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I remember when I was a child, whenever summer came, I would reluctantly go to the river with my mother to take a bath. It seemed to me that the water was dirty, icy and uncomfortable. Whenever the people around me enviously compliment me on being a beautiful girl, I always have an inferiority complex deep in my heart. I was scared of revealing a side that I didn't want to show in the eyes of others.
However, many years later, because of my work, I came to a Hui area. Getting along with the local Hui girls, I gradually discovered a different kind of confidence and calmness in them. Even if they don't dress up, they will look so comfortable and beautiful. When I first met, I felt uncomfortable because of the slight difference in everyone's daily lifestyle, but in the process of dating, I found that they did not care about their appearance and image as much as I always felt, and they exuded a charm that did not need to be deliberately packaged in their bodies and personalities, which made me feel inexplicably envious.
By chance, I had a conversation with a Hui girl. When she knew that I was complaining about not showering for a month, her expression was a little surprised. Then she calmly said to me: "We Hui people believe that the greatest wealth of a person is not the external things, but the inner richness. The appearance is just the skin, and the inner beauty is the most important thing. We don't deny our worth and charm because of a little dirt on the outside. True beauty comes from inner confidence and kindness. These words touched me deeply and made me reflect on my perception of beauty.
I used to spend too much time and energy on dressing up in order to cater to other people's eyes. Now, I am beginning to understand that the so-called "perfection" is nothing more than an external packaging, and true beauty needs to emanate from the inside. Dirt does not mean low self-esteem, and inner kindness and self-confidence are truly admirable qualities.
On the way home, I kept thinking about this in my heart. Perhaps, I have been too strict with myself and neglected the real needs of my heart. Perhaps, true beauty does not need to be dressed up in a dazzling way, but comes from the purity and tranquility of the mind. Along the way, I felt conflicted, a little sad, but also a little relieved. The words of that Hui girl, like a seed, took root in my heart.
When I got home, I talked to my mother for a long time. I spoke about my previous inferiority complex about my appearance, and I spoke about my envy for the informal lifestyle of the Hui girls. My mother listened to me silently, and then said softly, "Each of us has our own external and internal selves, and we don't need to compare ourselves with others. Most importantly, you need to understand that beauty is not limited to the appearance on the outside, but also on the cultivation and kindness of the heart. Other people's lifestyles can only be your reference, not the standard. Only by finding your own way of life and inner peace can you truly exude your own unique charm. ”
These words made me feel a lot of emotion. My mother's words touched my heart deeply. I no longer bother with my inferiority complex, and I no longer feel that other people's lifestyles are the best. I began to slowly find my own lifestyle and cultivation, which made me feel more peaceful and at ease.
Later in life, I gradually learned to no longer limit myself to external performance, but to experience the beauty of life with my heart. I no longer deliberately pander to the eyes of others, but I am firmly responsible for my own heart. Such a change is not achieved overnight, but requires continuous thinking and practice.
Time flies, and in the blink of an eye, a few years have passed. When I think back to who I used to be, I can't help but feel emotional. That experience in the Hui area made me re-examine my perception of beauty, and it also made me understand that I don't have to follow in the footsteps of others, but also follow my own path firmly. In the process, I gradually found my identity and confidence in myself. Nowadays, the way of life of Hui girls is no longer unfamiliar to me, and I can understand their calmness and self-confidence more and more.
Everyone's growth is a story about themselves. In this process, we are constantly thinking, growing, and adapting to the environment around us. Those frustrations and confusions have become valuable assets on the road to our growth. I am glad that I was able to gradually understand my perception of beauty, and I also found inner peace and self-confidence. This kind of growth is invaluable.
I was surprised by these words, and I understood my contradictions more deeply. I was torn between my appearance and my heart, but I couldn't find my own belonging and self-confidence. The good friend continued: "Sometimes, we don't have to change ourselves for the sake of other people's eyes, because people who really like you will like the real you." Her words made me pause, and I began to think that maybe being true to myself was the most important thing. Perhaps, the natural and free me is what I really are.
As I thought about it, I began to try to change myself. Instead of deliberately striving for perfection on the outside, I began to respect the true needs of my heart. Whenever I walk on a natural trail, feel the wind gently on my face, or see the clear water of the river, I think these are the best gifts of life. In this feeling, I found inner peace and confidence.
Later, I met an elder of the Hui ethnic group at an event. We talked about life, faith, and beauty. The elder said: "In our Hui tradition, beauty is not the beauty of the outward, but the cleanliness and tranquility of the heart. The change of external objects cannot shake the truth and goodness of a person's heart, and this is the true beauty. Her words were like a beacon of light that showed me the way forward. I've come to understand that true beauty should be both inside and out, not just dependent on external packaging.
Now, looking back on the whole process of growing up, I think the most important thing is to change my heart. I no longer feel anxious about the pursuit of perfection on the outside, but I have learned to appreciate the beauty that nature has given us. The simplicity and self-confidence of the Hui women also made me more determined in my inner choice. Now I no longer run away from my heart, I accept everything about myself calmly. Maybe I'm not perfect, but I'm unique.
Now, whenever I walk by the river and feel the coolness of the river on my heels, I don't feel uncomfortable anymore. That feeling of freshness and naturalness made me understand that it is not only the dirt on the outside that washes away my body, but also the burden on my heart. I've learned to be honest with myself, and I've learned to radiate true beauty from within. This journey may be bumpy, but I am willing to listen to my inner voice and live a better life with a more authentic self.