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He was the hysterical "shrew" in the 2005 "Spring Festival Gala".
The phrase "What are you doing!" made hundreds of millions of viewers across the country laugh.
He is also the "Da Zhuang" who plays the role of a daughter-in-law in "Golden Wedding".
And in "Wang Gui and Anna", he can still support the "big and rough" professor Wang Guide's contrasting role.
With small eyes and a shoehorned face, Lin Yongjian is still fresh in everyone's memory with his unique image.
However, it is this who is not good-looking, but he is a national first-class actor, and he also married the most beautiful military flower in the army as his wife.
Lin Yongjian's life is not nourishing.
One is a poor boy who came out of the mud in the village, and the other is the "most beautiful military flower" from a military family.
What is the charm of Lin Yongjian, how can he achieve this perfect marriage, and how can he raise his children so well?
Lin Yongjian and his eldest son
In December 2023, Lin Yongjian shared a video on social platforms.
In the video, his 13-year-old son Lin Dajun was generously interviewed in English.
It is not difficult to see from his fluent English and calm expression that the ignorant teenager who used to be in "Where Did Dad Go" has grown up. In the video, Delin Dajun's gentle and energetic appearance can't help but be admired.
Lin Dajun appeared in the 2015 variety show "Where Are You Going, Dad", and his interaction with his father Lin Yongjian made us remember deeply.
's father is a comedian, he has perfectly inherited his father's funny factors, and he also has frequent golden sentences in the show.
Others think that Lin Yongjian has done a lot of good in his previous life to have a complete family in this life.
But who would have thought that Lin Dajun was not his first child.
He had lost a child before that, but even so, he did not spoil his 41-year-old son too much.
During the broadcast of the show, we can see that Lin Dajun is not a pampered child, and he has never complained about the difficult environment.
It can be seen that even if Lin Yongjian is old, he still has a set of achievements in educating children.
There is such a scene in "Where Are You Going, Dad", in a scorching hot environment, the director asked them to go to the brick factory to do tasks, and even the adults were a little impatient.
But Dajun, who has always loved cleanliness, obediently does his tasks and is willing to listen to the story of his sister who works in the brick factory.
He asked his sister why she came to do such hard work, and he said, "Aren't there a lot of easy jobs?"
The girl told him, "It's time for me to go to college, my parents are working here, and I use the holidays to help them lighten their burden, and also to earn tuition for myself." ”
After listening to the sister's story, he was silent for a while and ran over to help his father.
Afterwards, he was afraid that his sister would not be able to call if he left the phone, so he asked his father for his sister's contact information and asked his father to sponsor her to go to college.
Lin Yongjian did not object to his son and agreed to his son's request.
After that, the girl successfully completed her studies with their sponsorship and was admitted to the civil service.
It can be seen that Lin Yongjian still cares about children's education.
And during the interaction of the show, Lin Yongjian is always able to correct the child's mistakes in time, and he will apologize to the child when he makes a mistake.
As a role model for his children, it can be seen that he still cherishes his fate with his children.
But why did such a loving father lose a chance to be a father in his first marriage?
What happened to his first child in that marriage?
It all started with his encounter with his wife.
When I first met Zhou Dongqi, fate was predestined
As we all know, Lin Yongjian's appearance conditions are not very superior, and he even has a nickname, that is, the bull terrier.
Compared with a well-known star, it is even better.
And Zhou Dongqi is different, he is good-looking, and there were many people chasing after him at that time, including many rich second generations or something.
Before he met Zhou Dongqi, he was also a trickster, and he only got one nomination for Best Supporting Actor.
Later, he joined the air government, although Zhou Dongqi was also there, but he belonged to the repertory troupe, Zhou Dongqi TV Art Center, and the two would not have any intersection in their work.
However, fate is always destined, and the two were once arranged to work together to rehearse a sketch.
Zhou Dongqi imagined a lot about her partner when she was waiting for her partner, but reality played a joke on her.
When she saw Lin Yongjian running over, she froze.
She looked at her partner and fell into deep thought, but Lin Yongjian said to her, "Haven't you seen my handsome guy yet?"
This humorous sentence immediately amused Zhou Dongqi, and she subconsciously thought that this was a very frivolous person.
But when it came time to rehearse, she realized that this person was not what she imagined.
He takes his work very seriously, and after a few collaborations, his opinion has changed a lot, and the two have become friends and have many common topics.
Later, Zhou Dongqi knew that his partner's family had been urging him to get married, so he helped him connect with friends around him and become a matchmaker, but it often ended in failure.
For this reason, Lin Yongjian ridiculed himself every time, saying that he was ugly.
But Zhou Dongqi comforted him and said that he couldn't just look at his appearance, saying that he would not give up and would continue to help him find it.
Lin Yongjian was very grateful to this good partner, and the relationship between the two gradually warmed up.
During a rehearsal, the turning point came.
Lin Yongjian received a call that his father was critically ill, and he said to Zhou Dongqi: "There is a little urgent matter at home, wait for me to come back and explain to you." So he ran to the hospital.
When he arrived at the hospital, the doctor told him about his father's condition, and when he arrived at the ward, he comforted him that there was nothing serious.
