I don't know if parents often encounter this situation.
As soon as he turned around and didn't stare at the point, the child scribbled on the wall, or played with water on the coffee table, or even threw toys and so on.
Some netizens also complained:
In the face of this kind of children, parents are often the most headache, especially if they have been scolded and beaten, but the child just doesn't remember the beating, and he can only stop for a period of time every time.
But Li Meijin believes that such children are not the "bad children" in the mouths of parents, but as long as they are guided a little better, then they are often the most promising when they grow up.
Especially when children have the following 3 behavioral characteristics, parents should be happy and guide them.
1. Love to ask why
Children have a strong sense of curiosity, after all, they are new to the city, they are interested in everything, but some children are buried in their hearts and study by themselves, but some children are more lively.
They like to ask why, especially their parents, because they see them as omniscient beings who can tell them all the answers they want to know.
But once in a while, one or two questions are asked, and parents can still resist it, and if it is a basket of whys, then many parents will show impatience or perfunctory answers.
And if this is done, then over time, the child's curiosity is stifled, creativity is lacking, and it gradually becomes mediocre.
In fact, many studies have found that most of those who like to ask "why" when they are young and are satisfied have become very good when they grow up, such as Edison is a typical one.
From an early age, he loved why, and no matter how childish or difficult it was, his mother tried to satisfy his curiosity.
So what should we do if we encounter a child's "why" and we can't explain it?
At this time, we need to tell him clearly, and Mom and Dad don't know either, but we can go together to find the answer.
2. I like to sing the opposite
Today's children seem to have a rebellious period that has come early, and the more they are asked to do something, the more they do the opposite, and they always question the opinions of adults.
For example, if you tell him the story of Sima Guang smashing the cylinder, he will say after listening to it: There must be a better way than smashing the cylinder.
Then he began to say this and that, and sometimes the more he talked, the more outrageous it became.
And some impatient parents will immediately restrain their children and make them stop thinking cranky.
Actually, we all did it wrong.
Zi said: Doubt is the beginning of thinking and the end of learning.
Only when you can question will you think, and only then can you make greater progress.
So if we curb the child's crankiness and questioning our opinions, then we are preventing him from progressing.
Therefore, we should not curb the child's doubts, but should ask him why, what are the better methods, and discuss the feasibility of the method with him.
We should pay attention to every question we have in our children, even if it is a small problem, because it may be a small problem in our eyes, but in their world, it may affect their whole life.
Therefore, do not curb your child's doubts, you should encourage him to question, let him think more and use his brain, then his growth rate will definitely be much higher than his peers.
3. Love to destroy
Many children like to dismantle toys, and the toys they just bought may only be complete for 2 hours, and they will definitely be a mess after 2 hours.
At this time, parents may scold him, telling him to know how to cherish and not mess with and destroy.
But it's okay to dismantle toys, some children still like to tear down the wall, draw the wall, and even want to smash a hole in the TV, and then see if they can get into the TV to fight monsters with Ultraman.
There are many, many strange ideas like that.
So this makes many parents feel "broken", and they guard their children all the time, in case the home is demolished.
In fact, as long as parents guide them, children with this kind of behavior will often have a future in the future.
Because whether it's tearing things apart or scribbling, it's a way for them to explore the world, and they want to understand why these things are the way they are.
And the most direct way is to "dismantle".
In particular, there are some children who dismantle and dismantle, and their hands-on ability has become stronger, and the dismantling of things is more and more advanced.
It's a good performance and shows that his hands-on ability has really gotten stronger.
In fact, in the face of children's dismantling of things, there are all kinds of whimsical ideas, we don't need to stop, but guide.
We can patiently teach him what to disassemble and what not to do, and then when we are done, we can assemble it back with them.
In this way, the child's hands-on ability can be further exerted, especially in the process of "restoration", which can give him a greater sense of achievement.
And it can also make him develop a sense of responsibility, what I dismantled by myself, must be restored back, and understand the truth of "aftermath".
So whether it's like to ask "why", "question the views of adults", or "sabotage", these are all children's nature.
Although it is difficult to discipline, as long as you are patient, I believe that the child will give you a great surprise.
Therefore, when encountering children with these problems, do not simply beat them rudely, but guide them.