As the saying goes, the "three treasures" of people are indispensable
First, the old book. People have enough savings and pensions in their twilight years. It can not only greatly enhance the sense of security of the elderly, but also have sufficient security support for the quality of life, quality of life, medical security, etc. The most important point is that you will not be trapped by others, you will be trapped by your children, and you will have more choices and autonomy.
Second, the nest. As the saying goes, a golden nest and a silver nest are not as good as your own kennel. The tree is big and the deciduous people are old and return to their roots. Especially for the elderly, it is important to have a house that belongs to their name. It's not just about strong economic security. It can also improve the autonomy, independence, control, sense of security, social status and sense of identity of the elderly. At least you can ensure that when you are old, you will have something to rely on and rely on. Have a stable and happy old age.
3. Wife. There has always been a popular saying among the people that a full house of children is not as good as a halfway couple, which also indirectly illustrates the importance of having a wife when people are old. When people are old, the value of the wife is reflected in emotional support, daily care and life assistance, in the process of ordinary life, they can take care of each other, care for each other and become each other's spiritual sustenance.
After getting up from a nap, I wandered around the community and suddenly saw a group of older people gathered under a big tree next to the square. One after another, you go to sue him, and the indignation of you sue him keeps coming. Curious, I slowly gathered around the crowd. When I got closer, I saw that Grandma Zhang was holding a big tree and crying. Next to her feet were two large bags of clothes and other household items. Grandma Zhang's wife squatted aside, smoking a cigarette silently. I asked my neighbor what was going on, and an aunt told me that Grandma Zhang and his wife had just been kicked out of the house by their daughter-in-law. The house in their hometown has long been sold, and the son who helped him buy the current house is now evicted and has nowhere to go.
Grandma Zhang's grandson and my youngest son are about the same age, and we often take our children downstairs to play, so we are more familiar with each other.
Grandma Zhang often boasted in front of us, boasting about how good her son was in school before, how smart his grandson was now, and so on. Dudu has a lot of complaints about her daughter-in-law and is very dissatisfied. She often spoke to us about how strong her daughter-in-law was and how weak her son was. Grandma Zhang, who has been strong all her life, always feels that her son is very cowardly in front of her daughter-in-law. But now that her son is older and has his own home, he no longer listens to her, and she is also helpless.
Grandma Zhang and her wife used to live in a small county town in Sichuan, and they were both ordinary salaried people, and they only had one son. Grandma Zhang has a kind of Sichuan woman's natural pungency, and she is also relatively strong. Generally, sons raised by strong mothers have a cowardly personality.
Grandma Zhang's son was admitted to a famous 985 university in Guangzhou with excellent grades during college. I talked about a Hunan girl during college, and after graduation, both of them looked for jobs here. College students who have just entered the society from the ivory tower must not have the money to buy a house, so when they just graduated, the young couple rented a house outside.
We Chinese have been thinking differently from foreigners since ancient times, and we Chinese must have a house under our own name to feel safe. Therefore, after graduating from college and working for a few years, after the young couple had a little savings, the son's girlfriend encouraged the son to go back to talk to Grandma Zhang, so that they could contribute some of the funds, plus the money in the hands of the young couple, to make a down payment for a mortgage to buy a house in Guangzhou.
At first, Grandma Zhang disagreed, after all, she and her wife were only working-class, and they had provided for their son's education for so many years, and they didn't have much savings left. If they help their son with the down payment, then they will have to sell the house they live in now. And if there is no house in their hometown, then they can only choose to leave their hometown and live with their son in Guangzhou. This made Grandma Zhang very insecure, so Grandma Zhang firmly disagreed at first. However, the Hunan girl his son found was not only spicy and strong, but also very eloquent, and knew how to make the old man happy. And repeatedly assured Grandma Zhang that she would be filial to Grandma Zhang, and would definitely become the support of Grandma Zhang's old couple in their old age, and would definitely make their old age very happy.
Grandma Zhang eventually agreed to sell their house in Sichuan and settle in Guangzhou with her son. It is said that it is easy to fall in love and difficult to get along, and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law also belongs to this. At the beginning, everyone got along carefully in order to take care of the face of both parties. But after all, they have lived under the same roof for a long time, and the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law who are not related by blood, plus both of them have relatively strong personalities. There is also a difference between the two generations' life philosophy, parenting philosophy, and so on. As the days accumulate, the contradictions increase day by day. Especially in the past year or so, the two women have often collided like two fireballs, and sparks flew everywhere at the touch of a button. The two men in the family hid to the side and kept silent every time. The wife has one sentence at most: Let's say a few words, and the son is silent like a dream gourd. She couldn't afford to offend the two women in the family, so she could only deal with it in silence.
No, this morning, my daughter-in-law was eating breakfast because she disliked Grandma Zhang for being too dirty. I went to feed my grandson without washing my hands, and the food fell on the ground, and Grandma Zhang picked it up and fed it to her grandson's mouth, which happened to be seen by her daughter-in-law. The two women fought again because of this incident and almost got into a fight. In a fit of rage, the daughter-in-law threw all the luggage of Grandma Zhang and his wife out of the door and blasted them out. Grandma Zhang, who has nowhere to go and can't go back to her hometown. I couldn't help but hug the big tree downstairs and cry, which attracted the neighbors to come and watch.
The house in his hometown has been sold, which is equivalent to cutting off his way back to his hometown, but it is still very unrealistic to choose to stay with his son. The two sides have reached this point, and there is no way to live together under the same roof anymore, Grandma Zhang and his wife can only choose to go back to their hometown in Sichuan, and the old couple can only use their monthly salary to rent a small house to live temporarily.
Therefore, the elderly, they must not lose their houses until the last step. This is the most important economic security and reliance for one's old age. In the relationship between parents and children, parents can give everything they have selflessly, but children's love for their parents is usually reserved.