Wu Qianyin gave birth to children in marriage, and chose her mother and mother-in-law to accompany her in confinement
At the age of 31, Wu Qian experienced the first hidden marriage in her life. The subject was a man named Zhang Yujian, and the relationship between the two quickly warmed up, and soon Wu Qian became pregnant.
However, the good times did not last long, and Wu Qian soon understood in her heart that Zhang Yujian was not suitable to be his lifelong partner. But she still chose to give birth to this child.
During her pregnancy, Wu Qian did not tell too many people the good news, after all, this hidden marriage was destined not to last long. She only chose to tell her parents and Zhang Yujian's mother, who is the grandmother of her future child.
Zhang Yujian's mother was a little caught off guard by this sudden good news, but she still gladly accepted Wu Qian and actively prepared to help her through the waiting period.
In the first two months after pregnancy, Wu Qian did not have an easy time. Many of the reactions and symptoms that are common during pregnancy bothered her and made her sleepy throughout the day. Fortunately, there are two mothers who accompany and take care of her at all times, so it does not affect the health of her and the fetus.
Especially her in-laws love her very much, and whenever they are free, they come over to help her massage her legs and feet and cook meals in the kitchen. Wu Qian's heart was also warm, and she finally had a sense of being a mother.
Labor was imminent, and Wu Qian decisively chose to let the two mothers accompany her for confinement instead of going to the confinement center. She believes that only by being with her family can she feel the warmth of maternal love, which is good for her and her children.
The mother-in-law also readily agreed, out of love for her granddaughter, she was willing to spend time and energy to let Wu Qian lie down in confinement with peace of mind.
Wu Qian divorced a year later and began to raise her daughter alone
Wu Qian chose to let her mother-in-law and mother accompany her confinement and spent a stable and safe confinement period. After the birth of her daughter, Wu Qian always felt the satisfaction and happiness of her mother's love. She feels that being a mother is the happiest thing in her life.
However, the good times did not last long, and the rifts in the marriage gradually appeared. Wu Qian found that the selfish and indifferent side of Zhang Yujian's personality was incompatible with her warm and sincere character.
Both tried to adjust to each other, but in the end it didn't work.
Shortly after her daughter's first birthday, Wu Qian chose to divorce Zhang Yujian and officially ended the marriage. She looked depressed and miserable, but she was still strong enough to face reality.
Her daughter is still young and needs her mother's company and care, which has become the driving force for Wu Qian to continue to move forward.
After the divorce, Wu Qian put all her thoughts on her daughter's growth. She decided to raise her daughter alone and give her a warm and happy environment to grow up. To this end, she readjusted her life and work, trying to earn money to provide for her daughter's living expenses.
Outside of work and on weekends, she spends more time with her daughter, taking her to the park and reading storybooks.
At first, the life of raising children alone was a bit difficult for Wu Qian. But seeing her daughter's innocent smiling face, Wu Qian's tiredness will be swept away.
She knows that it is her responsibility and greatest wish to work hard to give her daughter a good life.
1. The second paragraph mentions "mother-in-law and mother accompany confinement", and the first paragraph clearly says "Zhang Yujian's mother" and "Wu Qian's mother" accompany confinement, so if the second paragraph only mentions "mother-in-law and mother", it is inevitably a little semantic.
2. The third paragraph mentions that "Wu Qian chose to divorce Zhang Yujian", but according to the first paragraph, it is written that "Wu Qian quickly understood that Zhang Yujian was not suitable to be a lifelong partner", so the word "choice" here may not be appropriate, and it can be considered to be changed to words such as "decided" or "forced".
Wu Qian mentioned her mother-in-law for the first time, and her title was alienated
After the divorce, Wu Qian was on the right track in life and work, and gradually came out of the emotional trough. But she still has a dull pain in her heart, because the wounds caused by this marriage will not heal quickly.
Especially when she thinks that her daughter is longing for her father's love, but she can't get her father's company, Wu Qian will feel guilty and blame herself.
When participating in the recording of a variety show, Wu Qian mentioned for the first time the story of how her mother-in-law accompanied her through the confinement period when her daughter was born. Speaking of this, Wu Qian couldn't help but shed tears of gratitude.
She knew that if it weren't for her mother-in-law's love and care, she wouldn't have been able to get through that difficult period alone.
But what is regrettable is that Wu Qian has not seen her mother-in-law for a long time. After the divorce, they drifted apart, and eventually became familiar and strange passers-by in each other's lives.
When Wu Qian mentioned her mother-in-law, she could only call "her" unfamiliarly, and no longer had any affectionate or affectionate names.
In fact, Wu Qian also thought about continuing to maintain the relationship with her mother-in-law and let her mother-in-law participate in the growth of her granddaughter. But after all, this is the marriage between her and Zhang Yujian, and it has nothing to do with her mother-in-law.
So out of various considerations, Wu Qian still chose to drift away from her mother-in-law.
