A man's affection for you can be expressed by the way he calls you, and the more intimate he is, the more important your place in his heart is.
But if he changes his name to you and is no longer intimate, you need to be a little more crisis-conscious.
Hu Meiling, 24 years old, employee of a state-owned enterprise: My boyfriend doesn't call me now, he can't tell me anything directly, and he can't even call me by my full name.
My boyfriend and I were college classmates, and I took the initiative to pursue him, and then he was impressed by me.
When I think back to my previous school days, I was the most carefree at that time, and even if my living expenses were not enough, I would be happy to eat a bowl of noodles together.
But now, I am much more materially abundant, but my feelings are not as sincere as before.
My boyfriend and I are in a long-distance relationship now, and we are both busy with work and don't spend much time together.
I didn't see each other offline, and most of them chatted online, but I found that he was even chatting online very perfunctory now.
He always hung up early under the pretext that he was busy and tired, and I don't know what he was busy with.
Maybe he hung up the phone and went to play games by himself or went out with friends.
He used to call me "dear", "baby", etc., but now he doesn't call me that way.
Not even my full name, I haven't heard him call me in a long time, he just says everything.
Even though it's so familiar that I don't need to engage in those formalities, I still feel left out.
I always felt that he didn't take me as seriously as before, and he didn't care about me as much as he used to, and the relationship between us became more and more estranged.
You Lijiao, 25 years old, legal affairs: My boyfriend now calls me "you", without any intimate nickname, he has really changed a lot.
My boyfriend and I were introduced to each other by a friend, and he fell in love with me at first sight and pursued me madly after the first meeting.
And I saw that he was actually quite good-looking, and he valued me enough, so I agreed to be with him.
When I first fell in love, he was really nice to me and tried to make me happy every day.
He always called me "little princess" and "little girl", and he doted on me, and I also enjoyed the feeling of being taken care of by him.
However, he doesn't treat me at all like he used to now, and sometimes when I ask him to be intimate, he will deliberately avoid it.
I asked him to call me "dear" or not let him hang the video, and he would rather be there than call me that.
It seemed to me that he was so resistant to being so close to me that I had to suspect that he had changed his mind, but I didn't find any clues.
He called me "you" as if he were communicating with a stranger, without any emotion at all.
He was so attentive to me when he pursued me, and now he is so cold to me, this change is quite unacceptable to me.
I was caught up in extreme internal friction and repeatedly clinged to his attitude towards me, which was really uncomfortable.
A man's feelings will change, no matter how much he loves you at first, you have to have an expectation that he will also become less loving you in the future.
Have a prepared mentality, so that you won't be so uncomfortable when the time comes.
Chen Yuanrui, 24 years old, primary school teacher: My boyfriend keeps calling me "fat girl", and I have said that I don't like this name, but he still looks indifferent.
Throughout my adolescence, I was very fat, and my friends around me nicknamed me and laughed at me.
At that time, the psychology was relatively fragile, in fact, it was difficult to digest these negative emotions, and they had been accumulated in the heart.
When I was studying, I always had low self-esteem and didn't want to socialize with others, thinking that they all looked down on me from the bottom of their hearts.
When I entered college, I started to lose weight desperately and become a normal body.
Although it is a small thing, it still has a great impact on me, and I feel sad in my heart when I talk about it.
I also told my boyfriend about my experience, and at the time he expressed understanding and comforted me not to dwell on the pain of the past.
I thought he would understand me and empathize with me, but obviously I was thinking too much.
He would call me "fat girl", and he knew that I was very sensitive to the word "fat", and he usually paid extra attention to my diet.
He knew my past, and he knew that I couldn't let go, but he poured salt in my wounds.
I could sense that he was doing it on purpose, and when I got angry, he would say that I was too stingy, as if I didn't measure.
He just made me angry, I don't know what his psychology was, but it really affected my mood.
When you are in love, men call you "dear", "daughter-in-law", etc., and when you don't love, he doesn't even want to call you by your full name.
The way a man calls you is a direct sign of a change in his attitude towards you, stop deceiving yourself and think that he still loves you.