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Recently, a post on the Reddit forum exploded, causing heated discussions among netizens.
The male protagonist of the post flew to his daughter's college with his wife last year to spend the weekend with his daughter, but missed the flight because his wife was in bed.
This year, history repeats itself, and his wife insisted on buying Starbucks coffee before boarding the plane, resulting in a missed flight. This time, the man left his wife behind and boarded the plane alone to go to his daughter's university.
After returning home, his wife ignored the male protagonist and called him a jerk.
The male protagonist just wants to ask, "Am I really a bastard?"
On the Reddit forum, a man posted a soul-touching torture question to netizens all over the Internet -
"Am I a jerk?"
Not long ago, the man and his wife were on a plane trip together.
But in the end, he was the only one who arrived at his destination on time.
His wife was furious and scolded him for being a bastard,
But he felt that he was not at fault, and that his wife was "too much".
What's going on?
I boarded the plane alone, leaving my wife behind. Am I a jerk?
The man boarded the plane alone,
Leave the wife who is late to buy coffee
"I boarded the plane alone, leaving my wife behind", judging by the title, the man is indeed a jerk,
actually left his wife and boarded the plane by himself, is there a bit of a man's responsibility?!
But if you think about it, it's not quite logical,
Even if the husband and wife quarrel before boarding, they are all a family, and the big deal is to board the plane first and then solve the problem, so that they won't get on the plane, right?
Why didn't the wife get on the plane, and why did the man leave his wife behind?
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The man explained what happened on Reddit, and let's hear about the man's experience.
The male protagonist of the story is 47 years old, and his wife Meg is 4 years younger than him, 43 years old.
The two have a 21-year-old daughter, Jess, who is the daughter of the male protagonist and his ex-wife.
Last year, my daughter was a freshman in another state, and my excellent daughter soon became one of the school's employees and lived in the school's dormitory.
After the summer vacation, she will move out of the dormitory and rent a house on her own.
The purpose of the two trips this time is to take advantage of their parents' weekend vacation to go to the location of their daughter's university and spend a warm weekend with their daughter.
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The male protagonist first made an analysis of his character.,
He calls himself a Type A personality (I don't know which personality test it is) and he likes to keep things organized,
Do things in a step-by-step manner and be very punctual.
His wife, on the other hand, is a more casual person, who says she "goes with the flow", likes to "talk about it when the time comes", and always talks about "plans can't catch up with changes".
In life, the male protagonist accommodates his wife everywhere and will reserve extra time for his wife in the plan.
"But that's not the case with plane travel, which doesn't wait for you. ”
This time, the male protagonist is unwilling to compromise anymore.
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Today last year, in order to see his daughter early, the male protagonist and his wife booked a ticket at 10 o'clock in the morning, and they had to transfer once on the way.
The airport in their city is not big, but it is not small, and there is a lot of traffic.
The male protagonist told his wife before departure that it was best for them to arrive at the airport 90 minutes early to check in, and their home is a 30-minute drive from the airport.
In other words, it is best for the two to leave home 2 hours in advance.
According to this time plan, the two should be ready to go out before 8 o'clock, because it also takes time to wait for the bus and check in.
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In the morning, the male protagonist got up at 6 o'clock to tidy up and make sure he wouldn't be late.
And his wife, who had always been inclined to lie in bed, had been sleepy in bed.
The male protagonist tried to wake his wife up, and after 5 more reluctant attempts,
The wife finally got up around 7:40.
Everyone understands that all kinds of sassy operations before women go out are really hard for the male protagonist to explain......
After the wife gets up, she starts to take a bath, wash up, put on makeup, eat breakfast, drink coffee,
It wasn't until 9 o'clock that the two were able to go out.
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After arriving at the airport, the male protagonist found that because it was a weekend, the airport was busier than usual.,
The check-in counter was full of passengers, and there was a long queue at the security checkpoint.
There's no way.,The male owner can only stand in the team with his wife and squirm forward little by little like a snail.,
Not surprisingly, they missed their 10 o'clock flight.
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The male protagonist contacted the airline, and the airline said, you two didn't control the time yourself, and it was my business to miss the plane.
There's no way.,The man and his wife can only buy a ticket for the next day and start over.,
But have missed Friday afternoons and Saturday mornings with my daughter's happy hour.
男主称，“Jess很失望”。
This year, it's another parents' weekend, and the man and his wife are going to fly to another state to reunite with their daughter, and it's at this airport again.
