Facing the photographer's lens, my husband is not so arrogant, but he still doesn't admit to having things with women.
He said that the woman confessed to their affairs, he didn't care, he only talked about one issue from his own point of view. The woman admits that it is a woman's business, and he will not interfere or ask.
After my husband finished speaking, he didn't smile there, and showed his buckteeth again.
The reporter asked my husband why he cheated on me?
But he put the blame on me, saying that I didn't respect my mother-in-law and didn't treat my mother-in-law as my own mother.
My heart is half cold.
I gave birth to my eldest daughter, and my mother-in-law thought my daughter was a money-loser and didn't help bring it, so I had to quit my job and become a full-time mother.
Later, I gave birth to a second child, who was also a daughter. My mother-in-law hated me even more and didn't even look at my two daughters.
I was alone with my two daughters, and due to overwork, I fainted on the ground, and my mother-in-law didn't even look at me.
Thinking of the sad things in the past, I felt that my efforts had fed the dog, and I couldn't help but start growling.
I scolded my husband, when he was with me, the poor jingle sounded and asked him to come out of Zhuzhou to work with me, and he didn't even have a fare.
He asked his mother to borrow 200 yuan, but his mother couldn't get it, and in the end it was the fare I gave.
My husband's current achievements are all up to me, and he does not deny my efforts or use me. For the past, he has no gratitude, only contempt.
The conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not the reason for my husband's betrayal of the marriage, he can't talk about it, and he says that I am not a passing mother.
Him: "Just take a simple matter, my daughter wrote to her, did she read it?"
The eldest daughter saw that my husband and I often quarreled, and she did write to me to tell us not to quarrel.
That time, my husband moved out after beating me, and I didn't let my eldest daughter call my husband, and I couldn't send videos, only text messages.
My husband blamed me for interfering with my eldest daughter's contact with him, which I did after knowing that my husband had betrayed me, and I didn't do it before.
This is not a reason for his betrayal of the marriage, he just wants to put the blame on me.
My husband said that I didn't let my daughter contact him, although this incident cannot be the reason for him to betray me, but the important thing is that it is not good for my daughter's growth.
I disciplined my daughter, saying that it was not good for my daughter's growth, is his cheating good for my daughter's growth?
He didn't want to think about his ugly things, and his daughter cried every day after knowing his ugly things, which had a great impact on his daughter.
And he has repeatedly put the blame on me, looking at my thick-skinned husband, I am already completely chilled.
After communicating for so long, my husband still attributed the reason for his cheating to me, saying that I had a certain responsibility.
If I hadn't found out about his scandal in June 2021, we wouldn't have had a conflict, and then he would have lived his dashing life outside.
I don't pursue it anymore in the past, and looking at my thick-skinned husband is already disgusting to me.
I asked him how he would compensate me, but he said that he was now in debt, and he was being called on by creditors every day, and his living expenses were gone.
I can't believe this man's words anymore, and the man who has shared the bed for more than ten years makes me so strange that I can't be stranger anymore.
I had no choice but to go home and find the bills that my lawyer had found when I had sued for divorce.
Since 2018, my husband has been transferring money to that woman every month, ranging from tens of thousands to about 5,500 yuan.
And the mortgage of the woman's house is just 5,500 yuan. The two amounts matched, and I once again suspected that the house where the woman lived was bought by my husband, and that my husband had been paying off the mortgage.
I absolutely can't stand using our marital property to support the woman outside of him.
Once again, I came to the woman's house.
Before, I quietly installed a bug in my husband's office, and I heard him tell his friends that he had hidden me and was still with women.
I know that my husband still has a lot of things to hide from me, and there must be a transfer of property.
There are also many recordings of women who once went to her husband's office and also recorded what she said.
I showed it to the woman, but the woman didn't admit it, she said that she and my husband had been separated for a year, and she didn't admit that there was her voice in the recording.
The reporter asked the woman who bought the house? The woman admitted that the house was indeed bought by my husband, but the real estate certificate only had the woman's name.
When it comes to mortgages, the woman said that the mortgage was more than 5,500 at first, but later she knew that she had leaked her mouth, and then changed her mouth to more than 3,000.
The woman's mortgage is more than 5,500, and her husband transfers at least 5,500 yuan to her every month, and this amount is matched.
Now, it can be proved that this house is mine, but the woman who lives in my house is still so arrogant, and I start to roar again.
