Mom, she doesn't play with me, if you say you won't play if you don't play, it's not uncommon for us to say, or what else will she say, why won't he play with you... When a child encounters this situation, how should we, as parents, guide him, this time is actually a test of the emotional intelligence of parents, how to help him get through this small setback?
1. Learn to help children change their minds
Children can feel low and confused in the face of rejection, and they can't understand why someone doesn't like them. At this time, we should listen patiently, open the child's heart knot, and tell him that other friends don't play with you, and the baby is very uncomfortable, right? Mom and Dad also encountered this situation when they were young, and they didn't like you, but they weren't familiar with you enough. We need to help our child change his mind and make him understand that this is not entirely his problem.
2. Determine whether the child is isolated
Friendships between children are often collective, so find out if the child is being excluded by one child or if the whole group is isolating him. This is essential to prevent bullying from happening. Tell your child that if someone deliberately isolates you and excludes you, whatever the reason, it must be their fault, not yours. You're good, Mom and Dad will always be on your side.
3. Teach children to take the initiative
If your child is shy, we can help him push forward slowly. Accompany him over, ask random questions, and try to take the initiative to join the discussion. Instead of saying "can I play with you guys" right out, start by observing, complimenting them on what they're doing, and then asking questions related to the activity. Taking the initiative to contribute to the collective is also a good way to get closer to each other.
Rejection is just a small step on the road to making friends, not the end. When your child is facing frustration in making friends, we can provide him with more support and guidance through these three tips. Let your child learn to cope and turn this small setback into an opportunity for growth. #Child Growth# #Education Experience# #Friendship Experience# #Parents# #小心经营孩子心理#