Of course, there was another accident......
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As mentioned above, my daughter will move out of the school dormitory after the summer vacation and go out to rent an apartment by herself.
The purpose of the male protagonist and his wife's trip is to help their daughter move.
This time, the male protagonist specially reminded his wife in advance that she must get up on time and go to the airport early to avoid missing the plane again.
Fortunately, this time, the wife did not lie in bed again because of her hard work, and the two came to the airport early, and there was still plenty of time.
But my wife wasn't very happy all the way and kept complaining that she had to wait 45 minutes before boarding the plane.
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In any case, the two finally caught the first flight,
The plane landed at a larger airport in the transit city, and the two needed to transfer to their destination.
The male protagonist said that they got off the plane at about 9:15 and started boarding at 9:40 on the next plane.
By the time they arrived at the gate, it was only 15 minutes before boarding.
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15 minutes, honestly wait for it to pass, the most important thing is to avoid missing the plane,
And the man's wife seems to be reluctant to do this.
She suddenly told the male protagonist that she especially wanted to drink coffee, and if she didn't drink it, she wouldn't be able to make trouble.
The male protagonist looked around and found that there was a small supermarket next to the boarding gate where you could buy cooked food and coffee.
He said that he went to the small supermarket to help his wife buy coffee.
My wife glanced at the small supermarket, how can this kind of small supermarket with beautiful corners be worthy of everyone's beautiful me?!
A woman can't bow her head! Otherwise, the crown will fall! The old lady wants to drink—
Star!
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However, Starbucks is located far from the gate,
You'll need to take a shuttle bus and walk a little further to get there.
However, no matter how the male protagonist persuades, the wife only has a categorical sentence, "No, I just want to drink Starbucks." ”
In the end, the male protagonist couldn't resist his wife, so he could only let her buy Starbucks alone.
Before leaving, the wife also said that she promised to come back on time to board the plane.
However, 15 minutes passed quickly, and in a blink of an eye, it was time to board again.
But his wife didn't show up for a long time.
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Last year's scenes appeared in the male protagonist's mind like a movie, and this year it won't be missed again, right?
Seeing that the staff in front of him had begun to organize boarding, the male protagonist hurriedly called his wife, but his wife didn't answer.
After a while, the crew has already begun to urge the passengers who did not board the plane, and called several passengers who did not board, including the male protagonist!
The anxious and embarrassed male protagonist dialed 3 consecutive life-threatening calls to his wife, and his wife finally answered the phone.
He also said that he had been delayed by queuing up to buy coffee for some time and was on his way.
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At this time, the crew had clearly told the male protagonist that the boarding gate was about to close in 2 minutes.
The male protagonist looked left and right, his forehead was full of beads of sweat, but there was no trace of his wife.
The crew asked the male protagonist again if he wanted to board the plane, and if he didn't board, the boarding gate would be closed.
This time, the male protagonist stood up, he looked into the distance, and there was still no wife.
He took a big stride and stepped into the gate without looking back.
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Sitting on the plane, the male protagonist received a call from his wife,
His wife anxiously told him that the staff would not let her board the plane and that the boarding ramp had been removed.
At the same time, his wife made a request to him,
"She told me I needed to tell them (the crew) to let me get off the plane and go with her, and I refused. ”
The male protagonist told his wife to let her buy a ticket for the next flight by herself.
And I will pick her up at the airport.
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The male protagonist said that if he got off the plane this time to accompany his wife on the plane from work, then he would have to delay the weekend with his daughter, and it was likely to delay the move.
It's not fair to the daughter.
Moreover, he has warned his wife many times that going to buy Starbucks will lead to missed flights.
But the wife insisted on going.
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Eventually, the man picked up his wife at the airport in his daughter's city and took her to his daughter's school.
Throughout the weekend, several people were busy playing and moving, and the wife only said that he missed the plane.
The male protagonist thinks that his wife realizes that she is wrong, so he turns the page and doesn't want to bring up the old things again.
Unexpectedly, his wife was the queen of the autumn to settle accounts.
For more than a week after returning home, his wife didn't take the initiative to say a word to the male protagonist, and this cold violence was colder than the Siberian winter......
The only thing his wife said to him was to scold the male protagonist for being a bastard.
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The purpose of the male protagonist to send this post is to hope that netizens will judge it,
"Am I really a jerk?"
originally thought that this would be a large-scale pastoral feminist boxing scene,
But unexpectedly, netizens began to empathize with the male protagonist......