His father was very aware of his physical condition, and said, "I know what virtue I have, so I don't need you to fool me, you can tell me when you will get married, and I am still waiting to see you marry a daughter-in-law." ”
His father urged him to get married, Lin Yongjian thought about it and felt that it was time, even if he knew that Zhou Dongqi was chased by many people with superior conditions, he still decided to be brave once and show his heart.
So after settling his father, he went to find Zhou Dongqi and told her about his father's situation, and then the two exchanged pleasantries for a while.
In the end, he finally mustered up the courage to ask: "My father asked me to get married quickly, and no one else looked down on me, so you didn't dislike me, and helped me find a suitable one, I don't think you need to look for it, you are quite suitable, are you willing to be with me?"
Unexpectedly, he was silent in exchange, and just when he thought he was going to fail, he heard a "I do".
It turned out that Zhou Dongqi had already been tempted, and in this way, the two finally entered the palace of marriage.
Love is always beautiful, but marriage is a piece of chicken feathers in life......
Career has improved, and love has encountered a crisis
Lin Yongjian felt that he had to be a competent husband after getting married, so he worked hard to schedule the schedule, take over the show, and work hard to make money for the family.
He has never had any big expenses since he was a thrifty child, and his wife wants to eat popsicles, and they both have to be angry.
Zhou Dongqi couldn't understand his thrift engraved in his bones, and the contradictions between the two became more and more.
Lin Yongjian's mother couldn't stand it anymore, and persuaded him many times to care more about his wife, but he was vague every time and did not take practical action.
In addition, the two have lived in different environments since childhood, and many concepts in marriage are also different, so the relationship between the two is very weak, and they have quarreled many times, and their married life is not complete.
What's even more sad is that there is a scar in their marriage that will never heal, that is, they have lost their children twice, which almost led to the divorce of the two.
When Zhou Dongqi was pregnant for the first time, the two had just gotten married, and their careers were in a quiet period, there was no big improvement, and the money they earned was only enough for the two of them to barely survive.
So children are a big challenge for the family. After much entanglement, the two decided to have a miscarriage.
Afterwards, Lin Yongjian was very guilty and helpless, he said that he was old, and he didn't dare to ask for a small one anymore, and he had 30,000 yuan in his hand at that time, and he really didn't dare to raise a child, and he couldn't afford it.
After the miscarriage, the relationship between the two was also precarious, and both of them were silent in their marriage.
But fortunately, after Lin Yongjian participated in the sketch "Decoration" that year, his career finally ushered in a turning point.
His natural comedy face is also becoming more and more loved by the audience, and in the next few years, he has played the image of women's clothing many times, and the invitation to film has not been broken, and his career has been climbing.
After life began to be prosperous, they decided to have another child, so they soon had a second child of their own, and both of them were full of expectations for this child and prepared many things for this child.
But fate always seems to like to play tricks on people.
During the preparation for the national sketch competition, the two rehearsed for the competition many times, but Zhou Dongqi suddenly miscarried in this tight work arrangement.
The doctor said it was caused by overwork.
This news was undoubtedly bad news for the family, and both husband and wife were hit hard.
In an interview much later, the two were still very sad to mention the incident.
Lin Yongjian said that his mind was still blank when he participated in the competition, and Zhou Dongqi also said that he had never seen him so depressed.
In fact, it is understandable, after all, Lin Yongjian was almost forty years old at that time, and Zhou Dongqi was two years younger than him.
The loss of this child may mean that they will never have a biological child.
This is a very heavy blow to every family who is eagerly looking forward to having a child.
Lin Yongjian and his wife have been in grief for a long time, and the two can only comfort each other.
After that, both of them rarely mentioned the word "child", for fear of revealing that scar.
After that, in 2009, Lin Yongjian was nominated for the Magnolia Award, and won the Magnolia Award in 2010, successfully winning the title of Best Actor.
At least in his career, he still has some achievements, which can be regarded as a little comfort.
The arrival of a new life
Two years after losing her child, Zhou Dongqi became pregnant again, and this little life was like a clear spring in the desert for the two of them, bringing new hope to the family.
He took good care of his wife every day, for fear that something would go wrong.
During the whole pregnancy, he understood his wife's difficulties and was full of expectations for this child.
In this way, Lin Dajun came to this family in great anticipation, and the arrival of the child is the suture of the relationship between the two, and for Lin Yongjian, it is also his hard-won treasure.
He has always been very concerned about Lin Dajun's education, so he participated in the variety show "Where Are You Going, Dad".
Before he participated, he wanted to get to know his son better, and after participating, he realized the importance of his father's role in the family.
He also said that he really didn't get along with his son before, and he filmed all the scenes in 2013 and 2014, and he didn't take it after filming.
Minimize the time you spend at work and spend more time with your son.
After participating in "Where Are You Going, Dad", Lin Yongjian's works have become fewer and fewer, even if his son is liked by many people in the show, he did not let his son take the road of a child star, but gave the child a normal and ordinary childhood.
epilogue
In recent years, Lin Yongjian's works are very exquisite, and at the age of 54, he has gained in both career and love, and some people ask him how he is so successful?
He replied: "You have to work hard, keep striving for progress, and learn to cherish every step of the way you go." ”