I asked the woman why she called my husband, and the woman said that my husband had affected her life.
I can't listen anymore, is it my husband who influences her, or does she influence my husband?
Seeing that I was so angry, the woman stopped talking again.
Exhausted from all this time, I decided to go home and seek my mother's advice.
Unexpectedly, because of what happened back then, my mother hadn't forgiven me and asked me not to go home to find her if I had something.
Let's talk about my husband and I first.
My husband and I were junior high school classmates, and we graduated from junior high school in '99.
After graduating, I went to work in other places.
After working for a few years, when I reached the age of talking about marriage, the matchmaker introduced me to a blind date.
After I went, I found out that the blind date was my junior high school classmate.
In the past, I thought that after graduation, I would no longer have contact with my junior high school classmates, but I didn't expect fate to make us blind dates.
Because I understand him clearly, and we are junior high school classmates, we cherish this fate, and then we do have a relationship.
But my parents disagreed, because my husband's family was really poor at the beginning. Although our family is not very wealthy, it is still considered to be middle class.
My parents disagreed, but at my strong insistence, they had to agree to my marriage to my husband.
After we got married, my father got my husband a good job through a relationship.
After working for a few years, after my husband accumulated experience and capital, he jumped out and went it alone.
My father has accepted my husband as his son-in-law, and has used more than 1 million savings to support my husband's business.
At the beginning of the business, there was only expenditure, no income.
I want to take care of my children and be a stay-at-home mom at home, and my husband is the only one busy with the company's affairs.
At the beginning, we had a very difficult time, but fortunately, we went down step by step, our career was on the right track, and we made a lot of money, but I didn't expect my husband to abandon me after he became rich.
My father had only been gone for a month, and my husband had betrayed me again, and my mother cried when she thought of these sad things.
I'm so guilty that my parents have to worry about it when I'm so old.
Now I don't want to be entangled with my husband anymore, I just want my husband to compensate me. So, I went to my in-law's house, which was not far from my mother's house.
After her husband became rich, he built a villa in his hometown, and also funded a small store for the public.
The mother-in-law went to Shenzhen to take care of the children for her sister-in-law, and only the father-in-law was at home alone.
My father-in-law did not admit that my husband had a home outside, and the reporter told him that my husband had personally admitted to us that he had indeed betrayed his marriage.
Father-in-law: "My son is loyal and honest, not a person who does bad things, you can go to my son's friend to inquire, it was this woman who first filed for divorce, and it has been three years, and my son and her have no married life to have the current situation." My son did bring a woman into the house, but he didn't share a bed with her. If you don't catch him sharing a bed with a woman, you can't prove that my son betrayed the marriage. Even if my son admits that he betrayed the marriage, I won't admit it. My son is not wrong and does not need to compensate this woman. All the fault is caused by this woman, this woman is a profligate, and my son doesn't make enough money for her to spend. ”
After listening to my father-in-law's words, I knew what it means to have a father and a son.
My husband is the same as my father-in-law, he has no bottom line in life, and he fights for his eyes to tell nonsense.
My father-in-law said that I was a profligate, and my husband gave me every month to spend all my living expenses on my children and family.
I wore the cheapest clothes, and I didn't dress up or wear makeup.
My husband spent so much money to build a villa for his family, and I didn't say that he was extravagant, but now he talks about me.
This family is all people who cross the river and tear down the bridge, and I don't want to quarrel with my father-in-law, I just want to get back what belongs to me.
In the past, my father was very strict with me, and when I was a child, whenever I didn't listen to him, he would whip me with bamboo sticks.
Now, I regret that I didn't listen to my parents and insisted on marrying my husband, which led to such an end.
I went to my father's grave and wept bitterly.
I am an only child, my father is gone, and my mother is in her 70s. I just want to be strong now, solve my marriage as soon as possible, and then raise my two daughters well.
This story comes from the "Looking for Love" column of Hunan Metropolis Channel, and the article is narrated in the first person for the convenience of reading.
Marry someone who is richer than your own house, and marry a wife who is poorer than your own house. This is a warning left by our ancestors.
Don't ask why? The reality is that if you don't listen, you will regret it later.
There are really many such people in real life, just like the protagonist in the article doesn't listen to the persuasion of his parents and marries a poor jingle person. As a result, men become bad when they have money.
Some people are like this, they don't hit the south wall and don't look back, and they regret it after they hit it.