There are no ifs in life, and Wu Qian will not think about what kind of relationship she would have with her mother-in-law if the marriage had not broken down. She can only accept the reality and regard her mother-in-law as her daughter's grandmother, but she has nothing to do with herself.
When mentioning her mother-in-law, her tone was unfamiliar, which was also Wu Qian's normal reaction after redefining the relationship between the two.
Wu Qian has an ego personality, does not depend on her parents, and dares to be responsible for her choices
Wu Qian is a very self-contained and independent girl, who has had her own ideas since she was a child and does not easily rely on her parents to make decisions. This is evident in many of her big choices.
For example, I gave up the opportunity to develop in Beijing just to work in my hometown city. Wu Qian doesn't want to leave her parents to go out of town, she prefers to live in a familiar and comfortable environment.
In fact, her family also persuaded her to go to Beijing to see the world, but Wu Qian was resolute in her choice.
Another example is the matter of having children out of wedlock, Wu Qian did not rely too much on the opinions of her family. She made her choice based on her own preferences and instincts, and took full responsibility for that choice.
Even if the results were not satisfactory, she did not complain that her parents did not stop her.
Even when making the divorce decision, Wu Qian thought it clearly before discussing it with her family. She will not be easily dissuaded by her parents, but will make decisions according to her own ideas.
This independent personality was an important aspect of her upbringing.
It can be said that every major choice of Wu Qian proves that she is a girl who dares to take responsibility for her own decisions. She does not rely on others, let alone complain and blame others.
If you choose, you will bear the consequences with all your might, this is Wu Qian's brave attitude towards life.
This kind of character also makes Wu Qian's process of getting back on her feet after the marriage change less painful. She knew she could afford to take on the burden of raising her daughter on her own. Even if the process is difficult, she will rely on her perseverance and resilience to get through it.
Therefore, Wu Qian's self-improvement and independence are valuable assets on her way to growth. It also gave her the courage and perseverance to face the helplessness and frustration when life was unsatisfactory.
Wu Qian loves a comfortable life and is satisfied with the status quo
Wu Qian is a girl who attaches great importance to quality of life and comfort. She is not keen on chasing fame and fortune, but wants to live in a state where she feels comfortable and peaceful.
This has also influenced many of her choices.
For example, he gave up developing in Beijing just to live an unfettered life in his hometown. Wu Qian doesn't want to struggle to survive in the bustling city, she prefers to sleep well every day and have a lively meal with her family.
After getting married and having children, Wu Qian also chose to live as she wished, not wanting to pay too much in her career. She just wants to have a warm little home and enjoy spending time with her daughter.
So even if the results are not satisfactory, she does not have too many complaints.
After the divorce, Wu Qian still lives a simple and simple life. She didn't want to rely on variety show programs or publishing books to become popular and start again. In her days, she just hopes to work hard, accompany her daughter to build blocks, read picture books, and cook food.
It can be seen that Wu Qian attaches more importance to the quality of life than to the pursuit of external sense of achievement. She may not be able to become a successful woman with a successful career, but she can live the life she likes, which is the happy life in her mind.
Now raising her daughter alone, although Wu Qian is working hard, she is quite satisfied with the status quo. She doesn't care about whether there is a better life in the future, she just wants to live this moment comfortably.
This kind of contentment and happiness mentality is a unique aspect of Wu Qian's character.
Wu Qian experienced a marriage change, but she still handled it calmly and started again
Wu Qian's first marriage ended in divorce, which was undoubtedly a huge blow to her. From love to marriage, and then to having to face the reality of divorce, Wu Qian has experienced too many negative emotions in the process.
She has also fallen into emotional troughs of self-blame, shame, and pain.
But Wu Qian quickly adjusted her mentality. She understands that life has to go on, and she has to live for her daughter. So Wu Qian chose to face the reality, accept the fact of divorce, and start again hopefully.
In fact, Wu Qian's character has a calm and natural side. She understands that life cannot be as good as it should be, and she also has the courage to accept the injustices of life.
The divorce hit her hard, but she was still able to quickly adjust her mindset and face life again.
After the divorce, Wu Qian put all her thoughts on her daughter's growth. She works hard to earn money and strives to create a warm and beautiful environment for her daughter to grow up. Instead of complaining or running away, she actively lives in an imperfect but hopeful reality.
Seeing her daughter's innocent and lovely smiling face, Wu Qian will also sigh at the beauty of life. She has probably experienced a lot of pain that ordinary mothers can't imagine, but she can still maintain a positive and optimistic heart.
This comes from her inner composure and love of life.
It can be said that it is this calmness and optimism that supports Wu Qian to rebuild her life after the shock. She has experienced the joys and sorrows of marriage, but she can still face it calmly and actively participate in a new life.
This spirit of optimism and self-improvement makes Wu Qian a strong woman who is defeated but not depressed, and who can still move forward despite pain.