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Man asks for help online,
Many netizens said they had similar experiences
There are many netizens who said, male protagonist, you are not fighting alone.
A netizen said,
"The first time we missed the plane, I decided to leave my significant other alone! I explained to him that he was an adult and had the ability to choose. After that, he missed his plane twice, and the third time he missed a 10-day cruise. He hasn't been late since... By the way, I'm not a jerk. ”
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This comment quickly received 2.1k likes, and it seems that many people agree with this netizen's opinion.
There are also netizen replies below,
I actually missed it three times! I really laughed at it......
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There are also netizens who analyzed the male protagonist's wife,
"You're not a jerk, she knows that. She's silent to force you to act like a jerk, you just have to pretend you don't care. ”
Good guy, this is a psychoanalyst, who analyzes his wife's psychological changes clearly,
also gave the male protagonist a bad move.
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Another netizen began to ridicule the male protagonist's wife,
"Haha, how does she usually work? Does she have a job? To me, you're not that asshole. ”
yes, how do such unpunctual people usually work?
Didn't work teach her punctuality?
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There are also netizens below who have raised the same question,
"I also want to know, doesn't she have to get up early to send her children to school? Or is this all done by the male protagonist?"
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A netizen said that the male protagonist should draw a line with his wife,
Be clear about what you need to accomplish in your life.
"You're not a jerk, but you need to draw the line. Sit down and tell your wife that you love her and cherish her, but it's too much for her to disrespect your desire to be on time. ”
"Tell her that from now on, you'll make your own arrangements when you travel. You don't need to be responsible for getting her out of bed. You don't need to be responsible for urging her out. She's an adult and can do what she wants. I guess the first time she completely missed an event, things could change. But you've accommodated her enough before that she can act like a child. ”
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Some netizens said that the male protagonist's wife is too selfish,
And this may be due to the male protagonist's doting on his wife.
"You're not a jerk, but your wife is too selfish. Imagine that you would miss out on time with your kids because of a cup of coffee? and when you moved. Your only option is to stop doting on your wife, and obviously, people do. She needs to learn to start on time or she will fall behind. The world doesn't revolve around her, it's time for her to grow. ”
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The comment area is all about helping the male protagonist speak,
Many netizens said that the male protagonist is not a bastard, and this is obviously his wife's problem.
The wife takes herself too seriously and thinks that the people around her will revolve around her.
But in fact, she was no more important than the other passengers on the plane.
The male protagonist also made a unified reply after reading the comments.,
It can be seen from the reply that the male protagonist is still defending his wife.
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The male protagonist first expressed his gratitude to netizens, thanking many people for understanding him and helping him speak.
Secondly, the male protagonist said,
The wife has a formal job, and she is never late for work and is very punctual,
It's just that travel seems to be her "poverty zone", and she only loses the concept of time when she travels.
Regarding the netizen's claim that his wife "has some kind of addiction", the man also denied it.
Finally, he explained the relationship between his wife and daughter.
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The male protagonist said that his daughter thinks that his wife is always late because she doesn't like her.
Because the daughter is not born to the wife, but the child of the male protagonist and his ex-wife.
But every time, the male protagonist proposes to go to see his daughter alone, his wife will object, and insists on visiting his daughter with the male protagonist.
So the male protagonist thinks that the wife doesn't want to see her daughter,
And the attitude towards her daughter is quite friendly.
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Punctuality can be one of the major shortcomings of human life,
People who are not punctual sometimes always give people a feeling of helplessness and scorn.
I believe that the male protagonist left his wife and went to his daughter's college alone, just to teach his wife a lesson,
Let her know that someone who is not punctual has something to lose.
Friends, do you think, is the male protagonist a bastard?
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A man's Reddit post sparked widespread discussion among netizens.
He said that last year, he and his wife went to visit their daughter at the university.
But because his wife was lying in bed, the two missed the flight.
This year, I flew with my wife to help my daughter move.
But his wife missed the plane because she bought Starbucks.
This time, he didn't wait for his wife and boarded the plane alone to go to his daughter's university.
Source: Sky News
When he got home, his wife ignored him for a week and called him a jerk.
He couldn't get angry, so he came to Reddit to post an explanation.
The comments of netizens are almost one-sided, accusing the wife of being unpunctual and supporting the male protagonist's approach.
What do you guys think about this?