Yumin grew up in a typical patriarchal rural family. There are three brothers and sisters in the family, and she ranks second, with an older brother Lin Dazeng and a younger sister Yufang below.
His parents were very obedient to the general patriarchal thinking of that era, and although Lin Dazeng's Xi grades were very poor, his parents could be described as taking precautions and taking care of him.
Although Yumin is excellent in character and learning, she rarely receives attention or praise from her family. The concept of "daughter's surname is Ke" has been ingrained.
Lin Dazeng didn't need to study at all, and he even repeated a grade in junior high school, but his parents still didn't hesitate to spend money to buy a student in high school, just for that idea of vanity.
And Yumin got very good results in the high school entrance examination, and could have gone to a better high school for further study, but because her family did not support her, she had to choose a school closer to home, and she saved money to make up for three years of tuition and living expenses.
The parents are "happy" to see it, anyway, it has nothing to do with their daughter's marriage. Influenced by such an environment, Yumin's personality has become more tenacious and independent, and she understands that only by relying on herself can she get out of the quagmire of fate.
After graduating from high school, Lin Dazeng soon fell in love and married his girlfriend Lin Hong. Lin Hong has a strong personality and orders her in-laws to do things for her all day long. Lin Dazeng also had no intention of working, and waited for death every day.
The newlyweds are not only very poor themselves, but they also spend all day looking at their in-laws' financial assistance. They have done many business transactions, all of which have failed.
And the parents love their son out of partiality, and every time they lose all their money, they have to squander everything they have for Lin Dazeng's family.
Yumin was admitted to a normal school after graduating from high school, and relied on a meager salary to support her family. She knows that her parents are getting old, and her responsibilities are heavier.
On holidays, I always have time to go home, do some chores for my parents, and often send them money. Over there, Lin Hong scolded her husband's parents for being stingy behind her back, complaining. Yumin saw it in her eyes, but she was helpless.
Yumin's parents died one after another when Yumin was in her thirties, first her father, and then her mother also left. Yumin teaches and educates people, and her work is very busy.
In addition, he also has a family, so he rarely has free time to go back to his hometown to visit. She thought that her parents had done their filial piety during their lifetime, and they would not blame herself for missing such rituals as tomb sweeping.
However, this aroused the fierce dissatisfaction of her sister-in-law Lin Hong. She insulted Yumin for being unfilial, saying that she forgot her roots, didn't take her hometown to heart at all, and worked all day long.
In fact, Lin Hong's complaint was full of ignorance. She didn't understand how to allocate Yumin's limited time with multiple responsibilities on her shoulders. She also doesn't know that Yumin is actually more filial to her parents than anyone else.
The only explanation is that she is jealous of Yumin's successful career, and she has given so much but has nothing. This jealousy made her lose her rational judgment.
This year, Yumin's niece Xiaoli is getting married. Yumin knows that this is an aunt, and she should pay more on her niece's big day. So she gave her niece 5,000 yuan for her wedding in advance, and also took the time to go home to help prepare.
But Lin Hong's difficulties followed, and he commanded her. The night before Xiaoli's wedding, everyone sat in the living room and chatted. Lin Hong deliberately ridiculed Yumin in public, saying that her son was studying in such an expensive university, why was he still crying poor.
Yumin couldn't bear it anymore and refuted her vexatiousness. The two soon got into a quarrel and quarreled. This quarrel can be said to have been planted many years ago. Yumin has actually been enduring it, she didn't expect Lin Hong to be so shameless and unscrupulous.
She knew she had to give an explanation in order to have peace. So she was not afraid of Lin Hong, and reprimanded her with righteous words. At this moment, she finally let go of those burdens and found herself again.
That fierce quarrel with Lin Hong became a turning point in Yumin's life. She suddenly realized that her parents had passed away, and there was no need for her to tolerate Lin Hong's unreasonable troubles. She calmly said to Lin Hong that her parents were gone, and she would never be afraid of Lin Hong again.
It was the first time Okmin had so decisively refused to compromise. After some scolding, Yumin re-examined her years of dedication and forbearance. She realized that she was already overloaded. Most of his energy and money are spent on his brother's family, and his career and family are not given the attention they deserve.
It's time to rediscover the balance of life. As a result, Yumin gradually reduced the number of times she went back to her parents' home. She puts more time and energy into her work and her husband and children. Occasionally, when I go back, I often avoid Lin Hong intentionally or unintentionally to avoid unnecessary trouble.
As the days went by, Yumin found that her life turned out to be radiant. After letting go of those suffocating burdens, she lived more calmly and happily.