Belle was 15 years old that year, and it was the girl's restless and self-conscious adolescence. Bao Lei watched her daughter frolicking in the yard through the window, but her eyes were not as warm and relieved as usual.
Once upon a time, little Belle was so scared that she cried as long as she left her mother; Now this girl with a tall figure and a calm tone is no longer the clingy little girl she was back then.
Belle began to have her own opinions, and no longer listened to everything her mother had to offer. She would refute her mother's advice and emphasize her choice. In the face of these small "rebellions" of her daughter, Bao Lei's heart is also quietly changing - she realizes that she can no longer ask Belle with the eyes of a child, and needs to give her enough space to grow.
Perhaps, my education method has been too strict, and it is time to adjust.
On this day, Belle happily showed her mother her latest paintings, looking forward to Bao Lei's praise. But Bao Lei couldn't help frowning after seeing it, and said softly: "My dear, the composition and tone of this painting still need to be improved, just like you still need to grow."
Faced with the shortcomings pointed out by her mother, Belle was visibly depressed, and whispered that she had tried her best to paint the scenery she liked best.
This scene made Bao Lei reflect on whether she was too harsh. Belle is growing up, and she should have her own ideas; As a mother, she should encourage and support her daughter instead of finding fault with her shortcomings.
"I'm sorry, Mom's words were too direct. I love this painting, it's like your heart and mine, it takes time to grow slowly. Bao Lei hugged Belle vigorously and decided to give her more understanding and space in the future.
Belle smiled comfortably in her mother's arms, this is the taste of her familiar mother.
Over the years, the daughters' studies have been carried by their mother Bao Lei. Whenever they encounter a problem, they always turn to Bao Lei as soon as possible. Mom will take time out of her busy schedule to answer questions carefully and guide them to complete their homework.
The daughters gradually developed the Xi habit of relying on their mother, treating her as a bosom friend and Xi counselor.
And his father, Lu Yi, has never asked or cared about these. When it comes to his daughters' homework, he always tries his best to find reasons to shirk it - "Dad won't" "Dad is busy with work now"...... Under the seemingly reasonable excuse, it is actually his inner helplessness and retreat.
He was really worried about his irritable temper, for fear that he would have a dispute with his daughters over tutoring studies and tear up the father-daughter relationship.
Lu Yi knows that his wife Bao Lei is gentle and steady, and she is wise, so her daughters' studies should naturally be taken care of by her. Indeed, Bao Lei can always easily solve the problems of her daughters' Xi and improve their grades.
Under her careful care, both daughters have grown up strongly, and the relationship between father and daughter is very harmonious.
Sometimes late at night, Lu Yi looks at his sleeping daughters, and a trace of apology wells up in his heart - they are obviously his own flesh and blood, but they lack father's love because of their escape.
He smoothed the folds of his daughters' quilts, silently pressed his lips on their foreheads, and then turned away, lest he would wake up the angels.
Belle, who has always been excellent in character and learning, showed a significant regression in her performance in the second half of last year. She was often absent-minded, unable to motivate herself in her studies, and even began to resist her mother's urging and inspection.
Bao Lei is aware of the seriousness of the problem, which she analyzes may have to do with her usual strict teaching style.
So she decided to communicate well with her daughter and adjust her education methods. One day, Bao Lei came to Belle's room with hot milk and gently persuaded her to put down her mobile phone to chat and talk to her mother about the recent school Xi.
At first, Belle refused to speak, but in her mother's magnetic voice and warm gaze, she finally couldn't help but pour out her heart.
It turned out that Belle was tired of the overly heavy schoolwork her mother had given her. She felt uncertain about her future and lost interest in her major, hoping to have more time to do what she loved.
Only then did Bao Lei suddenly realize that she blindly planned a life blueprint for her daughter, but did not give her full autonomy in her choice.
So, Bao Lei decided to give Belle more room to grow. She encourages Belle to take the initiative to find a Xi that suits her and pursue her interests. She also reduced Belle's extracurricular load and switched to designing fun Xi activities with her daughter.
