Mr. Jin had just finished a day's work and was about to go home. At this time, his mobile phone popped up a WeChat message prompt sound. As soon as I saw that it was several consecutive updates sent by my old partner Ms. Zhou, I was immediately interested.
He knew that Ms. Zhou had a daughter who was about to take the college entrance examination, and the results of the exam must have come out.
Click on the circle of friends to take a look, Mr. Jin guessed correctly. Ms. Zhou happily posted a notice that her daughter was admitted to the coveted Shanghai Jiao Tong University.
"Great! I have been looking forward to this day at last, and my baby has finally got her wish. Ms. Zhou expressed her excitement smoothly in the state.
Mr. Jin was happy for the mother and daughter of the Zhou family, and immediately sent congratulations in the comment area. Only then did he realize that the comment area was empty, and there was not a single like. This is very different from Ms. Zhou's usual popularity in the circle of friends.
Mr. Jin was puzzled and puzzled.
After receiving Ms. Zhou's message, Mr. Jin thought about it all night and finally understood the crux of the problem. As a self-media person, he decided to use this incident as a guide to explore the problem of "desire to share" that often occurs on social software.
Mr. Jin believes that many people like to share what they see and think on WeChat for the purpose of gaining recognition and increasing communication. However, if you share too casually or frequently, it is not only easy to cause distraction to others, but also may lose your sense of proportion due to lack of consideration, which in turn will lead to resentment.
For example, in the workplace WeChat group, some people always like to post some articles or video links that are not related to work, if you are busy with tasks, the sharing that pops up at this time will undoubtedly affect work efficiency, and over time it will cause boredom.
For another example, sharing photos of yourself buying brand-name bags and eating seafood in WeChat Moments is easy for others to think that you are showing off and causing unnecessary trouble.
Therefore, Mr. Jin suggested that when sharing information on social media, you must carefully consider the audience and the appropriateness of the content you share, and not blindly satisfy your own "desire to share", but should take into account the feelings of others.
Only in this way can the relationship remain harmonious and avoid unnecessary misunderstandings.
In response to the problem of "desire to share", Mr. Jin further analyzed that sharing life with his family can avoid a lot of unnecessary troubles. Because only family members are the closest and most understanding people in your life.
For example, Mr. Jin has a younger sister who works in other places, and usually gets together less and leaves more. One day, Mr. Jin attended a wedding and took a few beautiful photos of the scene and sent them to his sister. My sister immediately made a video call and said with a smile: "Brother, you are so handsome in this formal suit! The bride looks beautiful, I wish you a good time!" Even if they are thousands of miles apart, a photo and a video can make the brotherhood deeper.
For another example, Mr. Jin's old father is usually not very good at expressing himself, but whenever Mr. Jin shares some small progress in his work in the crowd at home, the old father is always the first to give a thumbs up and then reply "Come on, son!" But it contains a lot of fatherly love and support.
Therefore, Mr. Jin believes that maintaining a relationship with his family that has nothing to say, you have me, I have you, and deepen the relationship through life is the meaning of sharing.
There is no need to deliberately please or hide yourself, family is our most precious spiritual sustenance.
Although sharing life chores with family can bring warmth, Mr. Kam reminds everyone that it is still necessary to be cautious about sharing information on social media. Because intimacy doesn't mean you can share your private space indefinitely.
For example, a friend of Mr. Jin, Xiao Wang, has a good relationship with his girlfriend Xiao Fang, who has been in love for many years. Xiao Wang often posts photos and travel stories of the two on WeChat Moments, announcing to the "world" how much he loves Xiaofang.
But over time, Xiao Fang was tired of Xiao Wang's excessive "show of affection", and finally broke up ruthlessly.
Xiao Wang was stunned. Thinking about it carefully, he didn't mean to show affection, but simply regarded Xiaofang as a family member, and by default they could share each other's bits and pieces at will. He regretted being late to realize that no matter how intimate a relationship is, it needs to maintain certain boundaries, and that too much honesty can ruin the relationship.
Therefore, Mr. Jin believes that it is also necessary to carefully balance the distance between friends and partners. Avoiding excessive privacy and keeping personal space appropriate will undoubtedly make both parties more comfortable and stay together longer.
Sharing is a bridge that connects the heart, but any bridge needs the support of bridge piers so that people can walk steadily.
In view of the risks caused by the various "desire to share" mentioned above, Mr. Jin gave his advice. He believes that it is not necessary for us to completely eliminate the sharing of information on social software, and the key is to achieve reasonable control and careful choice.
For example, you can share positive videos and articles on Moments to convey warmth; You can send some cute pets and food pictures to your girlfriend to make her happy; When you are in trouble, you can also ask for help from a confidant who is in good spirits.
These are all sharing based on mutual understanding, support, and respect.
Of course, before sharing, we also need to put ourselves in the other person's shoes: is this message appropriate for this time and occasion? Is my tone too direct? Does my sharing cause pressure or burden? Put yourself in the shoes of others so that you can get positive feedback from sharing.
In any case, family is still our most precious spiritual support. Therefore, Mr. Jin finally reminded everyone to control the frequency of sharing on various social media and maintain regular communication with family members.
Cherish the relationship with your family and let love fill every corner of life, so that we can feel the true warmth in the turbulent world.
Through the above examples, we can conclude that when using social software such as WeChat, everyone needs to pay attention to controlling their "desire to share" and prevent unnecessary misunderstandings caused by oversharing.
Building a deep bond with your family and deepening understanding and support through the little things in your life is a good example of healthy sharing. On other occasions, we need to carefully judge whether the sharing is appropriate and whether it will cause psychological pressure on the other party, so as to adopt the appropriate way and content to communicate.
There is no right or wrong in sharing, the important thing is to put yourself in the other person's shoes. At the same time, it maintains a certain relationship distance, which also makes the connection more comfortable. Only when we learn to make reasonable use of social tools can we get along with others and pass on more positive energy.