#头条创作挑战赛#
As the saying goes, "The wise create opportunities, the strong seize opportunities, and the weak wait for opportunities." ”
In many people's minds, weak is often seen as a derogatory term, because being too weak can lead to failure or missed opportunities. Because of their own weaknesses, they will also have low self-esteem or negative emotions. Everyone wants to be able to build on their strengths and avoid their weaknesses and become a strong person in life.
However, really smart people know how to show weakness.
Showing weakness is not incompetence, but a gentle ability, a kind of wisdom with a degree of relaxation.
知弱：承认不足，在磨砺中蜕变
As the saying goes: "Forge ahead when you know what you are not sure about, and move forward with a distant mountain." ”
It means that if we are good at discovering shortcomings, we will have the goal of improvement, and if we have lofty goals, we will have the strength to move forward firmly.
On the contrary, if people can't see their own position clearly and ignore their disadvantages, they are easy to be complacent, and then close the door to growth.
Therefore, only by facing up to oneself and daring to admit shortcomings can we break the shackles of cognition and break through the situation and grow.
The book "Peking Opera Master" records the drama master Mei Lanfang's road to fame:
As we all know, he not only has profound singing skills and superb acting skills, but also the female artistic images he interprets are vivid and amazing.
In fact, when she first learned Peking Opera, Mei Lanfang received the opposite evaluation. The simplest singing voice, he learned for several hours and still didn't know the essentials. Not only is he clumsy, but also short-sighted, and the teacher commented that he is "inferior in qualifications, not a talent that can be created".
But Mei Lanfang, who loves Peking Opera, knows that her shortcomings are obvious, and she can only study hard and practice hard.
In order to make up for the lack of congenital conditions, he has made efforts beyond ordinary people.
He got up at five watches every day, slept in the middle of the night, and practiced his basic skills hard.
In order to train his eyes, he began to look up at the sky every day to chase the dexterous figure of the pigeon, and look down at the bottom of the water to catch the fish's smart tail swing, thus cultivating a pair of eyes that are full of anticipation. After unremitting efforts, he eventually became a well-known Peking Opera master, well-known at home and abroad.
As Mei Lanfang said: "I am a clumsy scholar, I don't have enough genius, I rely on hard work." ”
Source: Visual China
It is undeniable that everyone has their own cognitive blind spots, and if they do not see their own disadvantages and cling to their shortcomings, they will be held back. And the real masters know how to recognize the situation, face up to the shortcomings, and then take the initiative to seek transformation, so as to break out of the cocoon into a butterfly.
Just like those who are strong, make better use of the fulcrum of disadvantages, to gain insight into their own limitations, and become a better version of themselves in the process of concentrating on polishing.
Show weakness: take retreat as advance and win further opportunities
There is such a sentence in the movie "Forrest Gump": "If you are in trouble, don't be reckless, you just run, run away." ”
It is true that the moment you run away will give the impression of weakness, but you will avoid the situation and get the opportunity to continue to grow.
Yu Minhong, the founder of New Oriental, has a nickname called "Siguo Zhai Master". This is because he is criticized the most when it comes to summarizing his daily work.
However, in the face of criticism, Yu Minhong never refuted it on the spot. Employees joked that he held a record of never having a confrontation with anyone.
As the chairman, he is respectful of different opinions, allows each other to question, and maintains an open mind to listen to different voices.
Yu Minhong knows very well that only by using an empty cup mentality to "show weakness" can he open the lock that imprisons cognition.
At the meeting, he did not argue, but listened carefully to everyone's suggestions and silently took notes. After the meeting, he took the initiative to contact and communicate with each other to reach a consensus. With his own modest and pragmatic management, the business has flourished.
Sometimes, knowing how to "show weakness" is not only a kind of respect, but also a kind of bearing.
As Yu Minhong said: "Being a man is like water." When dealing with people, you must be calm, not low, not high, not self-righteous, arrogant everywhere. ”
Only by lowering your figure and face at the right time and avoiding the edge can you win the turnaround.
Learn to "show weakness" and not fight for a moment, so that life can be peaceful and smooth.
Source: Visual China
Weakness: Small progress allows endorphins to help grow
The ancients said: "Do it every day, don't be afraid of thousands of miles, and do it often, don't be afraid of thousands of things." ”
Even small improvements can give us a sense of accomplishment and pleasure.
Stephen Gais, author of "Micro Xi", once said: "Getting rid of the psychological pressure of high expectations starts with some small, unburdened positive behaviors every day." ”
Someone asked, "How do you do it?"
Some netizens shared their personal feelings:
If I want to exercise, I get off the bus one stop in advance every day and walk home, which not only gains health, but also sees different beautiful scenery on the road;
I wanted to improve my cognition, so I used my fragmented time to read a few pages of books every day, and then the more I read, the more interesting it became, and I read dozens of books in a year;
If I want to learn how to cook, I follow the video every weekend to learn a new dish, and in the blink of an eye, I already have several specialty dishes in half a year.
Micro-action, micro-success.
Source: Visual China
With every tiny progress, the brain secretes pleasurable hormones, and that's where endorphins come in.
This feeling of pleasure causes the brain to ignore the uncomfortable resistance of the body and make the decision to stick with it.
"When you repay yourself after completing a micro-Xi, that reward motivates you to do the micro-Xi again, and it rewards you in this way," Stephen said. ”
Don't think that small means no power. The completion of a simple task and the insignificant progress will be like dominoes, producing a chain effect, promoting the successive completion of small tasks, and finally realizing the leap from quantitative change to qualitative change.
In short, a truly resolute person has the strength to penetrate a stone with a drop of water, and also has the perseverance to defeat the weak.
Lao Tzu wrote in the Tao Te Ching: "Shou Rou is said to be strong." ”
That is to say, everything in the world is ever-changing, and it is the real strong man who follows nature and does not act forcefully or recklessly.
Learn to look inward to achieve a better version of yourself.
Wise people use words and deeds to tell people that sticking to principles and ideas, being humble and truth-seeking, is the great wisdom of dealing with the world.
Those who are truly intelligent know how to hide and guard the weak, stretch like water, insist on flowing low, and can cross the river and sea in the frustration and courage, and harvest a new self.
Source: Visual China
The weakest things in the world can often be better than the strongest things in the world.
Defending the weak is not to lie flat, but to wait for the opportunity to act and successfully turn the tables.
Knowing weakness but not cowardice, showing weakness but not weakness, having an indifferent mentality, living wantonly and calmly.