A few days ago, a video of a mother complaining about her daughter's troubles at school became popular on the Internet. In the video, a mother in Sichuan took out her daughter's test paper, and only scored 8 points in Chinese and 2 points in English, and the scores on the report card were all low.
In the face of such results, the mother did not angrily scold her child, but in a ridiculous tone, gradually lowered her expectations for her daughter's grades from the initial 211 and 985 schools to as long as it does not harm society. This kind of humorous complaint spread by tens, tens, hundreds, and the video quickly went viral.
Many netizens praised this mother's educational attitude, saying that she has a "good attitude" and "pokes at the hearts of the people". Indeed, this mother's approach is worth pondering, she does not equate the score with the child's strengths and weaknesses, but gives the child warm encouragement, this kind of Buddhist parent's mentality is awe-inspiring.
This incident inspires us to correctly understand the meaning of grades and not to let scores become the only criterion for judging a child. Xi performance is not everything, and there are many aspects to measuring a person.
Some children do not have good grades, but they have unique talents and interests in arts, sports, crafts, etc. There are also children who do not have a strong memory alone, but they are quick to think and have an innovative spirit.
The purpose of education is to allow children to develop in an all-round way and find their own shining point. If we only dwell on the results of a certain exam, we tend to ignore other good aspects of our children, and make our children lose confidence on the road.
In fact, each child has their own characteristics and values, and they have different personalities and Xi learning styles, which are unique to children. Education needs to respect the diversity of every child, not the same yardstick. Learning Xi is also a gradual process, and it is normal for children to inevitably have peaks and valleys on the road of growth.
As parents, when children encounter difficulties in school Xi, blame and punishment will not solve the problem, but may hit the child and shake their confidence in themselves. At this time, giving children warm encouragement and support, so that they can feel the love of their families, can become a positive force to motivate children.
Faced with the problem of children's grades, we can learn from the behavior of the mother in the Xi video, and do not judge the child's strengths and weaknesses by test scores. Give your child unconditional support and encouragement, accept your child's current state, set a near-range and definite goal, and encourage your child to work towards that goal and make continuous progress.
Communicate calmly with your child, understand his real needs, and find a learning Xi method that suits him. On the other hand, it is also necessary to pay attention to the children's interests and strengths, and give them full encouragement and guidance in the things they enjoy. Only in this way can children grow up healthy and happy, regain self-confidence, and finally find their own direction in life.
At present, many parents place too many unrealistic expectations on their children, and use scores to evaluate their children's strengths and weaknesses. This test-oriented education ignores the child's personality and damages their self-confidence.
The purpose of education is to make every child grow up healthily, not to produce standardized machines. We must reflect on the problems existing in education, return to the essence of education, pay attention to the characteristics of each child, and care for every student with love.
Only in this way will our education system be able to develop a new generation that is both caring and confident, based on the intrinsic needs of children's development.