Inspired by her mother's patience, Belle finally regained her interest in learning Xi, and the relationship between mother and daughter became more harmonious.
Now that Belle has grown up, when she looks back on that confused night, she is grateful to her mother for adjusting her education strategy in time to guide her out of the trough.
The changes that quietly took place made her transform from a girl to a woman.
On the road of parenting, Bao Lei often severely reprimanded her daughters for their mistakes and mistakes. But she also understands that the improper way and intensity of anger can hurt her daughter's soft heart.
So she summed up her "table slapping technique" - when she was angry, she could only shoot the table empty, and never knock on the items on the table or her daughters.
This kind of restrained slapping can not only vent her anger, but also let her daughter know that her mother is serious. If you slam the table or do something to your daughter instead, it can easily cause them to panic and turn an angry reprimand into a terrible insult.
I still remember one time, my seven-year-old daughter was disobedient and played crazy outside, forgetting to go home for dinner. When she ate it with relish, Bao Lei couldn't help but reprimand her for her carelessness and violations.
At that time, Bao Lei was holding her daughter's dinner plate, and she was furious for a while, and knocked over the plate with a "bang". The daughter was startled by this sudden outburst, and she cried out and hid in her husband's arms and didn't dare to face her mother.
This incident made Bao Lei realize that the wrong way to get angry would backfire. Since then, she has trained herself to only tap the table when she is angry, and to express it in a gentle but resolute tone.
The daughters also came to understand that behind their mother's anger was the fear of their negligence. Now that they have grown up, their relationship with their mother is like a close old friend.
Many people think that stay-at-home mothers are housewives and cannot achieve anything in their careers. But Bao Lei proved this perception wrong. While quitting her acting job to take care of her family wholeheartedly, she also used her excellent financial acumen to obtain considerable income through investment activities such as stock trading and financial management.
In fact, Bao Lei's investment and financial income far exceeded her previous filming salary. Her shrewd business acumen and calm and pragmatic style have made her repeatedly successful in stock investment, and she has even become recognized by her family and friends as the "God of Wealth".
Sometimes, she also holds online financial management courses to share her successful experiences.
In the life of husband and wife, Bao Lei also gave her husband Lu Yi great support. She will use her professional knowledge to formulate a reasonable investment plan for Lu Yi, and carefully diversify investment risks, so that Lu Yi can develop his career with peace of mind and continue to obtain considerable investment returns.
It is precisely because of Bao Lei, a "wealth tree" that brings light and heat, that Lu Yi's career can rise steadily, the relationship between husband and wife is deeper, and his life is happier and more satisfying.
Bao Lei always believes that stay-at-home mothers can also become another "big moneymaker" in the family through their own efforts, and better play the role of wife and mother while achieving their careers.
Parenting is a long way to go, and support and understanding between couples are particularly important. Over the years, Bao Lei and Lu Yi have performed their duties and supported each other, so that the family has maintained stability and upward in the midst of turbulence.
Lu Yi devoted himself to his career and became the main source of income for his family. Bao Lei, on the other hand, gave up her acting career and took care of her children and housework full-time. Although the two have different philosophies on parenting issues, they always understand each other and work together.
Sometimes, seeing her daughters slim, Bao Lei can't help but feel that time flies. She would cry softly in her husband's arms, pouring out her sadness and helplessness as a mother.
At this time, Lu Yi will always comfort him gently, let his wife take off her guard and burden, and share all the bits and pieces with him.
Lu Yi is also often grateful to his wife for her silent dedication over the years, which brought her long-term career in the entertainment industry to an abrupt end. He knew that Bao Lei had actually given up a lot of dreams, but she was willing to compromise first for the sake of her family.
Every time he thinks of this, Lu Yi cherishes the days with his wife even more.
The relationship between the husband and wife is growing stronger because of their mutual care. They join each other's world, you have me, I have you, hand in hand through life, and the bits and pieces of life.
It is this hard-to-find support that has made them a happy home.