Stories from the city reveal a new perspective on urban life and human relationships. Recently, a home buyer shared his life experience and made a thought-provoking point: city people don't like to entertain poor relatives, not because they are indifferent. This view has sparked a lot of discussion on social media.
This buyer, let's call him Mr. Zhang, bought a house of his own in the city. However, when sharing his own experience of buying a house, Mr. Zhang mentioned that he had noticed a delicate relationship between city dwellers and his rural relatives. When his rural relatives visited him, they were often seen as a burden by city dwellers.
"I used to think that the indifference of city dwellers towards poor relatives was due to their indifference and selfishness. "But as time went on, I came to realize that this was actually a misunderstanding." "
Mr. Zhang explained that city life is fundamentally different from rural life. In the countryside, mutual visits and help between relatives and friends are an indispensable part of daily life. In cities, people live at a faster pace and live more independently, which leads to the importance of family privacy among urban residents.
"The indifference of urban people to poor relatives is not out of indifference, but out of a kind of respect for personal space. "They may be more inclined to interact with their relatives in a more independent and equal way, rather than a traditional, family-centered model." "
In addition, Mr. Zhang also pointed out that the economic pressures of urban life are also one of the reasons for this phenomenon. The cost of living in cities is generally high, and many city dwellers are busy trying to make ends meet, sometimes struggling to take on the additional social burden.
This view has sparked a lot of discussion on social media. Many netizens said that they had a similar experience, and at first they were puzzled by the coldness of city people, but as time went on, they gradually understood the reason.
One netizen shared, "I used to feel hurt by the coldness of my relatives in the city. But now I understand that they just want to have their own space and not be bogged down by our difficulties. "
However, there are also those who disagree. They believe that whether in the city or in the countryside, family and friendship should transcend the limitations of material conditions. They criticized the attitude of city dwellers for being too cold, believing that it could lead to alienation of family and friendship.
In response to this controversy, psychologists point out that interpersonal relationships are complex and cannot simply be reduced to urban or rural problems. They believe that people should respect each other's feelings and needs in both urban and rural areas to build and maintain healthy relationships.
Although there are obvious differences between urban life and rural life, this does not mean that city people are more indifferent than country people. In fact, the economic pressures and independent lifestyles that come with city living may make city dwellers more inclined to socialize with their relatives in an equal and independent way. However, this does not mean that family and friendship are indifferent. Building healthy relationships requires understanding and respect from both parties, whether in the city or in the countryside. We should strive to understand each other's needs and feelings in order to achieve a harmonious interpersonal relationship.