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Recently, a short video platform launched a short variety show "Hello, Pediatric Dr. Chen" about the story of the hospital, which tells the work process of several doctors, and also allows the audience to see the unknown mental journey behind the doctors, and truly feel the contradictions between doctors and patients.
In the second episode of the show, a couple sparked the anger of netizens.
The couple brought their son Doudou to a children's center in Guangzhou for treatment, and Dr. Chen said that Doudou's ventricular septal defect was relatively serious and that he must undergo surgery as soon as possible.
But when my father heard that he was going to have surgery, he was very resistant.
Before he came, he consulted a lot of relevant information on the Internet, and also gave examples of some hospital reports, in short: "I don't want surgery, I want to heal myself." ”
As soon as these words came out, Dr. Chen was dumbfounded and looked at Doudou's mother helplessly.
Seeing Dr. Chen's impatience, the mother explained that her husband was a postdoctoral fellow with a high degree of education and was well-read.
Hearing his wife praise himself, Doudou's father was also proud, and quickly introduced himself: "I am a university teacher and professor. ”
Between the lines, these words are all telling: I am educated, you can't fool me, I checked the information.
After speaking, Doudou's father asked again with distrust:
Seeing that his father still didn't give up, Dr. Chen directly said that he was dead, and replied clearly: "Impossible!"
Perhaps worried that Doudou's father would continue to ask questions, Dr. Chen went on to explain that the interval between Doudou's defects was relatively large, and it was impossible to heal on its own, so surgery was necessary.
However, hearing Dr. Chen's words, Doudou's father was still skeptical, saying that the child was in good condition and was alive and well.
Immediately afterwards, Doudou's father once again claimed that he had checked the information on the Internet.
Seeing that he was so distrustful of himself, Dr. Chan's tone changed.
The words have been said like this, Doudou's father still refuses to give up, and keeps asking if he can heal himself, and the two of them come and go like this, which makes people very speechless.
After a few cycles, the postdoc asked directly:
Upon hearing this, Dr. Chen was also anxious and directly showed his qualifications.
In fact, seeing this, many people can also see that Doudou's parents valued Dr. Chen's ability in addition to being treated in other hospitals before coming to see Dr. Chen.
Dr. Chen's full name is Chen Xinxin, who has made great achievements in the field of congenital heart disease, and his technical level is at the leading level in China, and even internationally famous.
In another case, Dr. Chan confidently stated:
"If I hadn't seen it, I don't think there would be too many people in China."
This quote is a testament to Dr Tan's wealth of experience and his qualifications.
Therefore, when the discussion with Doudou's father reached an impasse, Dr. Chen was also forced to be anxious and spoke out.
Then, Dr. Chan gave his advice.
Even after asking Dr. Chen about the 99.5% success rate of the operation, Doudou's father was still very hesitant and kept saying that he wanted to heal himself.
Before the diagnosis, Dr. Chen asked the couple who was in charge of the house, and Doudou's mother said that it was her husband, but now in this situation, Dr. Chen has also given up continuing to communicate with Doudou's father and turned to Doudou's mother.
Seeing this, many viewers will be very puzzled, since he is a postdoctoral fellow and a university professor, there should be no problems in ability, since he has chosen Dr. Chen, they should believe him, why do they insist on not having surgery?
The following conversation reveals the reasons behind it.
It turned out that Doudou was an only child, and he was the hope of passing on the bloodline, so he enjoyed all the favors, and Doudou's father could be said to dot on him.
Therefore, even in the face of such a high success rate of 99.5%, Doudou's father is concerned about the 5% mistakes, and he cannot accept any problems with the operation.
With more than 20 years of medical experience, Dr. Tan has seen all types of patients.
After hearing this, he also persuaded that although Doudou was a congenital heart disease, it belonged to the kind of problem that was very small, but if it was left unchecked, it would develop into a more serious one, and when that day came, Doudou's father would definitely collapse.
Dr. Chan directly pointed out the problem of Doudou's father, who doted on his children so much that he could not think rationally and was distraught.
After saying that, Doudou's parents were silent.
Having said that, it ultimately depends on the parents' decision whether to have surgery or not, so before the couple left, Dr. Chen sent a piece of advice, which was not only for the condition, but also for Doudou's parents who doted on their children.
It can be said that Dr. Chen has done everything he can to save Doudou.
However, this scene also shows some social realities. In addition to the fact that patients and their families often distrust doctors, it also shows us the disadvantages of spoiling children.
There is a movie called "Sin Love", which tells his story based on Yang Suo, the "No. 1 lazy man in China".
Yang Suo's father's name is Yang Jichun, 40 years old, three generations of single inheritance, so that Yang Suoda is destined to be the "king of heaven" in the family since he was born.
Although the family has been a farmer for generations, Yang Jichun still gave his son the best life, gave extreme protection, and even squeamished to the age of 9, and he still had to be hugged by his parents, and his parents were afraid that his son would be tired.
After entering the school, the teacher and classmates naturally did not get used to him, and soon there was a conflict, and when the parents learned about it, they put all the fault on the teacher, took Yang Suo home, and did not let him go to school.
In this way, Yang Suo has been at home for 18 years, and in the process, his father died of liver cancer, and his mother became ill from hard work, leaving Yang Suo, who could not take care of himself.
But Yang Suo's cousin also helped him find a job to support himself, but Yang Suo didn't go at all, and his cousin was also disheartened, except for occasionally sending Yang Suo something to eat, he never cared about him anymore.
In 2009, Yang Suo starved to death at home.
In the name of love?
The behavior of Doudou's parents and the behavior of Yang Suo's parents are all passing on a sentence to us:
"Don't spoil your children in the name of love."
When children are growing up, their three views and behaviors will be more influenced by their parents, resulting in a good child who may be "raised and wasted" directly because of their parents' doting, and Yang Suo is the best example.
And Doudou's father is the same, with his past resume, he is questioning professional doctors, which is really ignorant.
In our lives, this kind of distrust between doctors and patients is not uncommon, and even some people would rather believe folk remedies and Internet rumors, rather than believe experts and professors who have been practicing for decades, delaying their children for a lifetime.
Therefore, when we see a doctor, we must not question the doctor, trust is the most correct choice.
Resources
The second episode of the video "Hello, Pediatrician".
Movie "Sin Love"